As the saying goes, "No rules, no rules." As the saying goes, "Every medicine is poisonous." As the saying goes, "It is difficult to start a business, but it is even harder to keep it." As the saying goes, "No pain, no gain." "As the saying goes, "Nothing is difficult in the world, only those who are willing to do it" - among the Chinese people, thousands of such sayings have been heard and heard since the day they were born. Even "common sayings" have invaded people's bone marrow and become "outline". "Culture" has become the "fixed pattern" of our thinking. In debates, we often "quote the classics" and often use "as the saying goes" to strengthen our ideas. In fact, this is also a form of "unconfidence". People who love to quote common sayings hope to use the "wise sayings" left by their ancestors to encourage their own ideas. But things from our ancestors are not necessarily good things. Some common sayings have become over time and are contrary to the ethics in real life and the customs we advocate. The following ten common sayings are the "ancestral customs" that are harmful to people. ".
1. The crows in the world are as black as black.
The crows in the world are as black as black. It advocates killing a whole boat of people with one bamboo pole and leaving no one alive. In management terms, this is called the "halo effect." For example, when talking about Northeastern people, someone immediately answered: "I know, Northeastern people are generous." When talking about Henan people, someone immediately answered: "I You know, people in Henan love to lie.” When talking about the Japanese, someone immediately responded: “There is no good person in the Japanese!” Are all Northeastern people generous? uncertain! Do people in Henan love to deceive others? uncertain! Are all Japanese bad? uncertain. These are all influenced by the saying "The world is as black as crows" and are variations of this saying. The worst offenders are men. There is a saying, "A cat likes to steal fish." This saying is actually a replica of "The world is as black as crows." He advocates describing all men in the world as "breeding cows". If you are not a "breeding cow", you must see an "old military doctor".
2. A slap in the face can’t make a difference
“A slap in the face can’t make a difference” is the product of the golden mean. It advocates playing fifty big shots each. No one can say that he will suffer. It can't be said that it's an advantage. When I was studying in college in Nanjing, the college stipulated that as long as there was a fight, it would be dealt with immediately and seriously once verified. No matter which party was responsible, both parties would be punished. Such school rule makers are seriously influenced by the popular saying "a slap in the face can't make a difference". In fact, sometimes, one slap can make a sound, such as slapping the wall, slapping the table, or flattering with this slap - it does not necessarily have to be the other slap. "One slap can't make a difference" is a sign of incompetence on the part of the arbitrator. It is unable to clearly distinguish rewards and punishments. It can only make peace with each other, be a good person, and advocate that each side take a step back. For example, in the above-mentioned school rule, if a classmate hits you, do you just passively wait to be beaten? Hitting you is still light. For example, the media has reported many times: Someone was robbed while walking on the street. Can you still handle the problem with a slap that won't make a sound? "One slap can't make a sound" actually means protecting the "robbers", attacking the "weak", and compromising with the "evil forces".
3. The fly will not bite the seamless egg
The fly will not bite the seamless egg is a powerful "theoretical basis" for spreading and accelerating the spread of rumors. According to a report in the Western Business Daily on July 14, 2005, Yu and Ba were neighbors. In the third month of the lunar calendar this year, there was a rumor in the village that Ba raped Yang. In the process of spreading rumors, neighbor Yu believed that "a fly never bites an egg without a bite" and fanned the flames, saying that Ba must have done this shameful thing and spread it everywhere. In the end, he couldn't bear it anymore and cut off the head of a neighbor woman, Yu, with a kitchen knife. See, this old saying, "The fly doesn't bite the egg," can not only harm others, but can also kill the lives of those who believe it.
4. Everyone is equal before opportunity
“Everyone is equal before opportunity” is a powerful excuse, lie and tool for winners to deceive losers. In the face of opportunity, it is impossible for everyone to be equal. What is an opportunity? Opportunity is the choices and rewards given to those with certain control resources. For example, in recruitment, a company advertises for a general manager and lists several requirements for applicants. If we regard the position of general manager as an opportunity and the people who see this news as "everyone facing the opportunity", on the surface, everyone has the same opportunity, but in fact it is not an equal opportunity at all. For example, if the conditions require: a master's degree, most people will have no chance; if they further require: more than 8 years of working in the same position, some people will turn around; if they further require: more than 5 years of working in the same industry, I'm afraid There are only a few left; ask again: age - how can such an opportunity be interpreted as equal for everyone? A mayor's son and an ordinary worker's son stand in front of the same opportunity. Can they be equal?
5. When people move, they live, and when trees move, they die.
“When people move, they live, and when trees move, they die” is a powerful theoretical support for the self-encouragement of “job-hopping people” at present. When something is not going well in a certain position, some people start to have wild ideas. One of my cousins ??works as a teacher in a prestigious school in Changchun. A few months ago, he called me and asked me to help him "get" him to the Changchun Land Planning Bureau, but I refused. Before becoming a teacher, he worked in the district propaganda department for several years. The common saying "people live and trees die" does not actually conform to the logical reasoning of modern society.
