Who doesn’t want to control their own destiny in life, but how many people can do it? Each of us is different, but in the end we only live as two kinds of people, one is a person who decides his own life, and the other is a person determined by fate.
We all want to live as the first type of person, not the second type of person, but how do you become the first type of person? Nan Huaijin, a master of Chinese traditional culture, once proposed a six-character guideline for life, "quiet, slow, patient, yielding, calm, and peaceful." In life, if we stick to these six words, we may be able to live the kind of person we want to be.
Quietness means that we should be quiet, listen more to others and speak less of our own opinions at any time. In times of crisis, only by being calm can we make the right choice.
Slow down, let us put down our pace, don’t be anxious, clarify the facts before making a decision. Many people have said that the more haste you are, the less good you will do. Put down your busy pace, and you will make better decisions. Good choice.
To endure, endure the pain that others cannot bear, and achieve the success that others cannot. Tolerance is a kind of wisdom in life, not to care about others because of trivial matters. There will be many people around you who love you and are willing to help you. If you can't bear even the smallest difficulties, how can you talk about success?
To give means to give to others what you should get, regardless of gains and losses. If you give benefits to others, others will also give you benefits in the future. Being courteous to others can make your popularity better. But the so-called tolerance and concession are based on the facts. It does not mean that we should be bullied by others, but that we should know how to be moderate.
To be indifferent means to take everything lightly, not to be proud of one success, not to give up because of one failure, not to change one's character due to changes in external circumstances, and to maintain one's original mentality, you will Go further on the road to success.
Being ordinary means that we recognize that we are also ordinary people, treat others humbly, and look at problems with an open mind. This is the embodiment of high emotional intelligence. Only those with an open mind will be willing to accept the knowledge of others and make progress. If you treat others with a contemptuous attitude and think that others are inferior to you, then you will not be loved by others. Only by realizing your own ordinaryness can you take a step further.
Life is always full of difficulties. Sometimes it succeeds us and sometimes it defeats us. No one finds life difficult. We will meet many people, some people love us, some people hate us, different people have different hobbies, this is something we cannot change. Whether we fail or succeed, whether it is difficult or smooth sailing, we should stick to these six words in our hearts, because these six words will make you go better every step of the way.
Of course, Teacher Nan Huaijin has many views that many people find absurd, but these six words still sum it up well.