second: white lies are a way of life and a reflection of the quality of being considerate.
The relatives and friends of a terminally ill patient always tell his illness lightly with white lies, encouraging him to cooperate with doctors. I believe everyone here will not accuse them of dishonesty, will they? ! On the contrary, it is malicious and true. A prisoner was lured by the enemy to tell his own troop deployment. Does anyone think he is honest? Sincerity to the enemy is betrayal to the country!
The director of forensic expertise department of Guangzhou Brain Hospital said: "Lying is an instinct of human beings. As for honesty, the key lies with which kind."
a lie that refuses to love without directly hurting the suitor; An expressive lie that is not willing to disappoint the inviter under the hospitality of a man is indispensable in interpersonal communication. It makes us more comfortable in dealing with the world, not like a hard stone with many edges, which cuts others' heads and bruises ourselves.
It can be seen that people need a layer of protective color and lubrication. Since being expelled from the Garden of Eden, people have not been naked but surrounded by bark and grass leaves, haven't they?
Third: Although a white lie is a kind of lie, it will definitely hinder honesty if you can't tell a lie. We should analyze the specific problems.
Honesty is respected by everyone because it is kind and does not cheat. On the surface, a white lie seems to hinder the principle of honesty, but in essence, it exists because telling the truth hinders the principle of kindness.
White lies and honesty are actually the relationship of unity of opposites, and the so-called violation just provides a beneficial supplement to honesty, not an obstacle. For example, it is stipulated that pedestrians in the same direction can only occupy half of the road, which does not hinder everyone's passage!
fourth: a world without lies is like a dust-free earth. We agree that a white lie does not hinder honesty, which does not mean that we advocate it. The key lies in the degree.
Statement:
What is lying? If it is indiscriminate, it is defined as: not seeking truth from facts, telling lies, exaggerating, covering up and distorting the truth. Then our life is full of lies, big and small, from inflammatory advertisements to sweet words between lovers, all of which are full of exaggerated words, and even Lian Wenxue's works have become lies. Everyone has a standard of lying in his heart. How to grasp this degree is our first consideration. Compared with lies with bad motives, white lies will make people's feelings more harmonious, harmonious and life more interesting. It can skillfully avoid conflicts and realize emotional communication and smooth communication. How can it hinder honesty?
Therefore, we should learn to distinguish malicious lies and protect ourselves from harm. At the same time, improve your self-cultivation and think about the best way to solve the problem. "The way of university lies in Mingde, being close to the people, and ending in perfection". As for those that are warm and make life full of interest; As for those lies full of kindness and compassion, let them bloom!
I believe that under the sky of goodwill, our world will be better! !
We teach children not to lie, but many people forget to tell them that there is another kind of white lie in the world. Good people think about how many times we have told white lies in order not to embarrass others, to make them feel uncomfortable or to make themselves feel ashamed. We lied, but we are kind people!
The world is not so pure. Innocence is scarce. Everything requires innocence. People are naive. The pursuit of innocence is mostly deceptive. Too many people who tell the so-called truth naked are shameless people.
White lies. The center of gravity is goodwill, which will be valuable.
but you can't deny the truth.
if you are told, you will be ashamed and angry, but you will lose your goodwill and leak out. . . .
Example:
When a terminally ill patient is sentenced to death by a doctor, his parents, lovers, children and all relatives will not directly tell him, "Life is beyond saving" or "How long can I live in this world at most". Although all these are true, who will tell the truth to the relatives who are already in pain as cruelly as the judge sentenced the prisoner to death? At this time, everyone will form a United front, keep silent about the truth, and use white lies to make patients full of hope for treatment, so that patients can spend the rest of their lives in a peaceful mind. Does this hinder honesty?
when a child who is not in harmony with the world suddenly encounters misfortune and loses his loved ones, how can he explain to him where his loved ones have gone? We think the best way is: don't tell him the real situation for the time being, just talk about going on a business trip to a distant place, or studying and working abroad. When the child is sensible and has a certain tolerance, he will tell the truth, and the child will understand the practice of his loved ones and will not be angry because he did not know the truth early. Don't such words also hinder the integrity!
When the mother of a soldier who is on a mission in other places is terminally ill and dying, I wish I could see my son for the last time. However, my son can't come back, and he can't do a little filial piety for his old mother and take care of his mother who once broke his heart for his son. He is very sorry and very nostalgic. The old mother understands her son very well and tells her relatives around her that she should not tell her distant son after she left, and should not distract him. She should say that her condition is stable and let him feel at ease and do his best for the country. Don't such white lies hinder honesty!
In the late 195s and early 196s, there was a dispute between China and the former Soviet Union. The government of the former Soviet Union tore up the contract and withdrew its experts, which made our country's industry once paralyzed. In order to pay off the debts owed to the former Soviet Union, Chairman Mao called on the people to practice steel and launched an unprecedented Great Leap Forward. At that time, no one in China knew that our country was still in debt to others, thinking that our country was liberated. Will live a carefree life, but the party and state leaders shouldered this burden. At that time, the lies told by the state leaders to the people were well-intentioned and honest. At that time, the people in China worked hard without any pressure, creating an unprecedented miracle. At that time, the Iron Man Wang Jinxi was created, and Wang Jinxi led his oil drilling team and drilled our first oil well in China ...
Second, Talking about us personally, I'll give you two small examples here:
I read a TV report that an old mother had kidney disease, and her life would be threatened if she didn't get a kidney transplant. At this moment, her eldest son stood up and asked to donate her kidney, which really hurt her. The old mother strongly opposed it, saying that if so, she might as well die. There was no way but to wait for a kidney source with matching conditions, but it was really necessary to wait for such a kidney source. My son was afraid of delaying his mother's illness, so after consulting with his family, he cheated his mother. He donated one of his young kidneys to his mother. After the operation was successful, his family kept it from the old mother. The most touching thing was that her mother and her son lived in the next ward, and her mother didn't know it. When her mother wanted to see her eldest son, her family just lied to her that her son had gone on a business trip. After reading this report, I was moved to tears. Friends, isn't such a lie a hindrance to honesty?
A little girl with leukemia, in the later stage of her life, when the doctor asked her what her greatest wish was, she said that she wanted to go to Tiananmen Square to see the flag-raising ceremony. What reason can doctors and parents not satisfy the last wish of a dying girl? However, because her family lives in distant Xinjiang, if she meets her requirements, the doctor is afraid that the girl can't stand the fatigue of the journey, so a collective activity of fabricating lies organized by more than 2, volunteers, doctors and the girl's family began. From boarding the train to taking a tour bus, along the way, from the newspaper station to the waiter serving tea, and even to the conversation of the passengers, everyone deliberately arranged it. Finally, they came to a school, accompanied by the national anthem of a military band. The blind girl thought that she had really come to the long-awaited Tiananmen Square. When she saw that she was unable to raise her little hand to salute the direction of the national flag, all the people present shed tears. This time, the collective lying action organized by more than 2, people, can you say that their white lies hinder integrity?
Also, many elderly people are not feeling well and refuse to let their children know at the first time, for fear of affecting their normal work and study! Many children say they don't hurt when they fall, in order to let their parents say they are brave! There are many women who are quietly dedicated behind successful people. They are tired and never complain, so that their husbands can do their work better with peace of mind and care less for their families ...
Positive.