There was once a question that caused a hot discussion among netizens: Will it be easy for rural men to get married after being admitted to civil servants?

It seems to be a boring question, but the following anonymous answer makes this question inexplicably angry.

The netizen who answered anonymously gave the Phoenix men a wonderful lesson with his own experience and "wisdom". His core idea is: it is easy to get married after being admitted to a civil servant, but it is not so easy to get married. Learn to operate, and you can "turn over completely" after doing well.

In his eyes, marriage is not the end of a love, but the starting point for him to change his destiny. Marriage was used by him as a bargaining chip. And he himself is an important resource for this investment.

In his answer, all the plots are interlocking, and the ultimate goal is only one: to extract the woman's resources for my use and finally help me get rid of the farm gate!

After reading this man's answer, I couldn't help breaking out in a cold sweat. On the one hand, I am afraid of this scheming Phoenix man, on the other hand, I feel sorry for the woman who will marry him in the future. If a woman really marries this kind of Phoenix man who has no feelings but only calculation, I believe everyone can know how painful life after marriage is.

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When marriage becomes a transaction and calculation, what should the purpose of marriage become? What will the feelings between husband and wife become? All these should be considered.

The horror of Phoenix Man lies in his understanding of abnormal marriage view and his pursuit of utilitarian marriage. When a woman marries him, everything about a woman, including everything about her parents, will be calculated by him. This behavior is the most intolerable. That's why there is the famous saying "marry a man but not a phoenix man".

Speaking of Phoenix Man, reader liu ling feels that he has the most say. Because she once fell in love with a phoenix man and almost married him. It was not until the last moment that she woke up in time and retired, thus avoiding the tragedy.

Liu Lin said frankly, "Women fall in love with Phoenix Man because they do have many advantages. And the hidden shortcomings are also the most unbearable for women. Not only that, the family environment of Phoenix Man is also complicated, and it is easy for a woman to help the poor by marrying him. "

Liu Lin's remarks are to the point, which shows that she really knows the Phoenix Man. According to her experience, the process is also very tortuous, which makes people feel very worried.

Liu Lin asked me to write her story, just to warn women all over the world, never choose to marry Phoenix man because of impulse, because life after marriage is unbearable.

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Liu Lin's ex-boyfriend Jia Yu is a real Phoenix man. At the beginning, because two people worked in the same unit, they belonged to civil servants. Get to know each other. In addition, Jiayu is really excellent, with strong business ability and smooth manners. The whole company appreciates this young man.

As a peer, Liu Lin also admires and appreciates Jia Yu. She heard from colleagues that Jia Yu's family was poor, his hometown was rural, his parents were farmers, and his younger brother was studying. The whole family depends on him for support. Colleagues said these things and shook their heads and sighed: "If it weren't for family problems, I would have introduced him to my girlfriend."

Liu Lin thinks that family background is not the problem, but talent is the key. Only one man is self-motivated, even if his family is poor. He will definitely change by his own efforts.

In fact, Liu Lin thinks so because she doesn't understand the meaning of poverty. She was born in a middle-class family, her father is a university professor and her mother is a doctor. The family is rich. Growing up, no matter what Liu Lin wanted, her parents would try their best to satisfy her. So she can't understand poverty at all.

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Jia Yu and she are actually people in two worlds, one is desperately running for a living, and the other is naive and ignorant human suffering. But these two kinds of people came together by accident.

Liu Lin likes Jiayu very much, because Jiayu knows her mind, which will make her happy and make her feel that this is love. Of course, in this relationship, Liu Lin's contribution is mostly material. As a spoiled young lady, she naturally doesn't know how to care about people, and all she can give is money.

When two people are together, almost all of them spend money on Liu Lin. Liu Lin is also willing to spend money on good reputation. Liu ling knew that Jia Yu's monthly salary and most of the money he earned from part-time jobs were remitted home. She also understands Jia Yu's difficulties. So I have been reluctant to let him spend money. Jia Yu never spends money with a clear conscience.

Two people have been in love for more than a year, and both sides feel that they know each other almost, so they begin to prepare for marriage.

It was also at this time that something went wrong. Liu Lin's parents heard that their daughter was going to marry Phoenix, and they didn't agree. So Liu Lin argued with her parents for a long time, but neither side could convince the other.

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While Liu Lin was worried about this, Jia Yu's family gave her another problem.

Jia Yu's family heard that their son was getting married, so they came from their hometown to meet their in-laws. But I didn't know that Liu Lin's parents didn't agree to this marriage at all. So Liu Lin had to meet her future in-laws.

At the first sight of her future mother-in-law, Liu Lin had a bad feeling. The future mother-in-law looks at her like a hungry wolf and wants to eat her alive.

Sure enough, after Liu Lin sat down, several people exchanged pleasantries for a while, and the future mother-in-law began to cry: "Daughter-in-law, you know our family is poor. Married, I can't afford a house or a bride price. But don't worry, you will be happy when you marry my son. My son is so excellent that it is only a matter of time before he makes big money in the future. "

Liu Lin understood her mother-in-law's words and felt a little excited, so she didn't say anything.

The mother-in-law looked at her and continued: "But there are still difficulties at this stage. Why do you have to have a house to get married? " My son is a civil servant, and he must have a bright future. I heard that your family is very rich. In this case, you can do more work and marry two houses! "

Hearing this, Liu Lin got a little angry: "What? Want me to marry two houses? "

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The future mother-in-law explained: "Yes, because my son is an excellent civil servant, you are right to marry two houses. One for you and one for me and your father-in-law. Don't worry, my son will succeed in the future. These are small money. "

Looking at this mother-in-law who insisted that "my son is a civil servant", Liu Lin could see that her confidence was bursting. You can blackmail you just because you think your son is a civil servant.

Originally, parents didn't agree with Liu Lin, but they thought it was their parents' feudalism. So it seems that this kind of family really can't get married. Before they got married, they had calculated the family property. What moths are there after marriage?

Thinking of this, Liu Lin stood up and said, "Sorry, my family can't marry him. I am also a civil servant. No big deal. If you want to marry me, you must buy a house and a car, and the bride price is 500 thousand. Otherwise I won't marry! "

After hearing liu ling's words, Jia Yu and his parents' faces changed. At that time, the two sides broke up in discord.

Then Liu Lin and Jiayu naturally broke up. But this relationship gave Liu a warning, that is, never choose a Phoenix man as a boyfriend or husband.

Because of his selfishness, his family background is beyond the capacity of a normal woman. This is the fact that too many women have exchanged their own blood and tears.