Be kind to yourself and blame others poorly. (Confucius)

Usage demonstration: A truly cultivated person will not blame others for no reason, but will constantly put himself in others' shoes and reflect on himself. The final result is that he can understand others and be strict with himself, and he will also be able to understand others and be strict with himself. This is what Confucius said: "Be generous to yourself and be less responsible for others."

2. Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. (Confucius)

Usage Demonstration: Confucius said, Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. In fact, true empathy should go beyond this, and should also achieve "do not do to others what you want others to do to you." Because what you like may not necessarily be in line with other people's tastes. Therefore, as parents, do not impose your dreams on your children; as teachers, do not push your expectations into the hearts of students. After all, you are just you, and every child is an individual with their own preferences.

3. Blame yourself with the heart of blaming others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiveness. ("Zengguang Xianwen")

Usage demonstration: A true gentleman will definitely think from others' perspective. They are often strict with themselves and lenient with others, because they often reflect and know how to empathize with others, and ultimately they are able to blame themselves with the same mind as they blame others, and forgive others with the same mind as they have forgiven themselves.

4. When your future is dark, you should realize that it is you who shines. (Lei Jun)

Usage Demonstration: After Lei Jun founded Xiaomi Mobile, he experienced explosive growth and a period of stagnation. Whenever he is at a low point and is questioned by others, Lei Jun always faces it with a calm attitude and never gets discouraged. Because he firmly believes that he is on the right path, when the future seems dark, he may actually be shining.

5. The real change of position is to turn against yourself and take the initiative to change to a position that is uncomfortable and disadvantageous to yourself. ("China Youth Daily")

Usage Demonstration: In this era, everyone is advocating empathy. However, what many people call empathy is just choosing to look at problems from a perspective that is beneficial to them. Doing this is just a performance, not a comparison of feelings, nor a true empathy. True empathy is to look at yourself and take the initiative to move into a position that is uncomfortable and disadvantageous to you. Only by doing this can you put yourself in others' shoes and understand others better.