In a word, the problem is that our hearts have not communicated effectively with the world.
We know that the real world is a world of people. Communication with this world is essentially communication with people in this world, and it must be purposeful communication. It can be said that no matter what we are doing or want to do, if we want to succeed, we must learn to be good at communicating with others. There is a famous saying in the shopping mall that "connections are money veins", which means this. In order to sell their products, salespeople must communicate with customers through a series of means such as advertising, promotion, door-to-door visits and product recommendation, so as to achieve the purpose of making money. An ambitious person must be good at communicating effectively with superiors, subordinates and colleagues in order to get through his own road to success. So that young people who fall in love should learn to grasp each other's special psychology, so that they can enter each other's emotional world smartly. Therefore, communication is always the primary talent that people should master in life and career. In a sense, it is the most important means and strategy for us to acquire wealth, happiness, happiness and health.
As the saying goes, when two armies meet, the wise win. Wan Zhi, a thousand wise men, regards policy as a top priority. In the process of communication between people, the human heart is the most mysterious world. There is no way to open the closed door of human mind. As long as we are guided by the principle of success and master some effective skills, we can naturally knock on anyone's heart easily.
Here, we should remember that the strategy of getting through people's hearts depends not only on the logical power of reason, but also on a person's emotional intelligence to a great extent. Because people's hearts are strong, but they are also very fragile. Once the key points are determined, whether for lovers, clients, presidents or thousands of strangers in Qian Qian, or in work or life situations, as long as you put your heart into it, the results are often unexpected and get twice the result with half the effort.
Before we master these successful skills, the first thing to do is to correctly understand people and their essence. This is the beginning of our efforts to open the door to people's hearts and improve our interpersonal skills.
First, understand people and human nature.
The first step to improve interpersonal communication and master successful interpersonal communication skills is to correctly understand people and their essence.
Understanding people and human nature can be simply understood as-we must identify with people according to their nature, put ourselves in others' shoes, don't look at others with our own eyes, and don't impose our wishes on others.
Everyone is like this, including you. You are more interested in yourself than anyone else in the world.
This is human nature. You must understand this deeply. Because people's behavior is dominated by their own thoughts and feelings, this feature is very strong in human beings. For example, a donor in charity, his greatest gain is the satisfaction, pride and pleasure he gets from the act of donating, rather than the meaning of the donated items to others. So, what he really cares about is himself.
Maybe you don't think it's selfish? Friend, this is a fact, this is human nature, everyone is like this, you don't have to feel guilty and embarrassed about it, because human beings came to this world like this from the beginning. Reality is always reality, and it is independent of human will. Our best practice is to know it, respect it and use it skillfully.
Understanding the common sense that "people care about themselves first" is the basis of your communication with others. Realizing that "people care about themselves first, not others" is also the key to life. It can give you the wisdom and skills to communicate with others, so that you can grasp the true meaning of life, make more friends and master the secret of success. In the following content, you will understand that many successful skills come from the understanding and application of the view that "people care about themselves first".
Please remember, you must remember this, because it is the basis and key to your successful communication with others.
Now, let's repeat this sentence; People are naturally most concerned about themselves.
When you talk to them about yourself, they will be in high spirits, * * *, will be completely fascinated, and have a good impression on you.