This is 19 of Yi 'an's old essays.

1. Loyalty and filial piety are hard to tolerate since ancient times.

At the same time, another large number of teenagers are clenching their fists, closing their eyes and rushing to the ocean flowing to society. However, while singing "Dare to ask where the road is", the well-known teachings of The Analects of Confucius echoed in their delicate hearts: parents are here, don't travel far.

So you have a strong twist-like entanglement: it is said that young people are ambitious and have been studying hard for more than 20 years. Will they go back to their hometown and squat without any achievements? What should I do if I don't go back to my parents' home and become the "empty nester" in the square box TV public service advertisement? Your parents have worked hard for you for half their lives. Once they insist that you go back to a "pragmatic and peaceful" life, do you want to kill your young thirst for knowledge and arrogant floating dreams, or do you want to kill your young thirst for knowledge and arrogant floating dreams?

When something goes wrong, you seem to have no choice at all? Loyalty and filial piety have never been satisfactory since ancient times. It is unfilial not to go back. When you go back, you can't be loyal to your heart. This seems to be an "ethical problem" that will never arise from games. So either, you choose to compromise completely, or you choose to delay and escape. In short, you can't find the right prescription.

Except "Will you go back or stay outside?" "When will you get married and have children?" As long as your parents make a clear statement in a negative attitude, is it difficult for you to cry every minute when you are taught that filial piety is the first of all virtues?

Parents are ungrateful to their children.

Born 124 years ago, Hu Shi, a pioneer of "liberalism" in China, clearly expressed his parents' ingratitude for their children in his letters with friends. He believes that parents may intentionally or unintentionally bring their children into this world without asking their wishes. First, they may bring their children into this world to suffer. Secondly, if their children grow up with all kinds of bad habits and do harm to society, then parents will also have a corresponding negative impact on society. So I advocate teaching him to raise him, but he will never take credit and will never be grateful to the city. How the child treats him in the future is his own business. As the father of his son, Hu Shi doesn't care about all this.

Everyone is an independent individual and comes to this world to realize himself. Parents should not kidnap their children's thinking in the name of "love", which will affect their choices and lifestyles; And children should not be in the name of "filial piety", or actively compromise weakness, or passively summarize depression.

Either way, it is irresponsible for your own life. Because in terms of short-sightedness, the current compromise seems to be the safest choice, and you don't have to risk the whole world to complete your so-called ideal that may or may not be. As long as you take a step back and talk about your heart, you don't have to risk abandoning the mainstream to invest in a "seemingly hanging" plan. The correct answer seems ready, needless to say. But! The price is that for many years to come, you will always endure the desire to move, press your left hand on the left side of your chest with your right hand, and remember that you kissed your sweetheart goodbye voluntarily. You have been lost in tears all your life. Why, it's painful and sad. "("Danny Chan ",etc.)

And if it is because of the external force of parents, I think of a sentence that Hu Shi said in it. He said, I want my son to be a decent man and not to be my dutiful son.

What is "openness"? I think I can't get rid of the meaning of "calm and open". Being frank and open to yourself means expressing your wishes normally and trying to realize them, rather than helping external forces distort yourself; Being honest with the outside world means that once we have the opportunity and ability, we will do greater things, not just for ourselves, but for wealth and prosperity, but for human society and the world. So these, in the final analysis, are actually your own business. Unless you are sure that you are a sociopath who kills and sets fires, please ask the police uncle to take you away, otherwise these are your own life plans and your life choices. No one has the right to tell you what to do, not even your parents.

Especially important, when it comes to your own life principles, don't compromise, don't give in, and don't feel wronged and unfilial at the psychological level first. But the details should also be analyzed in detail. Hu Shi also said that since he is an "open" person, he will never beat his parents and have no feelings for his parents. How can anyone with a little humanity have no feelings for their parents? If he is not afraid of hurting his parents, what is the difficulty of being a teenager? Why don't you have the courage to do it? This big article is naturally out of the question. So this will test our wit as children.

Finally, I ended this smelly and long article with a sentence that Luo Pang said gave me goose bumps.

As our generation, we have such a historical mission. We should resolutely use our bodies and our goodwill to resist parents' interference in our decisions. For the sake of the next generation, we should spare our children and let them have their own lives.

Oh, yes. Confucius said, "If you don't travel far, you will travel easily." Fang means reason, reason.