Throughout the ages, people like to talk together, and the most difficult thing is to deal with people and judge them, do things and be an official. This is an art, but also a knowledge, many people have never understood it. Below I will talk about my own understanding on how to be a man, do things and be an official. First, how to be an ambitious person Mao Zedong said, "If you have confidence in your life for 200 years, you can hit the water for three thousand miles", and Napoleon once said, "A soldier who doesn't want to be a general is not a good soldier". These famous sayings tell us that one should have faith and confidence. Faith is the beacon that leads us to success, and self-confidence is the driving force to reach the peak of life. A bright future comes from self-improvement, self-reliance and self-confidence. Don't stop until you reach your goal, don't relax. It is often not others who defeat you, but yourself. Don't treat a failure as the last judgment of life. Escape is cowardice, avoidance is negative, and retreat is even more incompetent. The road to success depends on your own efforts. People are confused and have difficulty in doing things. There is no plain sailing in the world, only unyielding confidence and perseverance. Men make their own decisions, are not afraid of failure and never give up. In the face of the obstacle of "the mountains are heavy and the waters are heavy, and there is no road to doubt, and there is another village", we can only go forward bravely, persevere and overcome all difficulties with confidence. If you want to achieve something, you must be willing to do great things, undertake difficult things, set an ambition and set a goal, and then you can have a direction in life. Where the heart is, the road is there. With ambition, you will have the ability, courage and courage to be a man. Therefore, being a man needs to ask yourself where your ambition is and whether you are confident. (2) Be a kind person. Kindness is the warmest, most beautiful and moving light in the brilliance of human nature. Not everyone's life is successful, not everyone can be a hero, but they must be kind and kind. Kindness is the road to harmony and beauty. Only when you are full of sympathy and kindness can you touch and warm the world. Without kindness, there can be no inner peace, and there can be no peace and beauty in the world. Love is a basic kind emotion. When we meet a beggar, we will give him some money. In case of old, weak, sick and pregnant, we will take the initiative to give up our seats; When we meet a lost child, we will send him home and show him the way. A smile, a simple action and a heartfelt greeting are not difficult for us to do, but they may help others out of trouble. All people and things are connected. When you give to others, you are actually benefiting yourself. When you hurt another life, you are actually hurting yourself. The so-called kindness is nothing more than having a heart of great love and compassion, not hurting people, not saying anything, and not deceiving people. With kindness, there is the basis and possibility of loving parents, others and nature. A kind person, like a bright lamp, not only illuminates the people around him, but also warms himself. Kindness does not need indoctrination and coercion, but only mutual infection and spread. Therefore, being a man does not have to be indomitable and vigorous, but must be kind and sincere. (3) Be an educated person. The Chinese nation is a nation that pays great attention to cultivation and morality. For five thousand years, no matter how things change, hard work, loyalty, humility and filial piety are eternal virtues, which many ancient sages regard as family heirlooms. The success of small business depends on opportunity, the success of Chinese business depends on ability, and the success of big business depends entirely on character and integrity. Most successful people are often people with noble virtues. The so-called education is to know the depth, respect, height, weight, discipline and morality. Educated people often substitute virtue for skill, Tao for seeking, and courtesy for power. Educated people are detached from nature when they are alone and will take care of their own hearts. When they get along with others, they will think of others, be kind to others, be indifferent and calm, and keep their mouths shut. Fiona Fang's life is witty, quiet and far-reaching, and self-reflection, then everything is comfortable and complete. (4) Being an optimistic person didn't come to this world for distress, so you can't keep a straight face and be sad, distressed and depressed all the time. There is no fun in this life. There is no absolute happiness in the world, only a heart that refuses happiness. The world is like a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you. You cry to it, and it cries to you; If you are calm, it will give you peace; You are aggressive and give you a cold shoulder. Willing to listen to praise, don't like other people's criticism, want fame and fortune, don't want to lose. This mentality will only imprison yourself like a chain. Only by surpassing them can we experience freedom and happiness. If you have a happy heart, you will see a world worthy of happiness. Your heart is full of sadness, but you will only see a world full of sadness. Instead of worrying about what you won't get, be grateful for what you already have. Happiness is not sought outside the heart, but only in the heart. If you are satisfied with your inner happiness, you can feel at ease even in prison. Be kind, be a good person, be full of joy, be cheerful and optimistic, so that you can stand as a monument and walk out of a beautiful scenery. Life is short, so it is better to learn to be silent than to be nervous about everything. (5) Being a tolerant person is a tolerant heart. Don't be too narrow-minded when you do things. The ruler is short, the inch is long, the gold is not full of red, and no one is perfect. Appreciating the advantages of others and tolerating their shortcomings depends on loving others and being tolerant. Angry for the enemy can only set himself on fire. If you can't