On a question-and-answer platform, there is a question: When did you begin to realize that you were a middle-aged man? ?

There are many answers below, such as, starting to soak Lycium barbarum in a warm cup; Go to bed early and get up early, no longer stay up late; Incorporate into the morning exercise team ......

Actually, there is a special feeling: you can ignore other people's eyes, put down your face and do things that you felt ashamed of when you were young. ?

that's true.

When we were young, we always cared about some external things and neglected ourselves and our families.

when people reach middle age, we should all know that there are three things that are much more important than face.

1 Family is more important than face

He used to care about other people's opinions. He always thought that people were better than the world in life and could give up anything to save face.

At that time, he had his eyes above the top, and he felt that the commercial advertisements and low-grade programs that were going around were very embarrassing. For this reason, he refused many invitations from advertisers and producers.

Later, his mother was seriously ill in the hospital and went to the ICU. The medical expenses were like running water, and the nurse would remind him every day. Only then did he begin to realize how important money was.

after that, he started? Shameless? I took a lot of advertisements that I didn't take before, and even made movies that weren't the main characters. I took one variety show after another that I didn't care about before, and even people were willing to be wedding hosts.

His only thought at that time was that if he earned more money, he could prolong his mother's life for a few more days.

about face, Li Ka-shing said this: When you put down your face to make money, it means that you are sensible. When you earn back face with money, it means that you have succeeded. When you can make money by saving face, it means that you are already a person.

when you still stay there drinking and bragging, pretending to know nothing, and only loving the so-called face, it means that this is your life. ?

to be precise, the process of making money is the process of constantly re-recognizing your face.

Because this is the reality. If you lose face, you may not be able to protect your family. And after you let go of your so-called dignity and face, you will often see more opportunities and make more money.

Perhaps, you will think that it is too humble to put down face to make money. People with integrity should not be bent over five fights.

In fact, true face is not what you think in your heart. Face is given by others, and what others will give face is often because of your ability and status, or your spirit deserves respect from others.

When a person has the ability to protect his family and make them live a stable life, it means having face. On the contrary, those who hold their heads high every day will lose face.

You know, as an adult, you are not only a crutch for your wife and children, but also a crutch for your elderly parents. You don't have to be rich and expensive. At least when you need to spend money, you will feel confident and won't panic.

You know, when we need parents' help, parents never retreat.

When parents are old and need children's help, it is the greatest dignity for children to take good care of their parents.

2 Time is more important than face

I have seen such a psychological study, which means that in a person's life, the limit of friends is 6, 3 and 1 respectively.

Among them, 6 have only vague impressions of each other and have no substantive contacts; 3, they are familiar with each other and have occasional contacts; 1 are the people who know the roots and know the bottom.

however, when we were young, we always thought that the more friends, the easier the road, and the more friends, the better.

Therefore, it takes a lot of time to make friends. However, it is only after middle age that people realize that most of those so-called friends are just friends who eat, drink and have fun, but their superficial enthusiasm and drunkenness have never really filled our hearts.

in fact, people have countless friends in their life, but only a few confidants.

There is a literary friend who has published several bestsellers in recent years and is a little famous in the circle.

However, his first book came out with special twists and turns. At that time, he first contributed to a magazine, but he submitted it many times, but there was no response.

Later, he began to move to other places. He didn't expect that the book was a big seller and became famous in one fell swoop.

Then, the boss who had rejected his manuscript for countless times came to him for an invitation, and he readily agreed. After that, the relationship between the two people was very good. One wrote, the other sold, and the two swords hit it off.

Some people say sourly that this man has turned you down so many times, and now he has become good friends with him. It's really beneath the backbone of a scholar.

my friend didn't answer the phone directly, but just said:? The so-called friend is just an equivalent exchange. ?

When people reach middle age, they have experienced the ups and downs of the world, and their hearts are warm and cold. We should also know that most relationships between people are inseparable from interests.

if you are valuable to others and others are useful to you, then the communication will begin.

there is a saying that it is useless to know anyone without ability. When people reach middle age, they must understand that most relationships are based on interests.

no matter how much time you spend running your own circle of friends, in the end, you will find that you can really rely on yourself.

Because when you have it, you really have a lot of friends, and everyone revolves around you; When you are in trouble, friends are like birds in the forest, hearing the gunshots of hunters, and there are only a handful left by your side.

So, instead of spending time on useless social activities, we should leave more time for ourselves and learn more skills to make ourselves better.

when flowers are in full bloom, butterflies come.

"Please Stop Invalid Social Communication" says: You are busy with communication, frequently dealing with it, and the embarrassment told by chickens and ducks is everywhere. You rush about for others' laughter, and you sacrifice yourself for others' affirmation. It seems that your life is not yours. In fact, you are not socializing at all, but wasting your time unnecessarily. ?

when you were young, you were keen on making friends, which is understandable, because you didn't understand the reality of the world.

When people reach middle age, they lose their youthful frivolity and vigor. So, keep time for yourself.

3 Health is more important than face

People who eat whole grains will come sooner or later.

Health is the capital of revolution. Without health, there is nothing.

Some time ago, a friend always felt dizzy and headache. Later, he found out that he had a small tumor in his body and needed to be hospitalized for surgery to determine whether the tumor was malignant or benign.

During that time, my friend laughed sometimes and was depressed sometimes, and he didn't return to normal until he confirmed that the tumor was benign and it was nothing important to pay attention to his health in the future.

In the past, he could chase customers from the south to the north for a list. In the circle, there was no job he couldn't take.

in this way, the mythical people in the circle are established, and they can't hang on to their fallen faces.

So, in order to keep this reputation, he signed the bill regardless of everything. Indeed, his money doubled, and his body was quietly calling the police.

at this time, he realized that no matter how big his face is, it is all empty talk compared with his own body.

When people reach middle age, they are old and young, and their lives are no longer their own. It is a responsibility to live well and treat others well.

when a person falls down, he also realizes that a home is going to be shaky.

no matter how big the face is, it's for others to see.

When you fall down because of health, those who give you face will not take care of your family instead of you.

So, in any case, you should know enough is enough and take care of your health.

Mature middle-aged people don't fight with their own bodies to satisfy others' face.

There is a classic line in "A Generation of Masters": People live in this world, some live as faces, and some live as linings. Only lining can win real face. ?

I am deeply impressed.

the so-called face is for people to see, and people should learn to live it for themselves.

people praise you to the skies, and you can't spend more time with your family.

others hold you to the sky, and when you are in trouble, take care of the birds and animals and leave.

When people reach middle age, they go through half their lives, take good care of their families, talk to themselves more, and give themselves and their families a healthy body.