Someone asked on Zhihu: Why are the smarter people less gregarious?

One upvoted reply: "It's not that they are unsociable, they just don't blindly follow the herd!"

I deeply agree. It's not that they have eccentric personalities, nor are they difficult to get along with, they just prefer Be alone.

Observing smart people in life, you will find that they are easy to get to know and have no barriers to communication. However, when you want to interact with them more deeply, there is always a layer of veil between them.

It is said that the highest state of life is inner richness and peace. This state can only be achieved when you are alone.

Smart people often rarely socialize. It’s not that they don’t like to make friends, but they have their own choices for friends and don’t waste time building connections.

As Wang Shimin, the author of "Thinking Power" said:

Before your value has been effectively established, don't waste energy on the circle. If you have no exchange value, all social interactions will be useless. is invalid.

Smart people only associate with people of the same frequency

The ancients said: "Birds of a feather flock together, and people flock together."

As Bill Gates said :

"The world does not care about your self-esteem, it only cares about your achievements, and then emphasizes your feelings."

Life is cruel and realistic, your Ability is not worthy of possession, and the connections you have worked so hard to cultivate have no value at all.

Life is not a one-man show. There is mutuality between people. No one wants to be compatible with others all the time, and no one can always look up.

A good relationship is one that is evenly matched, and only people of the same frequency can come together.

Time is limited, leave it to important people and things

Jobs said: "Your time is limited, don't live for others, don't be limited by dogma, don't live for others In this concept, be brave enough to follow your own heart and intuition. ”

Life is short, and we don’t need to compromise ourselves to please others.

Don’t waste energy on meaningless things, cherish the present and focus on the areas you are good at.

Feng Jicai once said: "Mediocre people fill their emptiness with excitement, and outstanding people achieve themselves by being alone."

The rest of your life is not long. It is better to strengthen yourself than to please others, which will not extend your life. Length can expand the width and thickness of life.

Don’t waste time on irrelevant people, don’t expend energy on meaningless things. It’s better to be alone than to socialize with rubbish, and it’s better to have two or three close friends than to have friends all over the world.

The smarter the person, the more he knows how to leave time for important people and things in his limited life.

Good connections have quality and value

Han Han once said: "How far a person can go depends on who he travels with; how good a person is depends on who he is with." Who can guide you; how successful a person is depends on who he is with."

This is true whether in the workplace, interpersonal or emotional world.

The book "A cup of coffee is enough to sort out interpersonal relationships" says:

"Energy is a precious resource, and harmful friends will attach themselves to people like leeches. , slowly sucking away your energy.”

But high-quality connections and friends on the same channel will stimulate your passion for life.

Clean up negative emotions in time, pass on positive energy to relatives and close friends around you, and constantly reshape and improve yourself in the survival of the fittest.

Really smart people often make few friends

The Story of Scavengers says: “The smarter a person is, the less time he spends socializing, because he understands that the connections are not there It’s not about others, but about hiding it in yourself.”

Friends are not more valuable than “essence”. A heart-to-heart talk in silence is far better than a cup of tea at the wine table. A friend who provides help in times of need is far more valuable than a friend who is the icing on the cake. There is warmth.

Just like the writer Xue Xiaochan once said: "When people reach a certain age, they recycle. At the end, with a few close friends and a cup of tea, they can live their life how they want.

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A truly smart person will be friendly to most people, but only has deep friendship with a few people who share the same frequency. Time is life and value to him, and he must cherish it.