If in your world, there is no fear of pain, no worries of dignity, no poverty when you first arrive, no alternation of warmth and cold, no worries about appearance, no difference between men and women, no distinction between you and me, no Only by worrying about life and death will you get closer and closer to truly living.

-----Yu Hua

Writer Yu Hua has a detached understanding of all things, treats good and evil equally, and looks at the world with sympathy. Yu Hua heard the American folk song "Old Negro". The old black slave in the song has experienced a lifetime of suffering, and his family has passed away before him. However, he still treats the world in a friendly manner without a word of complaint. This song deeply moved the author, so he decided to write the classic novel "Alive". This book has received multiple awards and high reviews.

——01——

Family is the back-up of support, and only your family can accept everything you have.

"I lost all my family property."

Fugui did something big after staying out all night, that is, he lost all his family property. Come back and kneel in front of your daughter-in-law Jiazhen. Fugui's mother was so angry that she scolded him, but Jiazhen only said, "As long as you don't gamble in the future." Although Fugui's father scolded him as an "evil son", he also sold the rest of the family property and the house. The mortgage was exchanged for some copper coins, allowing Fugui to pay off the debt.

On the way to pay off a debt, Fugui called someone "Master" behind his back, which made Fugui's nose sore. He moved himself from the position of "young master" directly to the level of "beast". Although his family did not complain about him, looking at Fengxia at a young age he knew how wrong he was.

A family moved from the house they had lived in for generations to a thatched cottage. Fugui's father accidentally fell to death again. His father died, but his mother, daughter-in-law and children still had to suffer with him, which made Fugui deeply blame himself. Fu Guiniang comforted Fu Gui and said, "As long as you live happily, you are not afraid of being poor."

But at this time, the father-in-law came with a sedan and took Jiazhen away, beating gongs and drums.

At this point, Fugui, who was originally wealthy, has lost all his property, his family is broken up, and his wife and children are separated. You can't blame others for such a miserable situation. You always have to pay back when you go out to hang out. Selfish eating, drinking, whoring and gambling harm yourself and your family.

However, Jiazhen and Fu Guiniang were still very tolerant of Fu Gui, but excessive tolerance also turned into connivance. They didn't blame him until the family fell into poverty. His family was supportive and fully accepted Fugui's suicide attempt.

——02——

A well-knit family is the greatest blessing for everyone.

The beginning of the magical year 2020 has been troubled, and the raging epidemic reminds us of the importance of life and the importance of family. Behind those rising death numbers are families.

"As long as people live happily, they are not afraid of poverty." Fu Guiniang often said this, and now that I think about it, it really makes sense. People who are not poor but have money and live a good life in the eyes of others may not necessarily live happily. As long as the family is talking and laughing together, there is no fear of poverty. After Jiazhen came back, she took off her cheongsam and put on coarse clothes. She was so exhausted from following Fugui and his family that she was still smiling.

This Jiazhen is really good. She didn’t complain when Fugui lost the family property, and she even ignored the past grudges and came back with her child to endure hardships with Fugui’s family. She was originally from Mihang, but she put down her body and went to work in the fields. Faced with this huge gap, she did not complain and even smiled.

This should be the greatest tolerance between husband and wife. No matter when or what the situation is, never give up.

What do people live for? It doesn’t matter whether they are rich or poor, as long as they are happy, it’s just that it’s really hard to be happy. Fu Gui's mother was ill, so Jiazhen took out her only two silver coins and gave them to Fu Gui so that he could go to the doctor. Jiazhen was able to give all the money she brought to Fugui, which showed her great trust in Fugui and her sincerity towards Fugui's family. However, their fate did not go as they expected. Before they could see the doctor, they met the Kuomintang soldiers and were captured to pull cannons. They met Chun Sheng and Lao Quan, friends of life and death. The three of them took care of each other and crawled out from the pile of dead people.

"I will live even if I die. ... As long as I think about what I am not, I will not die."

Fugui thought silently in his heart and firmly believed that when bullets kept coming from around him, He survived the battlefield he flew over, and was lucky enough to be captured by the People's Liberation Army, and then released.

Fugui, who had seen the death of more than a thousand people, just wanted to run home and reunite with his family. When I ran home and saw Fengxia in rags, I found that Fengxia couldn't speak. More than two months after he left home, Fu Guiniang died, and Fengxia also suffered from high fever and could no longer speak. Long Er, who had previously won Fugui's property, refused to accept the confiscation of his land and went to attack the tenants, but was shot. Fugui felt that Long Er died for him.

This is really life, who would have thought what would happen. He was arrested as a young man when he left the house, and when he came back, he saw that someone had died for him. Fugui and Jiazhen realized: "As long as the family is together every day, they don't care about blessings.

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Yes, in the face of life and death, everything else is trivial. Being together as a family is also a great blessing for a family.

——03——

Fate cannot be fair to everyone, we can only fearlessly accept any gift in life

The name of the story is "Living", but it is written about death, and the entire family except Fugui died.

After seeing Jiazhen’s condition, the doctor reminded them to prepare for the funeral, but they never expected that Fengxia would be the first to leave. > Not long after Erxi and Fengxia got married, they held hands to see their elders. Once they happily told their elders the good news that Fengxia was pregnant.

But in When I was watching the movie "Alive", I wanted to cry when I saw them setting up a big table and happily talking about the baby, because I know that being pregnant is a good thing, but having a baby is really bad. It was a difficult time. Looking at their smiles, I couldn't bear to think of their crying. Fengxia suffered a heavy bleeding during the birth and left.

After Fugui and Erxi carried Fengxia home, they watched. I saw Jiazhen, who always had neat hair, with her head leaning against the wall, her eyes motionless looking at Fengxia on Erxi's back. Jiazhen didn't shed a single tear, she just looked at Fengxia and touched her. Fengxia's face and hair didn't cry, and Jiazhen didn't have any reaction other than shaking her head.

