There is a saying in "Han Shi Wai Zhuan": "Those who are addicted to lust are like horses chasing misfortunes."

It means that blindly indulging desires without restraint is like riding a horse. A horse galloping towards disaster.

Human beings are not like grass and trees, and there is nothing they can do without seeking.

Walking in this world, it is natural to have desires: coveting comfort, being happy with success, being picky...maybe it is the weakness of human nature.

However, if desires are allowed to overflow without restraint, they will only end up hurting others and themselves, and will lead to disaster.

Only by learning to exercise restraint and grasping the "degree" of desire can we avoid the pitfalls of fate and take a good path in life.

Too much laziness is a disaster

Carnegie wrote in "Weaknesses of Human Nature": Laziness is the root of all evil.

It is human nature to pursue comfort, but once laziness is rampant, it will only bear bitter consequences.

I have read such a story:

A man passed away, and the King of Hell led him to a splendid palace, filled with treasures from mountains and seas, gold, silver and jewelry.

He was so excited that he felt that he was finally free from the suffering in the world, so he ate and slept every day, convinced that he had arrived in heaven.

However, after a few months, he gradually began to feel empty and bored, and felt that life had lost its meaning.

After a while, he couldn't stand it anymore, so he went to the King of Hell and said: "I really can't live this kind of idle life. I would rather go to hell than stay here." "

Who would have thought that the King of Hell would say to him: "Do you think this is heaven? You are wrong, this is hell!"

We are born with a desire for a comfortable life. The instinct is to avoid hardship and just enjoy.

However, temporary relaxation is good for the body and mind, but excessive laziness is tantamount to spiritual opium. Bit by bit, it wears away the edges of our progress and wastes our precious lives.

Have you ever been in a situation like this:

Because you are too lazy to study, you just slump on the sofa after get off work, scrolling through Douyin for two or three hours, playing one game after another Games;

Because I am too lazy to exercise, I got a fitness card and signed up for fitness classes, but I have never been to the gym;

Because I am too lazy to do anything, I eat three takeaways a day and pile up garbage boxes The floor is covered with dust and you don’t clean it;

And what do you get?

It is the passage of time but still inaction, the lack of exercise and damage to health, the lack of progress and depression...

The disaster of excessive laziness is to steal your time. Bit by bit it eats away at your spirit and ambition, and eventually destroys you.

As Roland said in the book "Busy and Enterprising":

Laziness is a very strange thing. It makes you think that it is comfort, rest and blessing. ; But in fact, what it gives you is boredom, burnout, and depression.

It deprives you of your hope for the future, cuts off friendships between you and others, makes you increasingly narrow-minded and more and more doubtful about life.

A family is ruined by luxury, and a person is ruined by ease. A life dominated by the desire for laziness is tantamount to being buried alive.

Only by learning to control your indulging desire for laziness, working hard to fight against the devil in your heart who craves comfort, being relaxed and combining work with rest, can you maintain the flexibility and vitality of your life.

Too strong a desire to show off can easily lead to disaster

As the saying goes: "A wise man hides more, and a fool often shows off."

The more a person loves to show off, the more he loves to show off. With your own abilities and strengths, you are more likely to get into unprovoked troubles.

Shi Chong, a wealthy man in the Western Jin Dynasty, was a very vain man and often tried his best to show off his wealth.

Once, a foreign envoy paid tribute to Emperor Sima Yan with a rare piece of Huo Huanbu.

When Shi Chong knew about this, he took fifty servants to see Sima Yan, and made all of these servants wear clothes made of Huohuan cloth to show off his wealth. wealth.

Later, when the Western Jin Dynasty was in turmoil, Shi Chong was falsely accused of being a rebel, and his family was confiscated and his family was exterminated.

While being transported to the execution ground in the prison car, Shi Chong couldn't help but sigh with tears: "I know that these people are all interested in my wealth, and that's why I have fallen like this."

If you are full, you will suffer losses, but if you are modest, you will benefit.

If Shi Chong had known how to restrain his desire to show off, and be rich without showing off, and be noble without being arrogant, perhaps he wouldn't be in trouble so quickly.

