Some things, in my opinion, the past is the past, too persistent is not good for everyone. Recently, jiayuan, an Internet dating platform, released the Eighth Survey Report on China's Views on Marriage and Love, focusing on the views and attitudes of men and women in China towards their predecessors. This report analyzes the data of men and women in 32 provinces by online survey. Women can't forget their old lovers? In fact, the attitude of breaking up is even more decisive. "After breaking up with my boyfriend, I still hope to be friends." Among them, the proportion of women breaking up with their predecessors is much higher than that of men. For many women, goodbye often means never seeing each other again.

In fact, in dealing with the past, rational people are more likely to go to happiness, on the contrary, emotional people are more likely to go to a dead end. According to the data, only 14% of boys and 6% of girls think that "we can be friends after breaking up", while 17% of women and1%of men will choose "no contact with the elderly". When the reason for breaking up with their ex is their own, men will be more impressed with their ex, 36% will accept that they can still be friends after breaking up, 19% of men will always remember their ex. The same thing happened to women, but their attitudes did not improve. Only 16% of women can accept their ex as friends when the responsibility for breaking up is on their own side, and only 8% will never forget their ex.

Some experts also said that this phenomenon is mainly caused by the differences between men and women in rationality and sensibility. In the face of feelings, women have always been more emotional than men. After breaking up with her ex, it is difficult for women to completely separate the boundaries between friends and lovers, while men are different. Men are more rational about feelings. Many men feel that although there is no love between them, they can still be friends, and there will be no contradiction between the two identities. "For men, no matter after falling in love or breaking up, many men are not very good at rejecting women, which is one reason why men can accept being friends with their ex."

In recent years, movies pay more attention to the current hot topic, that is, marriage, and almost all love movies are centered around this theme. Two years ago, in a popular urban love movie "33 days of lovelorn love", the protagonist Huang Xiaoxian experienced a series of processes from shock-anger-resentment-memory-reluctance-retention-awakening in the 33 days after the unexpected breakup, which triggered many urban white-collar workers to scream for the cruel problem of "breakup". Men and women in love should understand the truth that not asking about the current position does not mean that they don't mind, and both sides need to handle the former topic carefully.