When you see my title, will you think of it? I even couldn't help swearing: "TM, I have been blind for so many years, how can I know such a" snobbish "friend?"

If that's what you think, congratulations. You've been arrested.

So, look at this article, and you may find the answer you want.

In my opinion, if there is no mutual use value between people, then the relationship between people will be interrupted; The higher the mutual utilization rate, the stronger the relationship.

I remember a few days ago, at the party, my friend told me sadly that he had decided to break up with gay friends, and gay friends was the best player he played in high school. At first, I was curious about what he was stimulated by.

When I finished this story, I chose to support him silently.

My friend said that gay friends and I were best friends in high school. We usually go to school together, play basketball together, play games together, stay together, pick up girls together, eat instant noodles together ... basically, we will do anything together. He thought they would be friends in this life, sharing weal and woe.

Because I haven't contacted him for several years after graduation, one day, gay friends suddenly added his WeChat, and he immediately passed it on. After some chilling, gay friends finally stated the purpose of this time: recently opened a beef shop, with preparatory funds, and needed 3,000 yuan. If it goes well, I'll pay it back in three months.

My friend did not hesitate to lend gay friends 3000 yuan. I heard that gay friends's business was good, but it was not good with him, so it took him six months to pay back the money bit by bit.

My friend went home this year to buy a car and send a takeaway. When he found that the budget was not enough and he was still short of several thousand dollars, he thought of gay friends.

Gay friends said that he is traveling in other places now and will not go home until two days later. So my friend waited a few days.

A few days later, my friend called again, and gay friends said it was on the highway, so we'll talk about it when we get home.

Then, no then. Later, the phone kept showing the off state.

So the help between friends is also a kind of use, but the premise is mutual. If gay friends didn't disappear like this, maybe his friends wouldn't break up with gay friends. And one-way use, even if the usual relationship is good, it is difficult to maintain for a long time.

As the saying goes: rely on parents at home and friends outside. What is important these days is that it is convenient to have "friends".

Therefore, only the more times we use each other, the stronger the relationship will be.

I remember my other friend, who is a white-collar worker, likes traveling very much. If you travel to a place and need 3000 yuan, then for her, it only needs 1000 yuan.

A few years ago, she spent less than 10,000 yuan to travel all over the country, and finally went to live in Yunnan for a week. At that time, she was not rich. The secret of saving money is never staying in a hotel, but harassing her classmates or friends.

And when her friends and classmates go to her city, she will also warmly entertain them. Let them feel the warmth of home.

So if she encounters a little difficulty, a phone call, her friends will immediately find a way to help her solve it.

I am deeply impressed by this.

So the most important relationship between friends is this "mutual use" relationship. It is in this interactive process that our feelings can be exchanged and our relationship can be consolidated and strengthened. The more "used/used", the better friends; The more good friends you are, the more "used/used"

Of course, before "using" people, you should love with your heart.

Actor Wang is a good example. She put "use" and love to the extreme.

Wang Neng was "welcomed" by her classmates and friends, largely because she also took each other to heart.

Wang Kao went to the Film Academy with a roommate who lived in an underground hotel. Although he failed in the Film Academy, he went to Renmin University, and later he went to France.

Wang took his parents to travel to Europe several times, and they all stayed at this friend's house and were taken good care of. The roommate family stayed in Beijing. On holidays, be sure to bring gifts to visit Wang; If you must be free, a greeting phone is also essential. When doing these things, she never deliberately told her roommate Wang. Many years have passed, and they have developed in different fields and lived in different countries. Although they are far apart, their friendship has not deteriorated because of mutual use.

And Wang's road to struggle is "the road of employing people." She is the kind of woman who will seize every opportunity to jump into a better environment. Of course, before that, she will pave the way with her heart and be very touching.

Her good character also lies in that she can't kick down the ladder, and always keeps close contact with people she "uses", which makes people very comfortable. She cares about others' kindness, and she is not forgetful; She remembers the birthdays of most people in the cast and their favorite foods. She will buy water for employees to drink, even the aunt who sweeps the floor will not miss it; She will go to the Film Academy to visit the teacher's home, wash the curtains for the old couple whose children are abroad, and listen to the old people telling stories about twenty or thirty family photo albums. ...

Therefore, Wang got the help of so many people along the way. Of course, these people are willing to help her and help her progress. And Wang's friends here, also enjoy the amorous feelings and generous friendship, they don't suffer at all. Friends can be used for both love and use.

Wang is like this, so are we. If you have friends you can "use" and friends you can "use" willingly, then you are happy.

So friend, now you, have you found the answer?

Please tell me in the comments below!