Angie is very lucky. She married both love and the right person. In that special era, her brothers and sisters were all implicated because of their origins, and only she stayed on the island without food and clothing. All this is due to Jiang Defu. Jiang Defu can be said to be a typical "five good husbands". He has spoiled Angie all his life. He not only has a successful career, but also helps Anjie cook, wash dishes and take care of the children at home. He also helped Anjie's brothers, sisters and children arrange jobs when it happened.

Angie almost got hit to the right twice. The first time, their matchmaker Yang saved her, and the second time, he saved him. If the man she marries is not Jiang Defu, and if she is any other man, she will not be too willing to live with Angie's lofty, conceited, arrogant and narrow-minded temper.

At first, Angie despised Jiang Defu.

Many people say that Jiang Defu was able to marry Angie because he was the leader of the team, and Angie's brother and sister helped him. These are just some of the factors. I think Jiang Defu was able to catch up with Anji because he made every step in the pursuit of Anji, and it was also because of his "malicious" that he won Anji's heart completely.

Angie probably didn't know how "heartless" Jiang Defu was when he chased her until she died.

And his "malicious" is also worth learning, whether in life, work or marriage, with this "malicious" strength, you will get twice the result with half the effort.

Jiang Defu first met Angie at the headmaster's house. Jiang Defu accidentally burned Angie. On his way home, he asked Angie for contact information. Angie didn't like him at all and didn't want to tell him, but when she saw two pens in Jiang Defu's coat pocket, she immediately played a trick.

Knowing that Jiang Defu went to a literacy school, she thought that Jiang Defu didn't know a few words, so she wrote her contact information to Jiang Defu and asked Jiang Defu to write her contact information. Jiang Defu really made a fool of himself. When he came, Mrding put the pen in his pocket. He can't use Mrding's pen, and he hasn't written for a long time. Finally, he did, but the handwriting was ugly, and the word "team" was missing.

When Jiang Defu came back, he knew that there was no hope, and hope had been dashed. He tossed and turned that night and couldn't sleep. Finally, he practiced calligraphy cruelly. He wants to practice a good hand of cards and make Anjie look at him with new eyes.

Since then, others have been playing ball games, and Jiang Defu has been practicing calligraphy in the dormitory. Many things happen, and his calligraphy is much better than before in a short time.

At the same time, seeing that they were deadlocked, Yang sent Anjie to the hospital for a report. Yang nominally asked Anji to invite him, but actually created opportunities for them.

Jiang Defu told the story of his comrades-in-arms and martyrs, which touched everyone. Anjie was also moved, and he won a full house of applause as scheduled. Doctors and nurses in the hospital are scrambling to get the autograph of the war hero Jiang Defu. Angie asked him to sign it, too.

When Angie came home, An Xin was surprised to see the signature. She compared the writing before and after Jiang Defu and said that it was written by the same person. How did his handwriting change so much in just a few days?

An Jie said, of course, Jiang Defu signed his name in full view, and it can't be forged.

When Angie said this, he respected Jiang Defu in his heart. Even she didn't expect that Jiang Defu should practice his calligraphy to this extent in such a short time. In My Sweetie's mind, practicing calligraphy is a trivial matter. From this perspective, at least Jiang Defu cares about her, which shows that Jiang Defu is a persevering person. At that moment, Angie had a different feeling for him.

Although Jiang Defu has no education, his thoughts are very delicate. He knows that Anji is a cultured person, and he also knows the gap between himself and Anji. If it weren't for Angie's birth, he would never have dated a beautiful woman like her. He knows better that girls like Angie are extremely concerned about these things. If he wants to hold hands with her successfully, he must have advantages that she can see.

So he spent all his rest time practicing calligraphy. He is hard enough on himself. This man in his thirties is already a colonel. He can get whatever he wants, but he doesn't want to settle. He looked for Anjie and worked hard in that direction.

Someone once said: A goal is like a butterfly. It will be hard for you to pursue it. If you plant a lot of flowers, butterflies will fly by themselves. Only by constantly improving yourself can we get more opportunities. Success is not to defeat others, but to change yourself.

Jiang Defu also changed himself to win Angie's heart. He had a goal of spending his life with Angie, so he changed it first. The first thing he did was to practice writing. This incident really impressed Angie. Even An Xin was moved.

This has also become a stepping stone for Jiang Defu. Although it is small, at least the distance between him and Anjie has taken a step forward.

On the surface, this clip is Jiang Defu's calligraphy practice, but it is of great significance. It was Jiang Defu who made further progress by virtue of his perseverance. It is also his "malice" towards himself that makes Anjie sit up and take notice of himself, and also changes Anxin's view of him.