bear it, you will be angry, resentful, resentful, resentful, and framed. This life can only be bleak, and the road will get narrower and narrower. The world's right and wrong, good and evil, the world's joy, the world's good and bad, hot and cold, honor and love, we must relax our bellies and accept them frankly, and the road will get wider and wider. Tolerance is not the oppression of cowardice and retreat, but a great wisdom and courage to bear the burden of humiliation. It is the ability to know the truth, dare to take responsibility, and know how to resolve and accommodate. Think of others and pave the way for yourself. Tolerance is not connivance. We should be rational, emotional, and consider the self-esteem and tolerance of others. Being kind to others is being kind to yourself. No matter how hurt your life is, you don't have to be angry, painful or bitter. Learn to forget, forgetting is the best protection for yourself. Learn to be grateful, and thank life for giving you the opportunity to hone yourself. Your heart is full of sunshine, and life is naturally full of brilliance. (6) Be a real person. People who put their hands in their pockets will never climb the ladder of success. If you work harder, you will have more chances of success. Reward diligence by heaven, don't just talk without practice, don't be lazy and hate work, be diligent, reward diligence by heaven, do your best and do your duty to achieve great things. Those who never win seldom fail, and those who never climb seldom fall. If you want to know the taste of success, you have to dare to do it, talk less and do more, make a decision and stick to it. If you can't do it, it will inevitably delay the opportunity. If you don't want to do small things, you can't do big things. You are too light and afraid of heavy, and it is difficult to achieve a career. Sweep a house before you can sweep the world. We should start from ourselves, from now on, from small things, from small details. Honestly telling the truth is long-term and fundamental. (7) Being a knowledgeable and smart person is not equal to being smart. No matter how much knowledge is accumulated, knowledge will lose its value if it is not applied. Knowledge is static. With knowledge, people should also know how to apply what they have learned correctly in practice. Without wisdom, it is at best a book that records knowledge. Wisdom is the intelligence of the mind, a kind of insight and judgment. Have the courage to change what can be changed, and have the mind to accept what cannot be changed, but have the wisdom to distinguish when it can be changed and when it cannot be changed, and know when to "act" and when not to act. Knowing what you are doing, knowing what you love to do and knowing what you can do is wisdom. Only direction, without wisdom, direction itself is meaningless. Wisdom is sometimes a kind of balance and compromise. Rejecting extremes with moderation, analyzing the situation rationally, exerting influence with pragmatism, calmly controlling choices, consciously correcting attitudes, accumulating experience through learning, and giving up burdens with courage are all wisdom. We don't care enough about the weak, we need help; It is not enough to be fair to subordinates, but to be kind; It is not enough to forgive others' mistakes, forget them; It is not enough to dream about the future, but also to put it into action. Wisdom can only be born from nothing, from learning to wisdom, from heart to wisdom, from things to wisdom. Everyone has something to respect and learn. Compassionate people teach compassion, while savage people teach humiliation. If a person lacks wisdom and is unwilling to sweat, then there is no success. Therefore, being a man depends on whether you have wisdom. (8) Be upright, be upright, do things upright, be upright, be upright, which is the foundation of your life and your life. People are not afraid of oblique shadows, feet are not afraid of oblique shoes, their bodies are stable and their dreams are stable. If you have good conduct, you will have the confidence to be a man and the car-scrapping to do things. Your heart is selfless and broad-minded. If you are open-minded and aboveboard, you will win the trust and respect of others. If you are not upright, how can you be upright? Honest people are not selfish, greedy, whitewash, cheat, flatter, duplicity, equality and justice. What you said is well founded. You say one thing, you say two things, you say what you should say, you do what you should do, you tell the truth, and you are in business. With ulterior motives, mystifying, duplicity, calculating people, playing tricks, face to face, behind the scenes, telling the gentleman's words on the stage, doing the villain's things under the stage, how to uphold justice and safeguard justice. Therefore, one must walk straight, do right and do right. (9) To be a cautious person, wisdom lies in governing the big, and prudence lies in being afraid of the small. A thoughtful action is better than a hundred hasty actions. The dike collapses from the ant nest and cannot be careless about the details. Etiquette is the first virtue, and prudence is the foundation. Caution is the basis of "not being confused" A prudent person must be clear-headed, and he must not be confused in front of big and big issues. In this world, there are words that bring disaster and acts that bring shame. If you want to make achievements, of course, you should be extra cautious. Be a low-key person, be open-minded, think carefully and act diligently. If you think ahead, you will be safe. It is difficult to be complacent in prosperity and complain when you are frustrated. "Always walk by the river, just don't wet your shoes" depends on your skill and concentration. When you bow your head, you should also learn to look up at the sky. Sit tight, sit tight. Modesty and prudence make things easy. Caution is the best way to stay away from danger and ensure safety. Caution is better than recklessness, and only caution can win the game. (10) Be a good summing-up person. People who are good at summing up are sure to succeed. In a word, we should learn to sum up experience