In rural areas, old people always say some old sayings from time to time to teach future generations! These old sayings include several generations and dozens of generations' experience summary of life; From another perspective, in fact, rural proverbs are the crystallization of the unique language of old farmers! In rural areas, relatives represent a kind of affection, and friends are a symbol of friendship! Relatives in rural areas are also good and bad! Old people at home often teach us how to deal with the affairs of relatives at home with "it is shameful to stay long, but it is rare to visit relatives frequently"! How to understand this old saying!
In rural areas, everyone attaches great importance to kinship, because some areas are too small, and only blood relatives can rely on and help. Staying in other people's homes for a long time means that no matter how close you are and how good your relationship is, you will end up annoying. For example, they are relatives and friends who haven't seen each other for a long time. Once they meet, they will be very hospitable, and they will feel very cordial if they have endless words together.
"It's a pleasure to have friends coming from afar!" Hospitality is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation. When friends or relatives visit, the host family will warmly welcome them. It is natural to eat and drink well. Even if you wronged yourself or your family, you should properly arrange the guests' stay. When guests first arrive, it is indispensable to "catch up, talk about home and talk about oriental affairs." With the change of guests' stay time, the novelty fades, the topics become less and less, and the relationship tends to be dull. Even because of different living habits, the host will be bored too much, and if he is not careful, there will be contradictions. It is necessary for friends to get together and visit relatives and friends, otherwise they will become strangers over time. However, if you don't grasp the degree well and frequently, your feelings will turn sour and your relationship will be alienated.
Too much is too late. This is true in nature, and so is social relations. Everything should be measured. The left and right are not good, and the golden section is the best. Distance produces beauty. This distance must be an appropriate distance, neither far nor near. It is a comfortable distance for everyone. When you get along with friends and family, you should also keep a good distance. I often walk around during the Spring Festival, do my duty when I need help, and get together occasionally on weekends. But we meet every day, keep in touch frequently, and know too many domestic scandals and unknown bad habits of each other. Do you think it will be annoying?
In fact, have you noticed that when we are studying, we can only go home during the winter and summer vacations every year. When I first came home, my parents were very kind and spoiled to us, but before long, my parents began to dislike themselves and were not interested in themselves. I wonder if you have ever felt this way? Actually, it's a long stay.
We have a long history and are one of the ancient civilizations. Therefore, after thousands of years of development, there are naturally many cultural reservations, and many cultures are equally applicable in today's society. The popular saying among the people is one of them. These representatives were summed up by ancient farmers through labor. They may feel nothing when they first hear it, but once they have lived for a long time, they will feel very reasonable when they think of this sentence. A popular saying today is that "staying for a long time is degrading, and it is rare to visit relatives frequently." In fact, this sentence can be understood literally, that is, don't get too close to a person. After all, not everyone can keep fresh in their communication. The longer they get along, the more shortcomings they will find.
Moreover, this sentence has to be said to be very reasonable. For example, Bian Xiao himself actually thinks that people need a sense of distance very much. No matter how close friends are, there is no need to keep in touch with each other. Give each other some space, and maybe you can leave more beautiful memories in future contacts. But many people may not understand, but they may have the opposite view. They may say that good friends should always be together so that they can always share something new and interesting. Then I can only say keep looking!
In fact, no matter where you live, if you have something to do, it is no problem to stay with friends or relatives for a few days, and it may also involve the relationship between two people. After all, if you haven't seen them for a long time, you will have a lot to say, but just imagine that if someone lives in your house for a long time, you may feel very fresh and take care of him at first, but after a long time, no matter who they are, you will feel irritable. After all, this will bring great trouble to the host family, who will bear your expenses and give you an extra bowl and chopsticks. It is wrong to accept your money or not, and it will affect the normal life of others, so you should put everything on yourself and think about whether you are willing to do so. If you don't want to, how can you expect others to understand?
Therefore, people should have self-knowledge. Even relatives should not move frequently, but that doesn't mean everything. And it's not that you can't walk around, just don't want to be too frequent. If you are close by blood, it is natural, but if you are not, will it make people feel that you have disturbed people's normal life and been snooped on their privacy? Therefore, everything should be measured and the feelings of others should be considered. Don't go to other people's homes too often if it's nothing serious. Who knows if they really want to? After all, no one will be happy if I just kick you out. Therefore, we have to say that the ancients were very wise and summed up the way of human beings getting along in just a few words. That's great!
The farmer thinks this old saying is reasonable at any time. It tells us to know how to put ourselves in others' shoes, understand each other and try not to cause trouble to others. Especially when you get along with others, you should know how to keep your distance, even if you are close, you should know how to stop.