1. The sense of boundary determines the height of the relationship. Most of the troubles in our lives stem from the vague sense of boundaries between people. Finally, we were tired and cold. For example, parents control their children's choices in details. Colleagues interfere in each other's private affairs too much. Xiaoling and Xiaoming are best friends since childhood. One is a strong woman and the other is a housewife. Nevertheless, when they talk about each other, their eyes are full of appreciation. When Xiaoling devoted herself to her work, Xiao Ming already had two children. In the face of public doubts about Xiaoling's not getting married, Xiao Ming responded, "It's good that she is happy. What do we care about? " "True friends, so respect each other's boundaries, and then achieve friendship in mutual appreciation. When we establish a clear boundary, not only will you feel comfortable, but others will also feel relaxed.
2. Sense of boundaries, which determines your happiness index. Not long ago, "I hacked my aunt" boarded a hot search: my aunt watched her grow up, and the relationship between them was particularly close, but the closer she got, the more inevitably she had to bear the "teasing" of her aunt. When she moved her face, her aunt found fault from time to time. She reminded many times that the other party didn't take it seriously at all. Finally she went back to her aunt and knocked her out. As relatives, they often blur the boundaries under the banner of "kindness", don't understand "implication", don't see "hidden rules" and don't feel embarrassed. Adults' sense of boundaries is like air, and they don't know how important it is until it disappears. If you feel familiar, you will often get out of the gap early. A sense of boundary equals a sense of security to some extent. When the boundaries are clear, you will find that the relationship will be better and the happiness index will be higher and higher. The clearer the sense of boundary, the simpler life and the easier life.
3. People with high EQ have their own sense of boundary?
Don't please in front of anything and don't lose yourself, even if it is dogma, even if it is the eyes of others, even if it is love. No relationship can be owned by pleasing others. Instead of managing yourself, it is better to spend time and energy to please others.
Getting along without control and boundaries is like two hedgehogs holding a group. If they get too close, they will not appear friendly, but will stab each other. Don't try to control each other, and don't forget that you are just an audience, not a protagonist. Learn to respect this boundary and see each other's needs clearly.
(3) Do not interfere in getting along well with others, should not interfere with each other, distinguish between you and me, protect your personal space from infringement, and do not infringe others' personal space. Live your life first, and then take care of other things.