A man was walking alone on a sunny street, feeling very happy, but he was worried all the way, and finally the haze in his mind gradually obscured the clear sky.
This may be an experience that most people have had:
When doing something, we always have various worries and anxieties.
I am afraid that I will not be able to do it, and I am also afraid of others’ doubts and denials.
In the end, endless internal friction will completely bring us down.
But in fact, everyone’s energy is limited.
Instead of being tortured by mental internal friction, it is better to use actions to heal yourself.
The more you think, the more your mental and physical energy will be exhausted. The more you do, the better you can withstand pressure and overcome difficulties.
The writer Uncle Nanchuan once told such a story.
He had a cousin who sent him a message one day saying that he wanted to apply for Huawei.
Uncle Nanchuan asked: "Have you started sending in your resume?"
My cousin replied hesitantly: "Not yet, I haven't figured out which position to apply for yet. ”
Uncle Nanchuan advised his cousin to first look for some information on the Internet to see what positions are being recruited, screen them one by one based on his own abilities, and then conduct a comprehensive analysis.
My cousin nodded after listening and said that he would study it carefully next.
But a week later, his cousin came to see him again.
It turned out that my cousin did not apply for the job because he heard that Huawei's interviews were very strict and the requirements were very high. Even if he successfully passed the interview, it would be difficult to adapt to the fierce internal competition.
Uncle Nanchuan asked him: "Tell me first, have you submitted your resume?"
My cousin replied: "Not yet, I'm not sure if I can do it."< /p>
After hearing this, Uncle Nanchuan sighed: "You have been frightened by the difficulties you imagined before you even tried it."
Japanese writer Yataro Matsuura once said Quote: "Those who are often troubled by restlessness and anxiety often have the bad habit of thinking too much."
When doing something, the most difficult thing to overcome is not the difficulties you will encounter, but the difficulties you will encounter. It's an imaginary difficulty.
I wonder if you have this feeling:
I wanted to go to the gym, but I thought it would be very tiring. The more I thought about it, the more tired I became, so I simply stopped going.
I wanted to study, but I thought it would make me sleepy. The more I thought about it, the sleepier I became, so I simply stopped reading.
I wanted to write, but I thought it would be difficult. The more I thought about it, the harder it became, so I just stopped writing.
There is a sentence in the book "Saying Wild":
"People are like this. They think about it over and over again, hesitate and hesitate. They feel that they are not ready and have no courage. Enough. In fact, as long as you take that step, you will find that everything has been prepared. ”
Many times, what makes us tired is never not being prepared, but being too much. Anxiety and hesitation.
Thinking too much will not only consume more physical strength and energy, but also destroy your determination and willpower to do things.
Only by letting go of excessive mental internal friction can we throw away the heavy ideological baggage and move forward lightly.
The philosopher Schopenhauer once said:
"One of the most special weaknesses of human nature is that it cares about how others think of itself."
The more you If you care about other people's negative comments, you will lose the courage to move forward.
Only by letting go of excessive sensitivity can you reduce the burden on your heart.
The Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe once met a very talented Mr. O.
This Mr. O is a newcomer in the literary world. He has already published novels in literary magazines and has a bright future.
However, due to an ordinary rejection experience, his self-esteem was greatly hurt and he never recovered.
Watanabe Junichi called to comfort him and said that he didn’t need to worry about this.
He just responded feebly.
Another time, Watanabe Junichi came to see him at his residence, but he either scratched his head or sighed. He had no desire or fighting spirit to create at all.
A few years later, Mr. O gradually ruined his future and completely disappeared from the literary world.
There is a sentence in "One Piece":
"The world is not in the hands of those who ridicule, but precisely in the hands of those who can withstand ridicule and criticism, and continue to In the hands of those who are moving forward."
Facing doubts and disapproval from others:
If you are strong, it is a stepping stone for you to move forward.
If you are timid, it will be a stumbling block for you to move forward. ?
The late architect Ieoh Ming Pei was once appointed by the French president as the designer of the Louvre reconstruction project, but almost all French people opposed this decision.
A member of the design institute sneered at I.M. Pei's design draft: "What a piece of crap this is!"
As he was walking on the street, a Parisian woman deliberately spit on him.
But from beginning to end, he never lost his temper because of other people's unreasonable words and deeds, nor did he give up his design concept because of these negative events.
Later, under tremendous pressure, Pei finally used a pyramid-style design, making the Louvre the most proud building of the French.
There is a saying: "Excessive sensitivity is a kind of unnecessary self-consumption."
How much grievance you can swallow can achieve great things.
Only by how much blow can you withstand can you become a talented person.
When you finally achieve results, all misunderstandings will be self-defeating and all blows will disappear.
There was a very popular video last year called "Do it first and then talk about it".
In the video, many people faced difficulties in the face of the sudden epidemic.
A young man wrote down his worries on paper. If he resigned before the epidemic, can he still find a job?
A middle-aged man was doing livestock business in the countryside. He asked himself, what should the villagers do if the chickens can’t get out of the pen and there is no income?
A restaurant owner saw her employees looking at her in the store. She was thinking, if there has been no revenue for three months, can the store still be open?
After a brief period of confusion and struggle, they took action one after another.
