-Zhou's "Man and Eternity"
Liveliness is only a temporary consumer product,
And what supports your life is the whole loneliness.
I am a natural loner, always quiet and sometimes indifferent.
There have been isolated, criticized, self-questioned, and on the verge of collapse.
Harmony and tasteless, loneliness and tasteless, different parties. This is human nature.
Finally, I decided to play dumb, be less angry and not talk, and live with my heart.
I stopped pretending to have many friends, but returned to loneliness, and I started a lonely life with the real me.
Sometimes I can't stand the pain of emptiness because of loneliness, but I would rather maintain my self-esteem in this way than exchange shame for that superficial friend.
-Yu Hua
Why do some people seem friendly,
But always alone?
Being friendly to others is cultivation, and being alone is character.
I prefer the days when no one cares about me to the days when someone controls my mood.
Being alone makes your heart more free and chic.
You don't have to deal with other people's emotions, and you don't have to deliberately judge other people's minds. The pursuit of human life is probably freedom.
-"One Hundred Years of Solitude"
Idyllization, hanging out and criticizing idols are all done by children.
After the age of 20, mature people should learn to pay more attention to their own lives.
After all, life is your own life, and no one can feel it. Only when the naked reality keeps peeling off your hypocritical side will you have a chance to truly complete the transformation.
Earn money, work hard if you have no money.
If you feel that your knowledge is limited, read more books and summarize more.
If you think you can't socialize, listen and think more.
If you just want to kill boring time and gain truth and wealth from endless social interaction,
It is better to really put the idea into practice, even if it fails, it is also gaining.
Without considerable loneliness, there can be no inner peace.
If you find that human society is so unsatisfactory,
And feel more suitable to escape loneliness,
Then you are a person who can't stand loneliness and depression for a long time.
Especially when you are young.
In this regard, I suggest you form the habit of:
Bring some loneliness into society,
Learn to maintain a certain sense of loneliness in the crowd,
Don't say what you think right away,
Don't care too much about what others say,
Don't expect too much from others,
Whether morally or intellectually.
What other people think,
We should strengthen the exercise of our indifferent attitude and feelings,
This is the most practical and reliable way to cultivate tolerance.
If you do this, even if you live in a crowd, you won't have much contact and contact with others:
Your relationship with them will be completely objective.
This preventive measure will keep you at a necessary distance from society.
Not too close,
And it can protect you from social harm.
Smart people know how to keep a distance from the fire when heating.
Without getting too close to the fire like a fool.
After the latter set himself on fire, he fell into cold loneliness and complained loudly about the burning flame.
1900 is gregarious, happy and has a huge social circle on the surface. When a person is lonely, look at his heart clearly and realize that he is actually a lonely person like us.
Don't depend on anyone, learn to live and think independently.
Beasts always walk alone, and cattle and sheep walk in groups.
It's not that you don't need a partner. Everyone needs a trustworthy and close person, but you can't become dependent. You are used to relying on others, and when you have to be alone, you will be afraid and timid.
A true friend is a gentleman's friendship as light as water. There is enough space between friends, and the water always flows.
Leave enough space for yourself, live your own life when you are alone, and settle down seriously. Life will not disappoint serious people.
Perhaps, everyone who lives in this world is destined to bear everything that belongs to him.
At this point, we have nowhere to hide, nowhere to hide.
Just like we came here ourselves,
Finally, I will go alone,
Our destiny can only be borne by ourselves,
Our loneliness must be faced by ourselves,
So loneliness is actually the highest enjoyment in life.
Enjoying loneliness can purify the dust in the heart, wash the filth in the soul and shape a good attitude.
Learn to get along with loneliness, keep company with loneliness and endure loneliness.
In order to focus on what you really love for a long time,
Don't complain, don't sell yourself short, don't change your mind,
Stick to the set goals,
Something will happen in the end.
About loneliness and hobbies
Loneliness is the normal state of life. You must have a hobby that you really like to support you through countless long nights and countless lonely times. Reading is the lowest-cost hobby.
Many people seem to be interested in everything, and everything can be involved to a certain extent but not in depth. This kind of person is the loneliest because he doesn't know what he wants or likes at all.
Loneliness is the normal state of life.
You think your roommate is great, and your roommate must be great.
There are all kinds of people in this world. Different views do not necessarily mean that anyone has different views. It's just that you are different people.