and lessons. Experience is the inspiration for success, lessons are wrong reflections, and both experience and lessons are valuable wealth. There must be successes and setbacks in one's life. When you succeed, you shouldn't be complacent and get carried away. When you are frustrated, you can't blame others, and you will never recover. We should sit down and think seriously, not only to sum up the enlightenment of success, but also to guide the future life path and make personal development enter a virtuous circle; We should also find out the lessons of failure as a warning to avoid similar problems in the future. As for how to do things (1) and do high-level things, the old saying goes: "To seek one person is a fool, and to seek the wisdom of the world." It's just a matter of position. The position of doing things is directly related to the success or failure of things. Playing chess pays attention to a strategy and depends on the overall situation. The same is true of doing things. We must make overall plans and consider all aspects from the perspective of whether it is conducive to the overall development. At all times and in all countries, people who achieve great things have a common feature, that is, they must first consider the success or failure of the overall situation. Whether you stand or not is directly related to your vision. The length and width of vision are the premise of correct decision-making and far-sighted strategic thinking. A visionary should have a long-term vision and broad vision. The so-called long, is based on scientific analysis and logical reasoning, the development and trend of the situation to make accurate predictions and judgments. People who can achieve great things will not be blinded by immediate interests, but can clearly identify the priorities of things and make the right choice. (2) to do things with a level, the level of a person's work mainly depends on his ability to seek things. "Planning" is very important in all aspects of doing things and plays a decisive role in the success or failure of a thing. Some people just carry out their work, while others are innovative. The results of these two kinds of people will be completely different. Everything follows the rules, there will be no problems, but there will be no bright spots. Planning before doing things and not planning before doing things have completely different effects. The level of counselors depends on their quality. Through continuous study and thinking, we should improve our ability to seek. Today's era is the era of knowledge economy; Today's society is gradually becoming a learning society. In such a society, if you want to improve your quality, you must strengthen your study. If you don't study, you will fall behind, and if you don't think, you will be abandoned by the times. Through study and thinking, I will constantly improve my theoretical accomplishment, grasp the law of development of things, and enhance my ability to distinguish right from wrong. (3) To do efficient things, we should care about the word "diligence" and pay attention to ways and means. "Diligence" is embodied in three aspects, namely, hand diligence, foot diligence and brain diligence. First of all, we must be determined to be the pioneers of riding horseshoes, and we must not muddle along. Secondly, to get twice the result with half the effort, working methods are very important. We should simplify everything, do urgent things, do urgent things early, do what we can, and don't complicate simple things, let alone make complicated things strange. (4) To do something with style, people often face gains and losses in life, and it is inevitable that there will be bumps and bumps in communication with people. How to choose between gains and losses in advance and retreat, and how to deal with them when stumbling, there is a problem of style. Personality charm is reflected in the high style of doing things. When we talk about doing things with high style, we don't simply advocate putting down honor and taking responsibility. Instead, we should have a higher position in thinking and doing things, put ourselves in a correct position when dealing with issues involving personal interests, and treat organizations and individuals correctly. Good morals reflect a high degree of integrity, ideological realm, and a vision and mind. Always paying attention to the overall situation of career development will make you more calm when dealing with personal gains and losses and increase your generosity when dealing with gay relations. 3. About how to be an official (1), to be a promising official, not to be a "Taiping official" and to be an official, we must abandon three misconceptions: First, we must abandon the concept that we would rather not be an official as long as we have nothing to do, and put an end to inaction and perfunctory response to our work; Second, we should abandon the concept of doing more and making more mistakes, doing less and making fewer mistakes, and doing badly, and put an end to the fear of taking responsibility. Third, we must abandon the concept of retreating when encountering difficulties, and put an end to the evasive action of detouring when encountering contradictions and retreating when encountering difficulties. (2) Be a disciplined official. At present, our society is in a period of change, and all kinds of temptations are everywhere. In this environment, if leading cadres want to be "not fascinated by fame and fortune, not moved by power", they must have the ability to eliminate all interference and be unmoved by foreign things. In terms of law and discipline, we should be good at observing discipline. To be a "disciplined" cadre, we should handle three relationships well: First, the relationship between work and life. Now, some people care more about personal life than work, and some people pursue material enjoyment than work, and are keen on eating, drinking and having fun. These are all dangerous signals, and the corruption process of many leading cadres begins with the pursuit of pleasure and the expansion of selfish desires. Therefore, as leading cadres, we must correctly distinguish the boundaries