If the trees are beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy them; if they are piled up on the shore, the current will be turbulent. People who cannot control their desire to show off often end up in trouble for their pitiful vanity.

Maugham said in "The Moon and Sixpence":

What you have to overcome is your vanity, your desire to show off, and your desire to stand out at all times. Little cleverness.

Every normal person is born with the desire to show off his superiority. It is as natural as children competing with each other to see who has more beautiful toys or who has more pocket money.

But after meeting many people and experiencing things for a long time, you will understand that those who constantly show off their superiority are really shallow.

As Meng Fei said:

All superiority does not come from appearance, figure, knowledge, wealth, status, achievement and power, it only comes from Lack of insight and compassion.

The process of growth is the process of learning to converge and contain. It is a journey of seeing thousands of mountains and rivers and finally reaching mental maturity.

Praising yourself a thousand times is not as good as taking root in life and working hard on yourself.

There is an old saying: "In the world, modesty is the only way to bring blessings. Arrogance leads to fullness, and fullness leads to overflowing."

In the rolling world of mortals, keep your inner modesty. With awe, less showing off, and less vanity, it is the best blessing.

Being too picky will hurt others and ultimately harm yourself

"Mencius Li Lou" says: The trouble with people is to be a teacher to others.

It means that the biggest taboo in getting along with others is to like to point fingers at others and find fault with others.

Once, the American educator Carnegie attended a banquet with his friends. A man gave a speech during the banquet, quoted a famous saying, and said that it came from the Bible.

When Carnegie heard this, he immediately retorted: "You are wrong. This sentence does not come from the Bible at all, but from Shakespeare's works!"

The man blushed and felt very sad. Embarrassed, he immediately started arguing with Carnegie.

At this moment, a friend came over. After figuring out the whole story, the friend said to the man: "You are right, this sentence does come from the Bible."

After the banquet, the friend said to Carnegie:

"It's just the source of a sentence, why do you have to correct him?"

" This not only hurt his self-esteem, but also ruined the atmosphere of the banquet. Even our own image was affected. Is it worth it to make such a fuss over a trivial matter?"

No one is perfect, Everyone has a desire to be critical and has the urge to correct others, but is it really worth indulging one's own desire to be critical?

At the company meeting, he insisted on saying that there were two typos in someone else's PPT, and the good relationship between colleagues was so tense;

When we went to eat Western food, he was picky about his friend's use of knives and forks. His posture was not standard, so he didn't eat well and was blocked by his friends;

At a relative gathering, he insisted that there was something wrong with the way other people educate their children. What was supposed to be a pleasant dinner turned out to be a quarrel that turned red in the face. Thick;

Such examples abound.

When people get along with each other, they are basically comparing themselves to each other, interfering in other people's lives indiscriminately, pointing fingers and making judgments, which will only make people annoying.

Schopenhauer once said: "When talking to others, restrain yourself from the urge to correct others, even if you have good intentions."

Cultivated people will not Use your own standards to demand others. Because they understand that it is difficult to change someone, but it is easy to hurt someone.

Every fish has its own sea, and everyone has his own life. Instead of spending time and energy directing other people's lives, it is better to think seriously about how to live your own life.

There is a saying: "The greatest self-discipline for adults is to be backward compatible and restrain one's desire to correct others."

Because no matter how picky you are, you will never change. If you don’t have everything in this world, you will lose your own life while correcting others.

Life is like a ruler, don’t be too full of desires

Shi Tiesheng said in "Me and the Temple of Earth": "The real name of human beings is desire."

In this mortal world, no one can live without desires, but if desires are allowed to run rampant without restraint, they will only become slaves to emotions and cause unwarranted disasters.

Life should be like a ruler, opening and closing should be measured.

Quit laziness, stop showing off, be less picky, and grasp the scale of desire, so that you can avoid the abyss of fate and gain inner calmness and indifference.

For the rest of our lives, may we all be able to see the flowers half-opened, be slightly drunk with wine, and stroll along the road of life with calm clouds and gentle breeze.