If the people around you are different from you, you don't have to doubt yourself, let alone wronged yourself to fit in. Just be yourself.
In fact, the key to the problem is not how many people isolate you, but do you care?
You know, what you have to do is to make yourself better and stronger, and one day you will pack your bags and go your own way.
Looking back at you, there is no reason for others to take care of you. You should also be glad that you are free at this time and don't like pretending. There is no one around you who caters to you deliberately so that you can't tell the truth from the false.
Making a party requires people to make sacrifices. The more unique a person is, the harder it is for him to make such sacrifices.
A person's avoidance, tolerance or love for solitude is directly proportional to the value of this person.
Life is not for socializing,
And truly meaningful socialization can bring a sense of fulfillment to the heart.
So is loneliness.
You need to socialize, socialize,
You need to be alone, so be alone.
On the contrary, some people,
Live for social purposes,
Afraid of being seen through the lonely figure.
These people seem to be sociable,
But my heart is still full of all kinds of insecurity,
Their sense of security comes from others, not themselves.
Some people like to be lonely,
Is not to make friends,
That will only lead to disappointment.
Who wants to stay alone,
I just don't like disappointment.
-Haruki Murakami's Norwegian Forest
A person's interest in communication with others is directly proportional to his mediocrity of intelligence and poverty of thought. People in this world either choose loneliness or vulgarity, and there is no other choice.
-Schopenhauer
Loneliness is the normal state of life,
You must have a hobby that you really like.
This will support you through countless long nights and countless lonely times.
Reading is the lowest-cost hobby.
Many people seem to be interested in everything,
Everything can be involved to a certain extent, but not in depth.
This kind of person is the loneliest,
Because he doesn't know what he wants or likes.
College students, it is not shameful to eat and go to the library alone every day. On the contrary, it is ridiculous and stupid to blindly follow the footsteps of others and disrupt their own pace of life and goal planning for the so-called gregarious. If a person can endure loneliness and loneliness for his goals and dreams, it is something worthy of respect in itself. Unfortunately, too many students don't understand or understand it too late.
Happiness is inner peace.
Only natural colors will never change. -Bi Shumin
A person is lonely from birth to death,
Because no one has the obligation to really accompany you from beginning to end.
So when there is loneliness in your life, no
Complaining and frustration, you must accept and get used to it.
Because loneliness is the root of your growth.
Loneliness doesn't mean that you are abandoned by the world.
It just means you're on the right path.
A person is not alone,
On the contrary, if you are always with your friends,
It's like shutting yourself in a tent,
What's the point of going out to communicate with people and meet all beings?
Never find your own value among friends.
-Yu
When life is no longer surprising and moving,
You will find that loneliness is actually freedom.
In order to gain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong.
Exchange IQ for a sense of belonging that makes people feel safe.
-"Mob"
Enjoying the quiet time when you are alone is the spiritual reward of respecting yourself.
Fear of being out of place with the people around you is mostly due to lack of security and inner self-confidence. I used to be afraid to argue with others because I was not strong enough inside. But even if you don't want to argue with others, people in different circles may not really accept you.
It was only after I played down this point that I realized that it is extremely foolish to pin my sense of security on the false fetters with others, because it will make you more and more insecure. Only by firmly grasping ability, qualification and wealth can we forge a strong heart for ourselves.
If you start to get out of tune with the people around you, take it as an opportunity given by God. Whether it is to become a better self or to build a stronger heart, I sincerely wish you all the best.
Loneliness is not that you can eat hot pot alone, go shopping alone and watch movies alone.
But in the middle of the night, I want to talk to someone but I can't find anyone I can trust. I want to cry, but I don't have a shoulder to lean on. I was eager to share, but I didn't respond.
Everyone seems to be lonely, trying to get rid of loneliness in their own way. In fact, they are still continuing their loneliness. Loneliness is the curse of nature on gregarious people, and loneliness is the only exit of loneliness.
-A hundred years of loneliness
Can bear the loneliness that no one cares about,
Only with poetry and distance,
Actually, I've been with you,
It's all that magical self,
People will eventually go to the grave alone.
Loneliness is the norm in universities.
Don't think that you are the only one who is lonely. We are all alone.
It's just that some people get deeper and deeper in the lonely mud, and some people use the mud as fertilizer and eventually bloom.
Mud means making friends because of loneliness, falling in love because of loneliness, and jumping into the crowd because of loneliness.
