I remember a classic line in Stephen Chow's movie "king of comedy". The hero said, "Can't you go to work?" The heroine asked, "Do you support me when I don't go to work?" The hero replied, "I support you!" " "
When I was young, I might think it was the most romantic love story, but when I got married, I thought I raised you was the most poisonous love story. In addition to this sentence, there is "you are responsible for beauty, and I am responsible for making money to support my family."
Tell me the truest example around me. There is a friend who usually has a lot of work pressure, often has to work overtime for entertainment, and has little time to date her boyfriend. Once, she was scolded by the leader for her work mistakes, so her boyfriend said to her, "resign, I support you!" "
After listening to her boyfriend's words, she was particularly moved and chose to resign. When I left my job, I invited some of our friends to have dinner together. Most friends especially envy her for finding a good boyfriend.
But after resigning, many things began to change subtly: every time I buy clothes, bags and cosmetics, my boyfriend has to ask again.
Once, she thought of cooking a meal for her boyfriend, and went to the supermarket to buy food and meat at around 100. The result was a dark dish.
Thinking that my boyfriend will be off work soon, I ordered a takeaway at around 100. My boyfriend shouted at the cooked dishes and takeout orders starting with 100 yuan: "It's too luxurious, I really can't afford it!"
During that time, she often quarreled with her boyfriend, mostly trivial. In fact, it's all about money.
Later, my boyfriend said that he really couldn't afford her: he bought clothes, shoes, various decorations, skin care cosmetics, three meals a day, and occasionally got together to play. ...
"Can't you buy less clothes? I can't spend 6000 yuan a month at all. "
"You said you wanted to keep me ..."
In fact, "I raise you" in women's eyes is really different from "I raise you" in men's eyes.
Women think that a man's "I raise you" is the kind of "I raise you" that allows you to grow flowers at home and practice yoga, and have afternoon tea with your girlfriends for a manicure.
Most men's idea of "I support you" is to let you stay at home, do housework, cook and take care of children, honor your parents and carry on the family line.
According to this standard, my friend thinks that "I support you" can't be supported by his boyfriend's monthly salary of 6000.
And what his boyfriend thinks: rice and steamed bread, and then washing, cooking and cleaning for him, of course he can afford it.
So in the final analysis, there are still differences between men and women, but let's just say "Don't do porcelain work without Jin Gangzuan".
I raise you without money is the most poisonous love story.
A man who really loves you will take the initiative to talk to you about money.
The video of a variety show "Love Wars" on the Internet is very popular.
The boy and the girl have been in love for more than four years and are ready to get married, but there is a dispute because of the bride price10.5 million yuan.
The girl has never asked anything from the boy before, but she thinks this request is not too much. I am the only child in my family. If there is no bride price, I can't explain it to my parents and my friends will look down on me.
Besides, it's just a formality, and the money will be paid back eventually.
The boy said emotionally that money can't measure the feelings of two people for several years, and you can't expect to get the bride price back.
The two held their own words and the wedding could not be held as scheduled.
Tu Lei said that there are two kinds of men in life now.
The first kind of man, he especially doesn't like women talking about money with themselves.
As long as we talk about money, it's very material. This kind of man will even complain that there are too many girls who worship money now, and I can't afford to marry.
But when a girl comes forward and says I don't want these things, a boy will say, "This is what I should do. Aren't you someone who loves me? If only people who love me will marry me, why do you care about my money? "
The second man, he will take the initiative to talk to women about money.
He thinks that you are married to a woman, and I should prepare a house, a car, a wedding dress, a ring and so on for you. Even if a woman offered it, he wouldn't think it was too much. He thinks it is a man's responsibility to give a woman a beautiful day.
But when a woman says I don't want it, he will be grateful and think, "I am blessed." I have married a woman who is willing to share joys and sorrows with me. " I should thank her. "
Where is a man's money, where is his heart? A man who is willing to take the initiative to talk to you about money really loves you.
Although talking about money is vulgar, at least we can see from one angle whether a person is worth paying for himself.
A happy marriage is that you are more important than money.
I have a lawyer friend. He said that many couples divorce because of money, and money is more important than partners.
There is such a case. A woman is a full-time wife at home after marriage. Although her husband gives her money every month, she doesn't know how much money her husband earns and how many assets he has. Unexpectedly, after seven years of marriage, San Xiao stepped in and she was sued for divorce.
As a result, it was discovered that the family finance was an empty shell when the property was divided, and the property had already been transferred away.
Her mother complains that you are so stupid that you don't even know how much money you have at home. You are not a wife, you are a nanny!
There are also many happy families who value their partners more than money. They share weal and woe, and even many men will give their salary cards and family money to their wives for safekeeping.
My father is such a person. All the money in the family is in my mother's charge. He never asks, only knows the approximate figures.
I asked him why.
My father said to me, "In marriage, women are more likely to feel insecure. Giving them money for safekeeping will increase their sense of security. Originally, the money belonged to two people. Why not? "
Husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and those who fly in the same forest are, in the final analysis, all issues of interest and money. A good marriage is always: you are more important than money!
Although money is not the whole of marriage, it is the premise of a good marriage. A good marriage must have the courage to talk about money.
There is a question: will you marry a man who has no money?
One answer is this: If a man is poor but makes me feel hopeful and motivated, I will marry him.
Because I know that such people will not be poor for long.
But unlike those who have been poor together, you can be poor for a while, but never for a lifetime.
Therefore, a woman is not unwilling to marry a poor man, but afraid to marry a man who makes her poor all her life and takes it for granted.
I can buy my own bread and give me love, but he can't give you love. He will share your bread.
You think you can find a man who can shelter from the wind and rain, but as a result, he has brought you a lifetime of wind and rain.
Suddenly thought of the TV series "Mr. Love" some time ago. After Song's affair was exposed, I believe many women will be very angry after listening to what his wife Gu Yao said when she divorced. Isn't this the "love rat microcosm" that can't see the efforts and efforts of women in real life?
"I have raised you for so many years, wearing the best clothes, living in the best house and driving the best car. What were you doing when I was working hard to earn money outside? What did you give this family? Why should I leave home cleanly? "
Gu Yao hysterically growled, "I was a full-time wife when you begged me on your knees", and even spoke the hearts of countless women. How many men made vows when they proposed, and women chose to believe unconditionally, but what happened?
When a woman gives up her career, her life circle, devotes herself to her family, takes care of her children, and becomes a full-time wife, in love rat's eyes, she has gradually become a lazy person, enjoying the unearned success. They can't see what a woman has done for her family, and even use it as an excuse to betray her marriage and even cheat.
Women should never believe the sentence "I support you".