There is a saying in Zuo Zhuan: "People are not saints, to err?"

In this world, it is human nature to make mistakes. Some mistakes let us learn from them and keep growing.

And some mistakes will bring fatal harm to yourself.

You know, life is like chess. If you take a good step, you will have no regrets and make some mistakes. One wrong step, one wrong life.

Mistake temper for character

"Caigen Tan" says: "Being impetuous, favoring one thing over the other, achieving nothing."

What kind of temper a person has, what kind of fate he will have. People with good temper, people with smooth life, and people with bad temper are naturally bumpy.

Temper is a person's best feng shui. When temper comes, happiness slips away. If you want to stay happy, you must first learn to control your temper.

In life, many people mistakenly brand their temper with personality, and after they get angry, they don't forget to say, "This is my personality."

But I don't know, if I don't manage my temper well, my good luck and luck will slip away invisibly, and disaster will come quietly.

This was the case with Zhang Fei during the Three Kingdoms period. Every time he finished drinking, he flew into a rage and took it out on his subordinates.

After a long time, public anger is hard to calm down. Finally, one night, two men cut off their heads and turned to Wu Dong.

You know, everyone's patience is limited. If you are angry blindly and vent your dissatisfaction, you will only be bitten in the end.

Zeng Guofan, the eternal perfect man, also made this mistake. When he was young, he was frivolous and often clashed with people because of some trivial things.

At work, he was relieved of military power for three years because of his bad temper. Later, after being reminded by friends and corrected in time, I finally won the title of "the first perfect person in history" and my career was brilliant all the way.

Wang Yangming once said: "Narrowness of mind is the bane, and broadmindedness is the door to happiness."

Bad temper is often the beginning of disaster, and a broad mind is the source of good luck. In this life, people win in kindness and lose in temper.

When you learn to control your temper, you can control your life. Happiness can surround you when you know how to be kind to others.

Only by managing your emotions and controlling your temper can you make your life full of sunshine.

Mistake the platform for skills

Wang Yangming said: "Today's people are sick, and a large part is just pride. All kinds of crimes are out of pride. "

A person's greatest stupidity is arrogance, misplacement of his position and confusion of his own strength.

I always regard Tianli as my own, always mistake the platform for my own strength, but I don't know that this is the beginning of the disaster.

Yun-peng Yue, a famous crosstalk performer, once lost his way when he first became popular.

When he first became popular, many crews asked him to film. Faced with the temptation of interests, Yun-peng Yue's heart began to swell, and the whole person became confused.

Fortunately, at this time, Degang Guo's words awakened him.

Tell him that others are looking for him to film, not because he is so good at acting, but because he has a reputation for cross talk in Deyun Society, and he can add color to his play.

After listening to the teacher's instruction, Yun-peng Yue immediately felt ashamed. From then on, he practiced cross talk in a down-to-earth manner. After ten years of tempering and suffering, he finally became a crosstalk artist who holds up half the sky.

It is conceivable that if Yun-peng Yue had given up cross talk, he would have disappeared from the public by now.

People, never take yourself too seriously. There are people outside, and one day behind, someone praises you, and someone steps on you.

Laozi once told us: "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise."

When you are alive, it is true wisdom to recognize the cleverness of others and yourself.

Too high a self-esteem will be hated, too low a self-esteem will be despised, and it is just right to be neither heavy nor heavy.

Only by recognizing one's own identity and status, being neither arrogant nor impetuous, boasting nor showing off, can the road of life go further and further.

Mistake bad friends for best friends.

Zeng Guofan once said: "The success or failure of a lifetime is related to the merits and demerits of friends, so we should not be careless."

Friends decide the fate of our life, good friends lead us to the glory of life, and bad friends pull us to the abyss.

The greatest misfortune in life is to have a bad friend and mistake him for your best friend.

Before traveling around the world, Confucius was a commander-in-chief in Lu, and during his term of office, Lu was in very good condition.

At this time, King Lu and King Qi made friends. From then on, he was either addicted to beauty or binge drinking.

Confucius tried hard to persuade him, but instead complained about his meddling. Since then, Lu has gradually declined.

Xunzi said: "A gentleman should not take advantage of ministers, and a villain should not take advantage of friends."

It is especially important to make friends with people close to Zhu Zhechi and Mexico.

Good friends will make your personality constantly improve and grow, while bad friends will make you suffer unexpected involvement and injury, and eventually fall into the abyss.

People often say that to make friends carefully, you should first stay away from bad friends, those fair-weather friends and those who will bring you negative emotions.

Many people ruin their lives by making friends. This is the case of Sun Bin in history, and so is the case of Jiangge today.

As the saying goes, "water the flowers and roots and make friends."

When dealing with people, we must keep our eyes open. Don't mistake a villain for a confidant and a bad friend for a best friend.

Only by choosing a good friend can life bloom its own splendor.

In this life, everyone's practice is lifelong. It doesn't matter if you go astray occasionally, sometimes you will be confused when you make mistakes.

But mistaking temper for character and indulging yourself infinitely will eventually get into trouble;

Mistake the platform for skills, be arrogant, and eventually fall badly;

Mistakenly treat a bad friend as a close friend, trust others, and eventually play with fire and set yourself on fire.

Therefore, whenever and wherever you make any decision, you should walk and think.

You know, life has never been rehearsed, and there is no chance of regret if you make a mistake.

Life is never easy, and reflection while walking is the right way!

From then on, avoid the three major mistakes in life, take every step and make life smooth!

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