Living in a city, the trees on both sides of the street have all been moved and are still alive and well. Therefore, it is said that "the trees may not die if they are moved"; but will people survive if they are moved? Not necessarily. I have seen many people jumping around between units, and I rarely see "breakthroughs and improvements." On the contrary, there are many people who work hard and diligently in their original positions and make great achievements. There have been some achievements, so people may not "live" even if they move. If you go to work with the mentality of "If you don't leave me here, I will leave you somewhere", it will be difficult to achieve results no matter where you go.
6. If something is wrong, change it, and if it is not, try to encourage it.
“If something is wrong, change it, and if it is not, try to encourage it” is a knife that kills people without blood. I often see some official-looking people who like to make insinuations, make false claims, and make false claims: "We must pay enough attention to the recent rumors about extramarital affairs in our work unit. Of course, we will correct them if they exist, and encourage them if they don't -- "The people who stop are often at a loss. Who can I say?" Everyone is guessing. The originally quiet work unit will suddenly become full of uproar and discussion. The phrase "If something is correct, change it; if nothing is true, encourage it." This sentence is to find "knives and guns" for people who do not have "real evidence" to kill people.
7. I have crossed more bridges than you have traveled
“I have crossed more bridges than you have traveled” is usually said by older people to young people "Disobedient" warning. Judging whether a question is right or wrong has nothing to do with age. To mention age is to "pull on the tiger's skin" to embolden one's guilty conscience. If age is everything, then the principal of a school must be the oldest in the school; the general manager of a company must be the oldest in the company; the leaders of a country must all be over 100 years old - this is the fact ? Obviously not! The author says this not to disrespect the elders, but to be honest and say that whose concept is closest to the "optimal" when dealing with a specific issue has little to do with age. "I have crossed more bridges than you have traveled" is disrespectful to young people and a blasphemy to knowledge. People who hold the concept of "I have crossed more bridges than you have traveled" advocate "seniority ranking" ".
8. When a fellow villager meets a fellow villager, tears well up in his eyes
“When a fellow villager meets a fellow villager, tears well up in his eyes.” It advocates taking regions as lines to draw the door of friendship. China Police reported that on the morning of March 18, the Third Brigade of the Criminal Investigation Detachment of the Nanchang Public Affairs Bureau handed over the captured murder suspect Xie Yingfu to the Guangzhou police. It is reported that Xie Yingfu actually killed a fellow villager he grew up with for 200,000 yuan. Here, it is not "A fellow countryman meets a fellow countryman, tears well up in his eyes", but "A fellow countryman sees a fellow countryman, and a shot is fired in the back." In recent years, cases of fellow villagers murdering fellow villagers have occurred from time to time. Netizens must remain vigilant, that is, they should not be "unprepared" when they see fellow villagers, and they should not "discolor" when they see fellow villagers. Chinese people should put aside "regional intimacy" and understand a person comprehensively. Fellow villagers are not a green pass.
9. Everyone sweeps the snow in front of their door
"Everyone sweeps the snow in front of his door and doesn't care about the frost on other people's tiles." He advocates enclosing land as a prison and advocates that "it has nothing to do with oneself." "Hang up." It is a sign of selfishness for everyone to clear the door. In the past few years, almost every quarter, there have been media reports that a girl was raped in broad daylight, with a large number of onlookers. These onlookers are actually staunch supporters of the old saying, "Everyone sweeps the snow in front of their door, and doesn't care about the frost on other people's tiles." Nowadays, thieves are rampant and robbers are crazy - it cannot be said that they have nothing to do with the belief that "everyone is clearing the door". In the face of the common saying that "everyone sweeps away the snow in front of his door", "acting bravely when seeing justice" is declining.
10. Friendship first, competition second
“Friendship first, competition second” is a moderate specialty with Chinese characteristics. It is advocated that exchanging emotions and strengthening relationships should be put first, and winning or losing the game is secondary. Can it really be done? impossible! The purpose of competition is to determine the winner and loser, to compete for the first place, otherwise the competition will become a formality and a tool. Participants in the game cannot experience the spiritual enjoyment brought by the fierce confrontation, and the audience cannot see the passion and suspense of the game. Can such a competition still be called a competition? "Friendship first, competition second" is synonymous with hypocrisy. In fact, each team has done a lot of preparation work before the game, and the competition is full of excitement. Every athlete uses the slogan "Friendship first, competition second" Under the guise of doing "competition first, friendship second". The popular saying "Friendship first, competition second" particularly shows the hypocritical, pretentious and artificial side of the Chinese people.