The so-called fertilizer is to learn to be alone with yourself because of loneliness, to learn to think more deeply because of loneliness, and to discover a sense of fullness from the heart because of loneliness.
May you know the value of loneliness, and may you know that it is a gift from God hidden in the mud.
Only when you can stand the loneliness that nobody cares about can you be worthy of poetry and distance. In fact, it is the great self who has always been with you.
Why do some people seem friendly,
But always alone?
Being friendly to others is cultivation, and being alone is character.
And people often ask me: Are you still alone?
Sometimes I wonder, is a person in a bad state?
But on second thought, a person's state is actually quite good.
When you are alone, you don't even have to look at your face when you cry.
Laugh, and no one will say you are crazy.
Only you are qualified to laugh at yourself when you fall.
A person is by no means isolated in number.
But the independence of personality.
So, even if you are two people at this moment,
You should be alone, too. Don't give up your independence when you are alone.
Insist on thinking when you are alone, and remain independent when you are alone.
If you like it, stay together; if you don't, turn around.
Being able to reach another person is the icing on the cake of life;
Learning not to rely on any relationship is to help yourself in time.
Looking back, such a long way, such a long time,
People come and go, and only they are with themselves.
One person, then one person.
I'm a natural loner.
In most cases,
I don't think we're bored,
I'm just afraid that the other person will think I'm boring.
But I don't want to put up with each other's boredom,
I don't want to look interesting and tired.
I am most relaxed when I am alone.
Because I'm not bored,
Even if it's boring, you have to bear it yourself.
Don't involve others, don't feel uneasy.
-Zhou
People with high IQ tend to be unsociable. They all live clearly and know what they want.
They no longer bother themselves, they no longer cater,
Don't live in the eyes of others, but start from the heart.
Try to enjoy the most beautiful life and be yourself.
Why do people with higher IQ dislike people less?
They would rather stay alone than be lonely.
On the contrary, they prefer to associate with the great souls in the book.
Life is a lonely journey,
When loneliness is deep enough,
You can see the richness in your soul.
-"Loneliness is a compulsory course for the soul"
We are all lonely hedgehogs,
Only people with the same frequency,
See the unknown elegance in each other's hearts.
We rush forward, but we can't escape loneliness and fatigue;
We are full of pride, but we can't hide our bruises;
We look back, miss each other, and our friends go their separate ways.
You think the journey of youth leads to the same goal,
Who knows this is called the afterlife.
-"The Elegance of Hedgehog"
A person's time is a golden appreciation period.
Being alone can reduce a lot of trouble in interpersonal communication.
For example, my roommate waited for me to have dinner yesterday, and today she was late for class. I'm so hungry because I didn't have breakfast. Should I wait for him to finish his class on an empty stomach or go to eat first?
In other words, this classmate is very procrastinating, waiting for him for half an hour every time he makes an appointment to eat, until he really arrives at the canteen.
Don't you think these things are tiring and inefficient?
It was under this mutual torture that my roommate and I decided to live separately. We will have dinner together regularly or when everyone is free. But not every day.
In the state of being a loner, I found that my work efficiency was much higher.
I wanted to go to the library, but my roommate didn't want to go, and then I felt too lonely to go alone, so I watched a play with my roommate in the dormitory.
Later, I ate alone every day, went to the library alone, participated in extracurricular activities alone, and looked for a job alone.
When I find someone, it is the best value-added period. In that personal time that belongs to you completely, you can completely immerse yourself in the sense of accomplishment in pursuing your goals.
This is also the fastest growing period of my four years in college. This sense of accomplishment and happiness is far better than those boring parties that gossip.
If you can grow up and become excellent in one's time.
That excellent you will naturally attract excellent friends to dream and grow together with you. Isn't that cooler?
The life partner who eats together is far less than the spiritual partner who has the same three views.
Don't worry, let yourself become excellent first. If you are in full bloom, the breeze will come.
Loneliness is very necessary,
What a person does when he is lonely,
Decided that this person is fundamentally different from others.
-"the distant village"
The best way for a person is to live a good life, put himself first and give himself a sense of security.
Instead of just being satisfied with perfection, like vines, you have to be attached to others all your life.
A person who doesn't love himself can neither be a lovely person nor really love others.
Therefore, the most important thing in our life is to please ourselves.
-Zhou