1. Accept other people’s suggestions and be humble.

As long as it is the truth and a true lesson, no matter it comes from parents or friends, or from acquaintances, you must accept it.

2. Maintain mental hygiene.

Think more about the problems of life and the universe, and look at the eight people in a smaller way. Then you will naturally be less concerned about gains and losses, and the result will be comfort and work will go smoothly.

3. Be strong.

As long as you can be strong, I will be relieved for the rest of my life. As long as you are strong, you are not afraid of failure, setbacks, or blows - whether they are personnel, life, technical, or learning blows.

4. Decide carefully.

Use the "democratic voting" method to summarize the matter yourself, and then make a decision.

The Chinese-style father-son relationship reflected in "Fu Lei's Family Letter":

"Fu Lei's Family Letter" mainly tells the story of Fu Lei's sincere teachings to his son Fu Cong, who is thousands of miles away, in the form of letters. Involving aspects of life, life, study, art and marriage, in these true expressions we can see how Fu Lei correctly handles the relationship with his son Fu Cong, and how to realize the "father teaches his son, and his son succeeds" in the minds of most Chinese parents. beautiful vision. In the process of communication between Fu Lei and his son, the following father-son relationship has been maintained.

The traditional ethical concept of "Chinese-style father-son relationship" restricts the love and pain between father and son who love and kill each other. As the head of the family, the father shoulders the responsibility of providing for the family. Under the influence of this sense of responsibility, he will inevitably behave like a dictator, hoping that his children will absolutely obey his wishes and everything must be in accordance with his authority. As a growing son, doubts about absolute things continue to arise in his heart, which will inevitably lead to resistance and opposition to the authority in the family.

Just as in traditional Chinese ethical concepts, Mr. Lu Xun wrote in the article "How Do We Be Fathers Now", "Chinese sages believe that the father has absolute power and majesty over the son; when Laozi speaks, Of course, everything is possible, but if a son has something to say, he is already wrong before he says it." This traditional concept will inevitably lead to a father's treatment of his son: more negation and less affirmation; more lectures and less communication; more criticism and less praise.