I once deeply loved a man, but he was not my current husband. I once ran home alone on the eve of my wedding to break up with my current husband. I am also an only child who was spoiled by my parents. I am willful and selfish. I cannot do any housework. I am ignorant and have no ideals or goals. During my long relationship, I have encountered all kinds of problems, and quarrels are really inevitable. In the past, I always felt that I had to win the quarrel and not suffer any injustice. The truth is all on my side. They would also look at each other in silence. After get off work, the two of them would have a good meal outside, and then sit in front of the computer. He would play World of Warcraft and I would surf the Internet. No one cares about anyone. I have also been in panic for a long time. Am I going to live like this in the future? When her cousin got married, her husband chartered a luxury cruise ship for the wedding. After the wedding, she stayed at home and when she was done, she asked her husband to give her a company to play with. To say that I am not envious is to be sincere. Although I believe that I cannot be rich, if the mentality of jealousy and hatred of the rich has taken root, it will definitely bloom the flower of darkness. So when my relationship with him reached the seventh year, I felt it was time to change, otherwise I would be sorry for the term "seven-year itch". 1. Adjust your mentality and firmly establish the mentality of "I want to live a good life with this person." After you establish this mentality, you will realize that the so-called temptations from the outside world are all just clouds.

2. When dealing with quarrels, when my husband says something that makes me angry, I force myself to calm down first, don’t get angry in a hurry, and think about whether I really did something wrong. Women all It is relatively emotional and easy to amplify some emotions and feelings. If he is not satisfied with the things I do, I will make you so satisfied that you are speechless. After a year, it feels like my husband hasn’t said anything to make me angry for a long, long time. 3. I work hard to handle every housework. Although I don’t have time on weekdays, I also start to sleep as little as possible on weekends and learn to cook seriously. Cooking is really a very interesting thing. Wash dishes, wash clothes, iron clothes, fold clothes, sweep the floor, mop the floor, wipe the table, organize bookcases and wardrobes. If you break down everything and list the frequency and table like a student on duty, when you finish it every day When I cross things off, I feel quite accomplished, and I can also take credit from my husband! Look at how hard I have worked and made so many contributions, I want a reward! 4. Intimacy, the world can no longer stop humans from being cute! I re-read Gu Long's novels. Gu Long has taught many women a lot about being a woman. I have always admired him. For example: "Men like prostitutes like women from good families, and women from good families like prostitutes; the most terrifying thing is to meet two shrews; there are many kinds of men in the world, but there are only two ways to drive men away" and other famous aphorisms . Find the easiest, most effective and most promising way to communicate with your husband, and act cute~ Although it’s a bit off-putting to act cute with a aunty face, but don’t care, he can just use it. 5. Take care of yourself. I always wear makeup on a daily basis, but I must also take good care of my skin. Hey, I only have the advantage of being whiter, so I have to take good care of it. Don't stop paying attention to your appearance just because you're married. You should also maintain your figure and try not to lose your shape. Hey, even when a woman gets old, she still has to hold on to the tail of her youth. I often consult with my mother on some traditional Chinese medicine health tips. I can also do massages with my husband on weekdays to enhance our relationship. When you come home from work every day, say, "Honey, I'm back soon~" and then run in for a big hug. Ways to maintain a relationship: 1. Both partners shoulder daily chores. Daily chores include many, such as doing housework, Deal with some matters at home. Happy couples are able to share daily chores together. Daily chores alone do not bring happiness, but they bring confidence to their spouses and enhance mutual trust. 2. Don’t target the other person everywhere. Unconditional acceptance is a belief. A healthy marriage requires both parties to be willing to argue with each other. For example: I will allow my little woman to do things that make her happy. These speaking positions may lower the status of the other party and cause harm. If your friend wears a bathrobe every day and lazily watches TV, but you don't say a word or ask, then you have not invested in your friend's happiness. Maybe he's in a bad mood, maybe he's sick, maybe he's just lazy. No matter what, your silence makes him feel that you don't care. You are not the only one who has the right to make demands on others, you also have the obligation to meet their demands. 3. Be willing to devote time to two people getting along. How much time you are willing to devote to something is one of the criteria for measuring how much you value it. If you don't spend time with your partner, the distance between you will grow farther and farther; frequent interactions with your partner will definitely sacrifice your time for other activities. But for a person who pursues a happy life, this investment is really nothing. 4. Don’t ask if you love them. After getting married, many women will feel that men don’t love them as much as before, and they feel that men have broken their trust. And I feel that when men say they love me, they are perfunctory. But a man who loves you will definitely not talk about "I love you". He will turn his love into actions and create a better life for women. Therefore, don't ask too much about whether a man loves you. The best proof that a man loves you is that he works hard. 5. Appreciate each other. A wife's admiration for her husband can easily make her husband experience a sense of worth and acceptance. For men, this is the best catalyst to improve their sense of self-esteem. Every man needs this thing.

