"If you want to capture someone's heart,
you must first capture that person's stomach."
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How do you prepare dinner every day when you commute to get off work?
Because I am too busy at work and too tired to buy groceries, and because I don’t like the food and I don’t know how to cook. So I play with my mobile phone at a roadside stall while waiting for fried rice noodles and fried noodles; I sit in a simple fast food restaurant and convenience store to wolf down my food and finish it in a hurry; I hold my backpack in one hand and bread, rice and rice balls in the other hand and eat while walking; I have to work overtime at night of office workers directly use instant noodles to solve their problems.
How can we eat happily? Why do so many people prefer to spend money on unhealthy fast food rather than buy and cook their own food?
Stressful environment depresses us
Our stress is everywhere. There are two ways to relieve stress - problem solving and emotional processing, which solve problems by changing stressful events and changing emotional reactions after stress respectively.
If the stress in your life is ignored and allowed to develop, it can cause even greater trouble.
Believe that approximately 70% of the stressful events in our lives can be solved. For established facts that cannot be changed, such as the death of a loved one, natural disasters, etc., emotional adjustment, behavioral adjustment, and cognitive therapy can be used.
Emotional and behavioral regulation includes rational use of medication, participating in social activities, finding friends to vent, seeking social support, staying away from real situations, going for exercise and other distractions. In addition, pay attention to healthy relaxation, diet and sleep.
Ellis' rational emotive therapy is a type of cognitive psychotherapy, also known as rational emotive therapy. The theory holds that what causes people's emotional distress is not external events, but people's attitudes, opinions, evaluations and other cognitive contents about events. Therefore, to change emotional distress is not to change external events, but to change cognition. And then change the mood. For example, when you are angry, it is not because of what someone did, but because of your perception of something inappropriate, which makes you lose control of your emotions.
Besides, we can use cooking to relieve our stress.
The "Kitchen Therapy" of Stress Reduction
In China, "kitchen therapy" refers to healthy food therapy. But abroad, "kitchen therapy" is not a new emotional therapy.
Many people believe that cooking and other household chores are what women should do. Otherwise, the kitchen is a multi-element and diversified place. It is not only a medium for communication, sharing and mutual help between couples, parents and children, but also a specific place where various foods, heat, salt, oil, sauce and vinegar burst out creative sparks and satisfy taste buds. The environment is also a place to showcase your cooking skills.
There are many ways to relax physically and mentally. For example, eating sweeter foods can produce a positive and pleasant feeling in the short term, but long-term intake of high-sugar foods can have adverse effects on mental health.
There is a description in "When You Are Sad, Go to the Kitchen": "She went back and forth between her mother's room and the kitchen, never getting tired of it. When she was stirring egg whites and starch, she heard the "ding" of the oven. At this time, she experienced the pleasure and relief she had never experienced in a week, and she had never been so close to her heart. It seemed that only at this moment the world was eternal and belonged to her."
Especially in a foreign land. When we are lonely and unbearable, food from home is the comfort we miss.
Cooking for your family is a way to relieve stress and keep you in a good mood. In the process of cooking, take yourself away from the busy work, pay attention to nutrition and freshness, carefully select the ingredients, pick, cut, clean, and package them, and fry, cook, and cook in order according to health-preserving methods. After carefully arranging the dishes, taking photos, sharing the delicious food with family and friends, and getting positive feedback, the cook's entire body and mind are happy and satisfied in the process.
Kitchen-style parenting
People who love to cook are usually active and love life. A narrow kitchen with two pots, two stoves, a chopping board, and a sink was the battlefield where he dispatched his troops and generals.
Methodical cooking habits will seep into daily life. The ancients said: "Governing a big country is like cooking small dishes." Those who love cooking will always keep their lives in order.
Harriet von Horn famously said: Cooking is like love, either you devote yourself to it wholeheartedly, or you give it up completely.
The kitchen and food are related to establishing healthy eating habits in children early in life. Parents provide children with healthy and enjoyable food choices to prevent physical diseases such as stroke, diabetes, and obesity; parents cultivate children’s good eating experience to prevent painful memories and eating disorders; kitchen activities between parents and children can also enhance the harmony of the parent-child relationship Spend.
Many psychologists believe that family education has a profound and far-reaching impact on children. If children do not receive effective kitchen education and housework exercise in childhood, they may slowly lose their sense of a better life. Love and sensitivity become procrastinating, impetuous and impulsive; without letting children realize the joy and satisfaction that cooking brings, it will be difficult for them to develop a sustained passion for the kitchen as adults.
Shaping the artist in life
For people who love to cook, the happiest thing is not cooking and eating food, but sharing. Cooking requires the encouragement and support of others, preparing a dinner and making cakes for birthdays, relatives and friends. When the delicious food you make is appreciated and loved by others, this sense of accomplishment is unparalleled. Your love of cooking and hospitality make your circle of friends bigger and more popular.
Food sharing is an important bond between relatives, and family meals have deep emotional significance in establishing a sense of social interaction and unity.
"If you want to capture a person's heart, you must first capture that person's stomach."
Satisfying the stomach is a big deal. A harmonious and friendly family may not be perfect in everything, but a family that is unhappy in cooking and eating is definitely not 100 happy.
The delicate days spent together with firewood, rice, oil, salt, pots and pans are called enjoyable. People who love to cook turn houses and rentals into homes. Live with someone who loves cooking, understands life, and is willing to share. Go to the vegetable market with them, cook, and activate every warm day with steaming rice.
To know a person's attitude towards life and feel a person's quality is usually in the kitchen. The joke is that if a young man finds a girl who loves to cook, the girl must not marry someone who loves to cook.
Make your family fall in love with cooking
"This dish is too salty."
"Why not cook..."
"XX's cooking is much more delicious than this."
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In the Korean drama "Reply 1988", Paula's father and mother have a big fight every time they eat. Dad complained about not having any meat to eat, and Mom scolded him for making little money. Under such emotional burden and frustration, my mother would not have the confidence to cook.
No matter whether the person next to you cooks well or not, please do not compare, but say words of encouragement. According to research by social psychologists, the more motivation a person receives, the more confident he or she is and will achieve better results in work or study.
Classical conditioning in psychology can make a person who doesn’t like cooking fall in love with cooking.
After eating the food he cooked, encourage him in time and continue to praise him in front of other relatives and friends. Situations that stimulate pleasant experiences will make people full of motivation and confidence, attribute success to personal efforts and abilities, and enhance their psychological expectations. Gradually, he will really fall in love with cooking and love you even more.
Cooking, an art that uses the kitchen as a carrier, reflects people's attitude towards life. Everyone who loves to cook is a positive, warm and life-loving artist. Reference
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