Being a man, doing things and being a man are all a gradual and accumulated life process. We can be ordinary, but we must be measured. We can be imperfect, but we must be upright. We may not be smart, but we must have our own bottom line.
Therefore, life needs a ruler, and life needs a degree.
When dealing with people, be measured and don't cross the line.
The so-called communication is measured, it is the grasp of the distance between people, the recognition of the gap between them, and the performance of mutual respect.
Being disturbed for such a puzzling time, I can't bear to be black.
Later, he sent me a friend application, asked me why I hacked him, and said a lot of inexplicable things.
At that time, I really felt that the proper boundaries between people were so important. After all, this social software does not exist like other platforms. If a stranger sends you a private message, you can choose not to reply. It stays in the column of strangers. But as long as you add friends, it will raise this strange relationship to a high level and create the illusion that you are friends.
So that some unfamiliar people have completely lost their due limits. The lack of this sense of distance will, to a certain extent, make people lose their due limits in interpersonal communication.
Some time ago, one of my high school classmates suddenly added me as a friend. We don't know each other well. We haven't even seen each other for nearly ten years, and we don't know much about each other. Now I know nothing about where she works and what kind of life she leads.
I was busy with the manuscript that day, and I didn't tell her much after adding her. As a result, she sent me a lot of information. As soon as I saw that it was nothing important, I turned off my mobile phone, carefully wrote the plan and rushed to the manuscript.
In the evening, I finally finished my day's work. When I turned on my mobile phone, I saw that this unfamiliar high school classmate sent me nearly 200 messages, and even told my high school classmates that I ignored her. She decided not to invite me when she saw that I didn't reply to the news, and she and my classmates in the group were also very meaningful.
Seeing these news, I was speechless in an instant. If you really want to tell me the news that she is getting married, can't you just start from the beginning? I have to say a lot of unimportant things before I run to the group to pull me out and hammer me.
Maybe I have always been a cold person, and I don't like socializing and making friends, so I always feel that there should be a proper boundary between people. Not only friends, relatives and strangers should also grasp the scale of communication.
In my opinion, people should get along well with each other and don't cross the line, because others can't participate in your own life. This definition of appropriate restrictions can give each other a space. Too close friendship and love are disasters. The appropriate limit is not alienation, indifference and disrespect, but that we stand from our own point of view, know our own position, know our own discretion and bottom line, and have a clear understanding of the relationship between two people.
Only in this way can we respect others better and be respected better.
Kindness should be measured, and tolerance should be measured.
Emerson said, "Your kindness must be sharp, otherwise it is zero."
Read such a story:
Once upon a time, there was a beggar who once went to a house to beg. The shopkeeper gave the beggar ten dollars, and the beggar took the money and left happily. The next day, the beggar went to this family to beg again, but the owner still gave him ten dollars. This situation lasted for a long time.
As a result, six months later, the beggar went to this family to beg, but the owner only gave him five yuan. The beggar suddenly changed his face and asked, "You used to give me ten dollars a day, but now how can you give me five dollars?"
The master said to him, "I have been very ill recently." It costs a lot to see a doctor, and I don't have much money. "
Suddenly, the beggar felt very angry, so he slapped his master and said, You actually took the money you gave me to treat yourself?
Many times we all know that kindness is a virtue, but whether we get along with others or help others, we should always pay attention to the scale. Kindness should have principles and a bottom line. True kindness is not giving everything to others, but your kindness should be sharp.
In this world, if you have no reservations about a person's goodness, you will give your weaknesses to others and eventually become the biggest weapon to hurt yourself.
If your kindness has no edge, it will eventually become weak. If you are good to others without reservation, if you are used to losing by yourself, and if you don't know how to refuse others, you will eventually find that your life is getting more and more unhappy and unhappy.
Writer yat sen villa once had such a passage:
If a person is kind to others without standards and principles, he will only hurt himself black and blue. In this world, any kind of kindness must have its own edge.
Be a man with a scale, don't go beyond the bottom line.
Although there are only two simple strokes of the word "person", each stroke is powerful. People should converge and have their own bottom line. To be a man, we must not only have a bottom line, but also keep our own bottom line. Those who can keep the bottom line also keep their own pure land.
Everyone in life has a tired time and a decadent time. It seems that no matter how hard you try, you can't make progress. I will give you some color to see how to spell it, but it doesn't matter. It's normal to be sad occasionally. As long as you don't lose your morale, everything will be fine.
People live to win a breath. Don't erase your will because of temporary setbacks. Your ambition is your bottom line. Without will, everything in life will become bleak.
People should learn to look forward, don't always sigh that life is not easy, and don't always sigh that life is unfair. Taking every step of your life is more important than anything else.
Everyone should have their own bottom line, which is the basis of being a man. With it, no matter what you do, you can make progress and retreat, be measured, don't aim too high, follow your heart, and you won't lose yourself because of temporary achievements.
People live all their lives. I hope you can keep your bottom line and be a kind and dignified person with appropriate limits. May you, Do not forget your initiative mind, stick to your heart and live a more wonderful life.