Jiang Defu got his wish and went to Anjie's house for a meal. He crossed his legs and went back to the dormitory, but sighed with a frown. Mrding was surprised and said, Didn't you pass the exam? Why are you still frosted?

It turns out that Jiang Defu was divorced before, and he didn't tell Angie about his divorce. He is always in a bad mood and always feels like a liar. He is going to confess his divorce to Angie.

Mrding immediately told him never to say, that you never say, you listen to me, wait until you get married. Wait until the uncooked rice is cooked. If you don't listen to me, you have to cook this pot of rice.

Mrding's proposal is certainly beneficial to Jiang De. There is already a gap between Jiang Defu and Anjie, and now there are good signs. If Jiang Defu repents again, it's over.

So Mrding gave him such a bad idea. After cooking the raw rice, tell Angie that even if Angie regrets it, it's no use.

But Jiang Defu refused to accept Mrding's suggestion, and he did the second "cruel" thing.

How did Jiang Defu do it? After hesitating for a few days, he confessed to Angie. He asked Angie for coffee, gave Angie a cup of her own coffee, and finally told him about her divorce.

Angie's reaction was as expected by Mrding. She got angry at once, called Jiang Defu a liar, and then leaned down and ran.

Jiang Defu really wants to achieve positive results with Angie. Mrding's method was dirty but practical, but Jiang Defu refused to use it. He is an open-minded gentleman. He loves Angie and wants to exchange his heart for hers, instead of getting Angie's heart by cheating. It is precisely because of his open mind that he is restless. He felt dishonest and didn't tell Angie about the divorce.

Bi Shumin said: The first element of life is not goodness, but truth.

Since ancient times, many people regard kindness as the most important thing, but Bi Shumin said that "truth" is the most important thing, and "goodness" may be a kind of deception, but "truth" means sincerity, frankness and no hypocrisy. Kindness is an indispensable noble quality for us to walk in the world.

Jiang Defu is very sincere.

I like a passage very much: sincerity is not a beautiful coat, nor is it a mask that can be worn at any time. Sincerity is a kind of personality strength, which will accompany you all your life. Sincerity reflects one's inner world. Sincerity is a kind of transparency without disguise, a kind of frankness without mask and hypocrisy. More sincerity means more beauty; More sincerity means more frankness; More sincerity means more peace.

Jiang Defu's feelings for Anjie are real, and he wants to knock Anjie's heart sincerely. Although he is a lout, he knows the most basic truth of being sincere to others. He is convinced that Anjie, who has read many books, will like a sincere person, not a person who deceives his feelings by deception.

The reason why Jiang Defu confessed his divorce to Anjie was that on the one hand, he had a hard time, and on the other hand, he saw Anjie's character. He knew Angie would be angry if she said it now, but later she would get over it. But if he marries Anjie by cheating, not only will his conscience be condemned, but I'm afraid Anjie will never forgive him.

Jiang Defu is also "cruel" in this matter. He would rather risk losing Anjie than honestly confess his past. Because he knows that trust and trust need to be based on sincerity. If Anjie loses trust in him because of this, it will definitely become a shadow in Anjie's heart. Even if you barely get married, where can you be happy?

What he wants is not short-term happiness, but a lifetime with Angie. Because of this, he had to confess his past with Angie. Whether Angie accepts it or not, at least he loves her sincerely.

Angie broke off contact with Jiang Defu because of his confession. Seeing that it is impossible between two people. Angie's nephew is in hospital, and he is in urgent need of penicillin. Only the army has it. Angie's brother went to Jiang Defu. He helped them find the medicine and saved Angie's nephew.

Angie's brother asked Angie to invite Jiang Defu to dinner at home to show his gratitude. Rejected by Jiang Defu, he just helped Anjie's family and didn't want to go to dinner because he helped others. In his mind, help is help, never involving other things.

Angie's brother invited him personally, but Jiang Defu still refused to go. Finally, Angie and Anxin invited Jiang Defu together. An Xin and An Jie analyzed Jiang Defu in detail:

An Xin is a very clever woman. She can see at a glance the essence of Jiang Defu hidden behind an illiterate lout. She could see that Jiang Defu was a capable person, witty and capable. An Jie said that after the breakup, Jiang Defu didn't continue to pester him. When Angie went to beg him to get medicine for his nephew, Jiang Defu obviously didn't know anyone else, but he still "pulled his face down" to ask for help. Most importantly, he didn't embarrass Anjie's family because of this. Later, Angie invited him to dinner, but he also refused, which proved that he was not fishing in troubled waters.

