The correct way is to establish contact with girls one week before the invitation to pave the way for your invitation. Then find the right opportunity. Of course, some fraternities find it troublesome. I want to say, which is more important, love or trouble? It is best to invite the time in advance, but not too early. If you ask her out a week in advance, maybe her plan is not so far away. If you stand you up for something else, it will also affect the feelings between two people. Don't invite her for a while, and people won't be willing to ask her out suddenly, because girls usually need time to prepare (make up and change clothes, etc.). It is usually a better choice to invite her for three or five days on the same day. Of course, this is not the rule. If there are large-scale activities, you need to invite them a few days in advance, such as music festivals and concerts. Invitation skills For a girl who has just met, it is more reasonable to ask her to meet in a nearby place. Why? "I'm visiting an elder in * * (near where she lives). If anyone sees you later, shall we come out for a drink? " Or "I want to meet a client in * * * (where she works). Why not have dinner together after work? " In this way, inviting girls will be more casual, not too deliberate, and will not expose a strong sense of demand. If you just met her, too formal invitation will only give her pressure. However, it should be noted that when you make a phone call or send a message, you can do it at home, and you don't really need to go near her home. The way to invite experts in this field by telephone is to call her for the first time to have a chat and meet her for the second time. Remember not to reveal your sense of need. Don't send out an invitation as soon as you call. You can talk to her about the interesting things you have encountered in your life and work first, or ask her a question to catch her attention. Just talk for a few minutes, but don't talk for too long. If you have a good chat with her on the phone, then "casually" ask her what she is going to do today, or what plans she has for the weekend. If she has no plans, she can vague the invitation first. This is a reasonable process. Pay attention to the problem. If you have been invited by a girl for several times and she has been rejected, then I suggest you stop the invitation, be quiet for a while, reflect on what the problem is, and invite her after several telephone conversations. The biggest possibility of invitation failure is that you don't give girls enough security. Pay attention to 1, whether the place you invite to meet is far from her daily activities, if it is too far, girls will generally refuse. 2. Did you implant high-value personal information during your chat? Girls may resist because they don't know you. Have you determined the specific meeting time and place and the theme of the event when you invited? If you are not sure about this with the girl, it is easy to be stood up. In short, in the process of dating girls, girls will also get along to judge whether this man can be relied on. There are two main parameters to judge whether a boy can be determined: 1, what are the conditions of a boy, including reproductive values, such as genetic conditions such as personality, height, values and looks, and some survival values such as family background, income, garage, adjustable resources and so on. To put it simply, it is whether the value of a boy meets the value standard of female mate selection. 2. If the boy's value is satisfied, can the supply of value be stable? In other words, you are handsome, tall and capable, but you will not continue to provide these values for my relationship with us, so your usability is not very high. If this concept is very tall and clear, then we can compare the above concepts and think about the failure of many invitations and dates before; The invitation was successful, but the experience of later failure was analyzed and summarized theoretically. 2 1 How to ask a girl out? If it's your first date with a girl, you can find out what the girl likes and what she likes through her circle of friends or daily communication. If a girl thinks your hobbies are similar to hers, she may agree to your invitation. 2. Don't beat around the bush when inviting, remember to make an appointment directly, and don't ask girls if they are free and have time, so girls will generally say they don't have time. So when you ask a girl out, you can just say, let's go to the movies at the weekend and I'll wait for you somewhere. If a girl doesn't obviously reject you, it's a promise. 3, the date should be appropriate If it is the first date, the two sides are not particularly familiar with it. The appointment place can be chosen in a public place. When girls get along with strangers for the first time, their first concern is their own safety. In some public places, such as parks and shopping malls, girls will feel more secure. How to ask a girl out? First of all, if a boy wants to pursue a girl and ask her out, then the most important thing is self-confidence! In this era of looking at faces, both men and women have the first impression of the opposite sex. After all, now is indeed the era of value first. However, there are still a few with high values. After all, high-value people have already made their debut, so in fact, most of them are the same, all ordinary public faces. So how to stand out from so many boys and attract girls you like requires some skills. Then the first point is that I think the most important thing is self-confidence. Confident boys have a unique charm for girls. Confident men are very different from unconfident men, such as speaking confidently and making eye contact. If you can't show your masculinity when communicating with girls, the impression you leave on girls will be greatly reduced, so if you want to meet a girl you like, you must be confident! Second, chatting online is a prerequisite for inviting girls out. For example, QQ or WeChat, in the process of online chat and communication, the main purpose is to familiarize both parties with each other's personality and ideas. First, we should maintain a certain communication frequency. For example, we can ask her casually what she did today and whether anything interesting happened, so that she will gradually get familiar with you and have a certain sense of security. Then, we can find the same hobbies online. For example, you can go to her QQ space or WeChat circle of friends to see some of her daily developments and master some obvious hobbies. For example, this girl likes to send messages about food, so she should be a foodie, so you can talk about a lot of food and ask her if she has eaten. Then you can ask her out to enjoy the food together. For example, if you see that her dynamics are about the plots of some movies, dialogues or famous sayings of some books, then she may be a girl who likes watching movies and reading books, so you can ask her if there are any good movies or books to recommend to you, and then ask her out to watch movies or read books in the library. If you have the same hobbies and do things with the same hobbies, then the communication between two people will become very easy, and girls will not refuse your invitation because of disgust! Third, how to formally invite girls to impress you. Through the introduction of the second point, I think girls generally agree to ask out their favorite girls, but how to ensure that we can ask out again after this date, we need to leave an excellent and deep impression on girls during this date. The most important thing about going out with girls is that as a boy, you need to arrange everything in advance, not after meeting! First of all, a girl usually has a good sister to ask her out on weekends, so when you want to ask a girl out, it's best to ask her out the day before your scheduled time. Secondly, you need to make all the appointment arrangements in advance, instead of waiting until you meet to ask girls where they want to play and what they want to eat, which will make girls think you are indecisive! Make sure that the whole date is in your hands. Finally, when two people get along, as big boys, don't be too formal and unnatural! Be sure to learn to be spontaneous! Casual here does not mean dressing up. Dressing up is still very important. Your face value may not be high enough, but your clothes must make the other person feel clean. Casuality here means that girls feel relaxed and natural when they get along with you, so that girls feel that you are like this and feel very comfortable when they get along with you! If you can understand the above three points and find your own way through your own thinking and daily life, then I believe you will meet the girl you like! Boys must be active, bold and confident! Believe in yourself!