between work and life, and we must not confuse them. The second is the relationship between feelings and principles. The Chinese nation has always attached importance to emotion and righteousness, and has a profound moral foundation. Leading cadres are also human, but they must distinguish right from wrong. They can't just talk about family and friendship, but forget the principles and laws. Principle is the most fundamental bottom line for people to do things, and no one or thing can override it. The third is the relationship between power and responsibility. The greater the power, the higher the position, the heavier the responsibility and the more obligations. If power is regarded as a tool for personal gain, it will deviate from the responsibility of power and damage the dignity of power, and will eventually be condemned by the people and even ruined. Facing the complicated social environment and all kinds of temptations, leading cadres must always think about the purpose of the party and the needs of the people, always be responsible for the party and the people, and always have a sense of crisis, so as to correctly handle the relationship between power and responsibility and truly grasp themselves. (3) Be fair to the officials, and be fair to the officials. There is an old saying: "A husband governs his official, righteousness comes first, public is not private, and law is not evil." The so-called "justice", as the name implies, is fairness and justice. "Public" means justice. We should "do just things for others", get rid of selfish distractions in our hearts, serve the people wholeheartedly and handle affairs impartially. "Rightness" means decency, and the essence of being an official lies in "righteousness". Be upright, be upright, be worthy of yourself and your heart. Justice should be the first principle for leading cadres to be officials. If an official can be upright and upright, he will take the people as the foundation and the people as the root; Will maintain the normal mentality of "the heart is in the country and the feelings are in the masses." To the masses, observe their sufferings, listen to their voices, think what they think, worry what they need, do what they need, and really put the interests of the masses first. (4) Be kind to officials. "People who enjoy the people enjoy themselves; Those who worry about the people, the people are also worried. " Kindness is not a gesture, but a heartfelt love for people. Now, some cadres and the masses are not "fish-water relations" but "frog-water relations". When they need the masses, they jump into the water like frogs; When the masses are not needed, they jump ashore and put on airs. However, the eyes of the masses are discerning. What actions can impress them, what actions are offensive, what is sincere for the people, and what is a show, all people have a steelyard in their hearts. Everything is heart for heart and love for love. If you always keep the people's joys and sorrows in mind and always take the people's food, clothing, warmth and coldness into consideration, you will naturally get the support and support of the masses. The people are our parents, and serving the masses is the fundamental foundation of our party's existence. As cadres in party member, they should and must be full of true love for the masses like their parents. (5) If officials want to innovate, they must innovate. Innovation is a practice that integrates responsibility, courage, methods, attitudes and other elements, and is the key to all work progress. Lack of innovation in doing things can only do one thing right at most, but not one thing well. If a leading cadre lacks innovative consciousness, the work of his department or the development of his region will stagnate. Every cadre should have innovative consciousness and courage, and dare to be the first. However, innovation does not mean recklessness, nor does it mean blindly pursuing novelty without considering the effect. On this issue, we must achieve a high degree of unity between innovation and pragmatism. Innovation must be combined with the actual situation of the unit, formulate corresponding policies, take corresponding measures, and adapt to local conditions. Otherwise, good intentions may do bad things. (6) If you want to be an official who despises fame and fortune, you must learn the clear nature of water and the character of "benefiting everything without arguing". Not only will you live in high places, but your life will also enter open places. To achieve such a state, the most important thing is to get rid of the shackles of fame and fortune. There is nothing wrong with keeping a reputation. People want to keep a good reputation, but they can't be tired of it, such as the "achievement project" that wastes people's money and the unrealistic "popular project". "The human heart is a steelyard" and "After the political voice is gone". As long as you walk steadily, sit upright, do more good deeds, do less wrong things and do no bad things, a good reputation will come uninvited. Indifferent to fame and fortune, not bound by "fame and fortune", life will be smooth sailing and there will be no oppression. It should be noted that "there are two thousand gold at home, but three meals a day; Even if there are thousands of buildings, only one room is occupied every night. " Money is a thing outside the body. I don't take it with me, and I don't take it when I die. The tragic fate of Cheng, Li, Li and others shows the world that people can't take money into coffins, but ill-gotten wealth can send people to graves. In a word, being a man, doing things and being an official are interrelated and interactive. Being a man is fundamental. If people do it right, things will be easy, and there will be no problem in being an official. Doing things is the foundation, because being an official is inseparable from starting a business. Being an official is to perform one's duties in one's own post and do one's duty. In the final analysis, being an official is also about doing things. We should correctly handle the relationship between the three and truly be a good person, a good deed and a good official.