That young man chose to be an online ride-hailing driver before he found a suitable job.
In order to sell the chickens raised by the villagers, the middle-aged man began to try to live stream the goods online.
The restaurant owner turned the shop into a small vegetable market, and led all his employees to sell affordable vegetables.
In the end, they all passed the most difficult level.
When you are in deep trouble, the more entangled you are, the more desperate you will be.
When you take action, you can better find a way out.
There is a question on Zhihu: "I am 37 years old and unemployed at home. I am under great pressure and extremely painful. What should I do?"
A netizen named "Canghai" replied:
p>First of all, being confused doesn’t solve any problems. Again, emotions don’t help.
What would you do if God placed ten blind boxes in front of you and told you that one of them contained what you wanted?
You should open them one by one.
Don’t waste time anymore, try and make mistakes quickly, it’s useless to think too much.
One word, do it. No, change. Try it again, if it doesn't work, change it again.
There is a proverb that says: "Empty talk is like bubbles of water; practice is like drops of gold."
Maybe actions can't bring you a turnaround immediately, but they can make you slowly change. Get out of trouble.
Thinking is a question, doing is the answer.
In 1983, American sociologist Hochschild mentioned a theory called "emotional labor".
The general idea is that in addition to daily physical and mental work, there is also a kind of neglected labor, which is emotional labor.
When a person falls into excessive anxiety and entanglement, he or she will consume a lot of physical strength and energy.
This is why, when doing something:
Fearing that you will not be able to do it will make you feel more exhausted than actually not being able to do it.
Being afraid that others will say you can’t do something will embarrass you more than actually saying you can’t do it.
Many times, the biggest difficulties we face do not come from external pressure and forces, but from internal emotional and spiritual friction.
Whether it’s confusion or doubt, the more you think about it, the more painful it becomes.
When you put aside distracting thoughts and worries, the more you do, the calmer you will be.
The greatest self-discipline a person can have is not to compete with himself.
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The world is not in the hands of those who ridicule, but precisely in the hands of those who can withstand ridicule and criticism and continue to In the hands of those who are moving forward.
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If you are strong, it is a stepping stone for you to move forward.
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I would like to summarize this article using Marxism, that is: don’t think about it or not, practice it quickly. Practice is the only criterion for testing truth, and practice is the basis of all understanding!
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Thinking is a question,
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Live for yourself and don’t care too much about what others think.
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The mental exhaustion is really serious! I pay special attention to other people's eyes and feel depressed. Apart from traveling, which can calm me down, work and life make me anxious. My biggest wish may be to find a small place to lie down and do small things
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The more you think, the more your mental and physical energy will be exhausted, and the more you will do The more you have, the better you can withstand pressure and overcome difficulties.
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Facing doubts and disapproval from others:
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If you are timid, it will be a stumbling block for you to move forward.
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Actions are accomplished by thinking and destroyed by following. This sentence misleads all living beings; actions are accomplished by actions and destroyed by Yu.< /p>
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This article is similar to Teacher Tuobuhua’s Law of Recklessness. The general idea of ??Reckless Law is that if you start first, you will be half successful. Come on, comrades!
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Rather than being tortured by mental internal friction, it is better to use actions to heal yourself.
The more you think, the more your mental and physical energy will be exhausted. The more you do, the better you can withstand pressure and overcome difficulties.
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Finally found a good medicine to cure the current confusion. This article comes at the perfect time! Next, it’s done!
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Think about it, it’s all a problem! Doing it is the answer!
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The greatest self-discipline a person can have is not to compete with oneself.
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Refuse to engage in internal friction and that’s it.
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The biggest cost in life is self-exploration and internal friction
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When a person falls into too much anxiety and entanglement, it will consume a lot of physical strength and energy!
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Many times, what makes us tired is never lack of preparation, but excessive anxiety and hesitation.
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Being confused doesn’t solve any problems. Emotions don't help.
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I accidentally clicked on this article, and while listening, I lamented that I have been internally consumed recently, worried that I can’t do my job well. I am worried that I will be surpassed by others, worried that I will not be appreciated by my boss, and I am very concerned about what others think of me recently. After listening to this article just now, it woke me up. Next, we really should abandon distracting thoughts and work hard to the end.
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If you don’t compete with yourself, you will be done!
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I have a deep understanding of this. Every time I do something, I will look forward and backward; I am afraid of this and that, and I dare not move forward. In the end, I did nothing, which made my life directionless and even more confusing. It turns out that the internal friction is too serious. Just do it without thinking too much. If you fail, the only way to get rid of it is to do it again. Come on
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There are two situations and I don’t know if there is a solution? First, there are actions, and the results include successes and failures. The total amount of failures is more than the successes, which outweighs the confidence brought by success and falls into haze; secondly, one of God's ten blind boxes is what you want. , but tells you that you can only choose 3 (just like the limitations of time and funds on hand, blind boxes are the same and there is no possibility of analysis, pure luck), but you are entangled and unable to start taking action to decide which three to open.
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"The world is not in the hands of those who ridicule, but in the hands of those who can withstand ridicule and criticism, and In the hands of those who keep moving forward. "I am great if I am a strong person in my heart." is the answer.