So Anxin advised her sister to think about it. This Jiang Defu is worth entrusting. If people don't tell you about the divorce, you can't treat them as anything until you get married, but they still tell you that this person is honest.

Look, what Jiang Defu did before has paid off. Peace of mind to see the kindness of Jiang Defu and the bright spot in his character.

Peace of mind to see the advantages of Jiang Defu, I believe he will become a good man in the future. It was these words of An Xin that helped An Jie make up his mind. Live happily ever after.

Chen said: the basic standard of a good man is not necessarily romance, but he must be responsible; You don't have to earn money, but you must support your family; You don't have to listen to your parents, but you must be filial; You don't have to be obedient and virtuous, but you must spoil your wife; You don't have to have a successful career, but you must have time to spend with your family. You can not take care of your children, but you must love them. You don't have to be male chauvinist, but you must make up your mind when you encounter something big.

When we see it later, we will find that Jiang Defu really meets the standards of these good people. He loves his family, children, Angie and helps to cook and wash dishes. He is very kind to his sister and Anjie's family, and also helps Anjie's niece and niece arrange jobs. He paid all his wages to Anjie, even though he knew that Anjie had never saved money after more than ten years of marriage, he had no complaints. Angie is in charge at home at ordinary times, but when there are important things at home, Jiang Defu must be the pillar that can reassure Angie.

This is also the reason why Angie told Yafei that she was very happy all her life. Jiang Defu's kindness to her in this life is unmatched by all the women on the island and all the women in the world.

On the other hand, many years ago, Jiang Defu did not hesitate to help Anjie's family when they were in trouble, although he also had his own selfishness and hoped to continue to get along with Anjie. But this is not his real intention to help. When he helped them find medicine, he didn't make things difficult, didn't take the opportunity to make conditions, and even refused to eat rice after the incident, for fear of gaining a reputation of looting in troubled waters.

In his heart, he loves Anjie, but love is not possession, let alone taking advantage; Love is for each other to change themselves and make themselves better; Love is not to hide the black history of the past, to tell the truth; Love is when you are in trouble, I help you regardless of gain or loss; Love is sincere treatment between two hearts; Love nourishes each other in a relationship, and everyone is willing to work hard to become better for each other.

Jiang Defu has done all these things, and it was his "efforts" that made the impossible possible. As An Xin said to An Jie: What we all thought was impossible before, he did better and better step by step. He not only entered the door of settling down, but also received a warm reception.

Qian Mu said: Life is just a yearning. We can't imagine a life without yearning, but yearning must have an object. Those objects are usually superego and external. The clearer the goal, the more determined the will, and the more fulfilling and tense the life will be.

Jiang Defu's longing for life has always been very clear, and this clarity is even more obvious in the pursuit of An Jie. He knows what he wants, so he works unswervingly towards this goal, acts for it, and gives everything for it. Even the first time he went to Anjie's house, when Anjie brought him coffee to test him, he earned his face back with the ferocity of disregarding face.

He doesn't know how to drink coffee. Angie disliked him after drinking it all, so she said solemnly, Who stipulates that coffee can't be drunk all at once? When Angie laughed at him for making a fool of himself when he asked for chopsticks in a western restaurant, he said heroically: Who stipulates that chopsticks must be used when eating western food?

Especially in saving Anjie's nephew, Jiang Defu took this "malice" to the extreme. He is already a regimental cadre and a Shandong native, and he is particularly proud. But for Anjie's nephew, he did not hesitate to "pull his face down" and begged grandpa to tell grandma to find someone. Most importantly, Anjie has rejected him, that is to say, if he finds someone to cure Anjie's nephew, Anjie may be grateful, but he may not necessarily marry him for it. Jiang Defu had a clear head, but he did it anyway.

In the process of pursuing Anjie, facing Anjie's initial dislike, Jiang Defu did not feel inferior, but took the initiative step by step by relying on his own "malice" and finally married Anjie as he wished. Of course, I put the word "malicious" in quotation marks. The word "malicious" is not the malice we think everyday, but a great compliment. It is a kind of spirit.

With this kind of "malicious" strength, he changed from a farmer to a soldier, from an ordinary soldier to a commander, from a peasant lout to a beautifully married and educated Anjie, from a divorced bachelor in his thirties to the last group of children, and from his initial disapproval to his final marriage happiness. It was with this spirit that Jiang Defu made everything impossible possible, walked towards his ideals and goals step by step, and finally got an extraordinary life.

I hope you and I can have Jiang Defu's "ferocity" and use it in our work, life and marriage to realize our wishes and live what we want.

I am Fan Xiao, a post-70s writer who likes reading and telling stories. I continue to share dry goods reading and emotional stories, pay attention to me and grow up with you.