The husband's affirmation and appreciation of his wife will also make her work harder in the direction she likes. The so-called "women should look good to those who please themselves", this sentence is also applicable to men. How to maintain a long-term love. The first point: Principled acceptance and following. How many couples are in love or fall in love at first sight? After all, one of the two sides is in a relatively dominant position. One party between lovers must not be unconditionally obedient, which means that the psychological status gap between the two parties cannot be too large. One is a god, while the other is an obedient servant. Although in a couple relationship, perhaps an unspeakable shortcoming or a funny characteristic of one of the lovers will be uniquely appreciated or ignored by the other half. This is how it is shown on TV, but in fact it is a very normal behavior in reality. The bad thing is that you are too dependent on the other person and think that the other person is perfect and almost a god in your heart. However, as your relationship matures and you are about to enter marriage or just enter marriage, you will find that the other person is not as perfect as you thought. Even if you think differently and understand that couples need to adapt to each other. But the reality that ideals are higher than reality still deeply affects feelings. And how to deal with it? We must learn to enrich ourselves before we are qualified to accept the love of others. This is a synchronous process. On the one hand, we constantly learn to grow ourselves, and on the other hand, we help each other grow in the love relationship. Instead of blindly worshiping and following each other, a more appropriate description is: the relationship between lovers should not be a teaching relationship, but a student relationship, respecting each other and learning from each other. Second: The pace of love should be slow, and don’t be eager for quick success. Those who like to watch TV series about urban love or youth idols should be familiar with it. When one party in the couple proposes the idea of ??"getting married", the other party may be affectionate and have complicated moods. Say: "Don't you think it's too fast?" Usually it's a more emotional female character. In emotional relationships, don't reveal your true feelings too quickly and pour out all your experiences in one date. This will leave you with nothing to talk about, no attraction, no freshness, and only a handsome or beautiful body. If you are in love as soon as you fall in love and you want to do all the things you want to do in your life in one day, then every day in your life you will only think about how to please the other person one day, and look for the love that may have long since disappeared. It feels fresh. Third: Love must have motivation. No matter what you do in this world, there will be concrete or abstract motivation to support it, and love is no exception. Although "emotion" and love seem to be human nature, a skill that will be automatically triggered at a certain age. But God has given you the ability to learn to love, but not how to persist in loving. For love to persist to the end, it requires a certain amount of motivation. And the driving force here is not material, spiritual desire or any promise. But to be confident, you must first like yourself, constantly learn to enrich yourself, so that the other person can continuously get a sense of freshness. And you must learn to leave space for the other party. It is irrational to force the other party to meet your expectations or requirements, and you will not go in the opposite direction for the sake of over-conquering or a sense of security. Fourth: Mutual respect and love. Many men will pursue being polite and well-spoken, but after a long relationship, they will speak inelegantly and behave impolitely. You must know that the two parties in the relationship are not objects, and they are not meant to be possessed or thrown away casually. Both parties in the relationship should respect each other, rely on each other, find life in love, and learn to maintain love in life. fifth. Don't just care about how the other person treats you. Women often say: "He just needs to be nice to me." In fact, this is not quite right. Whether a person has normal and healthy interpersonal relationships is closely related to his future life and happiness. sixth. Premarital anxiety is an emerging social disease in today's society. Even if you are happy and have a perfect relationship before marriage, when you are actually preparing to get married, "premarital anxiety" will have an impact on your relationship. Check in advance and take psychological treatment. Editor’s summary: The above points do not necessarily need to be done to the point or to the best of their ability.

As long as you work hard, you can inoculate your relationship and ensure the quality of love as much as possible