Actually, my friend is an excellent woman. She has the proud capital that all women envy. She has a lovely face and a rugged figure in Zhang Xiuqing. But she never used it as capital, but pursued her career wholeheartedly. If a woman's beauty is a gift from God, then her excellent working ability is God's special favor for her.
Such a woman, no matter who she marries, the man will be very happy because she is very independent. Don't men nowadays appreciate this kind of woman who is physically and mentally independent? However, my friend said that she was not happy after marriage. Although she works hard, her husband always thinks there is something wrong with their marriage.
Later, he filed for divorce several times, and friends asked him what she had done wrong. Why is she full of such excellent women, but she is useless to him? He was silent, just a faint response: three views are not in harmony.
I suddenly remembered two women in the TV series "My First Half Life". One is Mrs. Luo Chenzi, who is kept at home by her husband, and the other is Tang Jing, a career-oriented strong woman who flies around every day to talk about her work. There is no doubt that a woman who is too incompetent will be mercilessly abandoned by a man, but no man dares to marry a woman who is too good. Just like Tang Jing, she became the envy of all women, but she liked He Han for ten years and said she wanted to marry her, but in fact she was not the best candidate for He Han.
Thinking of several conversations between Tang Jing and He Han, I suddenly understood why my friend's husband insisted on divorce. Why is he finally able to breathe freely after the divorce? For a man who cares about dignity, it is a challenge for him if his wife is better than himself. Unless he can be better than her in other ways, he must have a stressful life.
My friend is a woman who never gives up. During college, she insisted on not asking for tuition at home, but going to work and study by herself. She rented a vacant room behind the school canteen and led many students who wanted to lose weight to do aerobics there after class in the afternoon. Later, she found that everyone on the university campus thought she was fat, and everyone had the intention to lose weight, so she began to imitate the off-campus gym and develop membership system.
It can be said that when we all reached home for money, she not only had her own source of income, but also earned it from her own business. When she graduated from college, her thesis on gym operation and management won the first prize of graduation thesis.
At the same time, because of her Excellence, she took part in the work one step ahead of her classmates. The place where she works is the best local health club. When others first joined the work, they all started as member consultants. As soon as she entered, she was placed in the position of sales manager. Since then, she has opened the distance with her peers at an extraordinary speed.
In the third year after graduation, she was promoted to regional manager, responsible for the operation of the whole southwest market. She didn't stop there, but also took an MBA during her work, which made her education and ability by going up one flight of stairs.
After returning to the city where she once lived with her grades, she began to think about her personal problems. Yes, she can't always concentrate on her career. Her life needs other plans, such as getting married and having children.
So, under the introduction of her family, she met her ex-husband, who was a local civil servant, and his parents were also prominent local people. For the man, my friend's parents are 100% approved, but my friend vaguely feels that if she really marries such a man, then she must break her dream of being a career-oriented woman. No man wants his wife to be busy with her work all day and neglect her family.
But to her surprise, the man said that he admired independent women, and if she wanted to continue her dream, he would definitely support her behind her. So they soon got married and had children.
However, they really don't know each other well enough. A friend fantasizes too much about her ex-husband, while a man understands her friend's dedication as her devotion to her work, completely unaware that she is completely indifferent to her work.
When my friend was out of the month, he began to travel in major cities in Beijing and Shanghai. Sometimes he can travel outside for more than ten days a month. Men realize that this is definitely not possible, so they discuss with their friends and at least give their families some energy. The friend thought about it and nodded in agreement. In fact, she didn't compromise, just wanted to realize her long-cherished dream and start her own business.
It is true that she never went on a business trip again during the period of starting a business. It's just that she works hard every day and doesn't care much about her family. But she knows that her time is used to do more meaningful things. Now she is suffering for better enjoyment in the future, and the reason why she works so hard is just to let her family live a better life.
For her negligence, she tried to make up for it by buying all kinds of things for her family that they wanted to buy but didn't want to buy. She bought a high-grade massage chair for her parents-in-law. I checked the price online, and my parents-in-law exclaimed that my daughter-in-law is so virtuous. She bought a customized sofa for her husband, and he liked it for a long time. The price of this sofa is equivalent to her husband's salary for half a year. She bought many things for her family that she dared not covet. She even mortgaged a sea view room for them to appease her husband's long-term dissatisfaction with him.
No one does not say that a friend is an excellent woman. He always says that a man has a good life and married a virtuous and capable woman as his wife. Some people joked that with such a wife, there is nothing to do but sit back and enjoy the success.
In the envy of others, men begin to doubt themselves. They all say that women are tired and desperate mostly because their men are too incompetent. He doesn't want to be described as an incompetent and useless person. He wanted to persuade her to stop and have a rest and catch her breath. Maybe they should have another way of life instead of putting career and making money as the first priority every day.
My friend is used to racing against time, and let himself walk on a road that everyone admires. She has always been excellent, and will always be so, and will not give up herself for anyone.
Men feel more and more incompetent in other people's comments. She just swiped her card to buy a luxury item, which is worth half a year's salary. I don't think he has any reason to control her. He feels that he and she are people living in two worlds, or that they are simply living backwards. He is a man but always wants to live comfortably, while she is a woman but more desperate than a man.
Women want to make themselves excellent, but if women are better than men, it will inevitably put pressure on men, and too good men will look down on women and suddenly think of a wise saying: whether in love or marriage, there is only one word for victory, and that is proximity.