I think she had cried all her tears during the two days and nights when there was no news from Fugui. She shook her head, knowing that it was a woman's fate to get married, leave her parents, and face the uncertainty of having a child.

Fengxia left completely, leaving the originally cold winter behind. To make matters worse, Fugui and Jiazhen have lost a son, and now their daughter has passed away before them. Life has become even more difficult with the heavy snow outside and endless sadness inside. p>

Fugui and Jiazhen can only accept the luck or misfortune given by fate step by step. If there is no other choice, we can choose to grit our teeth and persist.

Writer Da Bing once wrote this sentence: "The heart follows the thoughts, and the body follows the fate. People cannot live by their mood, but by their mentality. ”

When you are alive, live bravely, even if you cannot escape death.

——04——

There is no absolute perfection in marriage. Husband and wife, a happy marriage requires mutual efforts.

A female student in a night school, wearing a moon-white cheongsam, carrying a small kerosene lamp, went to school with the sound of high heels. The swaying figure, the beautiful face and the short hair immediately fascinated the swinger Fugui.

"Whose daughter is that?" "Fugui asked a shoemaker.

The shoemaker said: "It's Chen Ji Mi's thousand gold. "

"Hurry and find a matchmaker. I want to marry the daughter of Chen, the owner of Mihang in the city. "Fugui went to his mother immediately when he got home.

Just like that, Jiazhen became the wife of the second-generation rich Fugui. But he didn't expect that this young master would eat, drink, whore and gamble. Even if he was pregnant with a child Jiazhen knelt in front of Fugui, but Fugui slapped her cruelly and asked someone to drag her out. Jiazhen should have a hard life marrying such a scumbag. Before he died, he said that he would live with Fugui in the next life.

Jiazhen is really a representative of strong women in the old society. Jiazhen has a vivid personality, good looks, and a strong and resilient person. From a wealthy daughter to a down-and-out woman, from a schoolgirl to a virtuous wife and loving mother raising two children and taking care of the elderly, Jiazhen had a hard life, but she had no complaints even if Fugui lost all her family property. He said, “It’ll be good if I don’t gamble anymore. ”

No matter what task fate gave her, she took it on without any regrets. Even when she was dying, she thought of her son and daughter who had passed away before her, and she said she didn’t have to worry about them anymore. If they are filial to themselves while they are alive, they will be blessed.

Thoreau, the author of "Walden", once wrote in his book: "Those who are most afraid of death are those who are afraid of death." Someone who knows they have never truly lived. ”

Jiazhen has really worked hard to live, and she is walking very well and calmly.

I deeply admire Jiazhen’s adaptability and endurance, and her

Even though Fugui was eating, drinking and gambling, she still became pregnant with Youqing after having Fengxia. Even if her father took her away, she still carried Youqing back. After catching the young man and cutting off contact, she still waited for him to come back with her two children in the hut.

It doesn’t matter whether she was deeply ingrained in the old idea of ??marrying a chicken, marrying a dog, or following a dog. It’s better to have a complete family for the sake of her children. Jiazhen has been sticking to her duty of being a good wife and mother. She wholeheartedly takes care of her parents-in-law, takes care of her children, and takes care of her children. Even when he was sick, he still kept working.

Even though he couldn't walk, he still walked tremblingly to his father and asked for a small bag of rice to keep the family alive.

It was Fugui's lifelong luck to marry Jiazhen. And when Fugui understood, he treated her very well. Always take care of each other, tolerate, respect and understand each other. Their marriage, now seen as almost arranged, went through many hardships. But they didn't break up, but worked hard separately. After Fugui changed, he devoted himself to his family, and Jiazhen dedicated his life to his family.

The spirit of living well for each other and working hard for the family is worthy of our thinking and learning.

In marriage, there is no absolutely perfect couple, and it is difficult not to have stumbling blocks, but they all learn and change in the process, and let each other become the best husband and wife. At the end of life, you can hope to live together in the next life. Such a marriage is happy.

——05——

People’s resilience to endure suffering is far beyond their imagination.

Nietzsche said: "If a person knows why he lives, he can endure all the suffering that life imposes on him."

Yu Hua said in the preface to "To Live": People live for living itself, not for anything other than living.

Fugui in "Alive" has experienced many hardships compared to ordinary people. To others it seems simply painful and miserable. Sending away the loved ones around me one by one, I live alone in the world without even a hope. However, when the author writes in the first person, it seems that those stories have a more happy flavor. Fugui was once rich and had the best wife, the best children, son-in-law, and even a grandson. He remembered every bit of their lives. Those memories contained both beauty and helplessness, but they were enough for him to remember for the rest of his life.

If there is no hope, then use memories to accompany yourself. Some people are gone, but are still remembered by the living, in their hearts and minds, as vividly as if they had been alive.

Although their stories are told lightly, they already have their own feelings after experiencing them. "Alive" is also a dialogue between Fugui and his deceased relatives. His memory of them is also a dialogue with his own experiences. He doesn't need to know other people's opinions. He just lives his own life persistently, even though others look miserable and think he won't survive. And he still works step by step from sunrise to sunset.

Just like Feng Waizuizi in "The Legend of Hulan River", no matter how hard life is, even if his wife leaves and leaves two children who need to be taken care of, even if he is definitely doomed in everyone's eyes , he still lived according to his own way and slowly raised his two children.

"Alive" tells us that no matter what kind of suffering we experience, people are far more resilient than they think. The people's resilience towards life will not be knocked down by life. Living is a responsibility to the deceased and respect for one's own life.

When you are alive, live well. When it is time to leave, leave calmly.