"I would rather kill myself than let my classmates fly."
"I am a cabbage, I have the heart to fly away, but I am a cabbage."
"Everyone can roll, and everything can roll. Only by experiencing rolling can you become a master."
These words have been popular among young people for a long time in recent years, which can be regarded as "inflation" of hard work. They are more used to refer to the phenomenon that peers compete for limited resources and make more efforts, which leads to the decline of individual "income-effort ratio".
As Xue Zhaofeng said, "It's not your boss who makes you work overtime, but other colleagues who are willing to work overtime." This is a typical involution. You can't predict when you will be eliminated by your colleagues, so you can only keep learning, improving and competing.
Whether on campus or in society, competition always exists, and we cannot avoid this involution phenomenon around us.
So, how should we actively deal with this involution phenomenon?
1, define your goals.
Make a good career plan as soon as possible, don't be blindly anxious, go with the flow, and it is a blind behavior to see everyone do it and follow suit. You can use the remaining time after anti-involution to cultivate more hobbies and personal core competitiveness, and strive to become a compound talent, which is also of great benefit to your future career development.
Step 2 accept yourself
Love yourself, accept all of yourself, learn to appreciate your own advantages, accept your own shortcomings frankly and actively improve, but don't blame yourself blindly! Learn to be independent, reconcile with yourself and be honest with yourself, and you will be invincible. Don't force what you don't have. In fact, everyone will be anxious, but more or less hidden, not confined to outsiders.
3. Discover your strengths
Everyone is unique. You must have something special. You need to dig it, develop it, and spend some time and energy to do it well, so that you can be confident in your bones. "It doesn't matter if I'm not as good as others in this respect, because I know where I can't compare." No one can match the happiness, which will certainly offset the anxiety of those who are not very skilled.
4. Focus on the present and block others.
Many times, we don't need anxiety, so where does the anxiety we feel now come from? It is brought about by some comparisons between people. Practice anxiety, graduation anxiety, age anxiety, appearance anxiety, housing anxiety and so on. Many times, the people who create these anxieties are not ordinary people like us, but often come from people who have certain status and wealth in society-Versailles master. Therefore, we don't have to care too much about other people's lifestyles, not blindly follow the trend, form an independent personality, cultivate good living habits, form our own lifestyle, make more plans related to ourselves, and implement them step by step according to this plan. Grasp what you can and your anxiety will be reduced accordingly.
I once heard a well-known host say that in today's society and life, involution is actually a low-level repetition within the system and has never broken through the border. The core difference between involution and overflow is that you can't go out. If your volume is always involuted, you are always in a group, and your goal is to surpass the people around you, rather than creating more fundamental value, then it is of little significance and a waste of resources and time. But if your goal is not to surpass anyone, but to create more value and really make the lives of many people around you better, this kind of competition is advocated.