Me: Roommate A has a boyfriend who is away from home all day!

Yes, but they are developing rapidly.

Me: Mm-hmm, mainly because her boyfriend is more active. If you don't take the initiative, you won't have a chance, but none of us take the initiative.

B: That's why we are single!

Me: That means we are single, but we don't take the initiative. Actually, we're fine.

At that time, we laughed it off and thought about it again and again. In fact, we can prove that we are excellent without doing it. This is the essence of our procrastination and underdevelopment.

In the final analysis, it stems from people's inner fear, fear of the unknown world in the future, which is human nature.

People who dare not express themselves are afraid that they will reject you; If you don't study, it's useless to be afraid of reading; If you don't write, you are afraid of writing in a mess; If you do nothing at work, you are afraid that if you do, you will not be able to do it well. ...

We can see that the deepest advantage of not doing it is to deceive ourselves, which can show that we are fine, but I don't want to do it.

We have lost the persistence and courage to learn to walk and speak when we were young.

I learned to walk when I was a child. I fell and got up, continued stumbling, then fell and got up again, then fell and got up again ... until I walked a long distance trembling and saw my parents jump up happily, I smiled happily.

It truly shows: a real case of falling and getting up from there.

Now we are more afraid of failure, rejection and unknown difficulties.

We learn to be lazy, procrastinate and indulge ourselves, because at least I can't prove that I will fail.

When we see the achievements made by people around us, we often don't appreciate them at first, but think that if I do, I will definitely do better than others.

But the problem is that you didn't do it. I don't want to be the first person to eat crabs, but I am secretly sad and envy others' achievements. At this time, you not only failed, you are a loser.

I've been in this state recently. I am used to running in the morning. Running likes to think and reflect. Usually there are a lot of writing ideas at this time. I think I should solve it. Must be a good article.

But when I got home, I just played with my mobile phone, watched TV and chatted with my friends, and forgot to write.

There are two main reasons for my analysis: First, I think writing is too simple. Writing needs not only ideas, but also an extension of an idea, which requires us to think deeply.

Just as we want to gain knowledge through reading, we won't have a book list in the end. We must spend time and energy reading and thinking in order to gain something.

Second, I am afraid that I will write for an hour or two, and it is not as good as others for 20 minutes. This proves that my ability is poor, and this is the ultimate sentence for myself.

Doing nothing can keep us away from pain, so why should we refuse pain?

The reason is simple, it will make you blind and lose hope for life.

For example, if I go on like this, I will look really terrible after ten years.

With a salary of around 8,000, I live an eight-to-eight life. I dare not buy clothes and cosmetics or even go to Starbucks, which I go to every week, for the sake of my children's living expenses, tuition fees and various cram schools. ...

With this in mind, I know I must change. Only proactive people can control their own lives.

If you want what you want, you have to keep trying and not be afraid of failure.

I have a friend, and many girls like him. There was a sister in the company who liked her and confessed many times. He refused many times. When I met him, that girl had been chasing you for two years.

But my sister never gave up, and still took the initiative to contact him, care about him, and create every possible opportunity to be with him. Invite colleagues to go out for activities, such as picnics, barbecues and foot baths. ...

Finally found a way to become a roommate. As the saying goes, the advantage lies in the first month. Finally caught up with that boy in the third year.

They got married at the end of February, 20 19, and the background picture of the boy's WeChat circle of friends is their wedding photo now. Personality signature is: love your wife, love yourself, love life, and show love from time to time.

Why are so many singles thriving now? Good point, but I don't like it. I like to recite if I can't say it well. The shelf is too high! Feeling rejected is a hard thing to say.

In fact, pursuing a person who doesn't like himself is the same as growing up. You need to keep trying, keep making mistakes, and don't give up. You will get what you want sooner or later.

If we want to fail, we will succeed. If we want to become famous in one fell swoop, either you have accumulated over time or you are gifted.

At the same time, if you want to be excellent all the time, you can't do without it. Even if you are a genius, you should keep learning.

Shang is a typical example of playing with residual hands.

Therefore, we don't have to be afraid of failure, but learn to be braver, especially you and me in the ordinary.

I've been watching the biography of Zeng Guofan recently. Zeng Guofan told us that as long as we are not afraid of failure, efforts will certainly attract our own spring.

Zeng Guopan took seven exams before he was admitted to the scholar. He has no talent for reading. There is a story about a thief who intends to climb over the wall and steal from his house. When he climbed to the roof, he found himself reciting.

The thief wanted to wait until he knew it by heart before going in to steal, but at the fourth watch, the thief woke up after a sleep and said angrily, you are so stupid. I can recite this poem, and then the thief recited it once and then climbed over the wall.

He never gave up, but constantly reflected on his studies day after day, and finally became a national hero when the Great Qing Dynasty was in danger.

Learning and growth is a process of repeated defeats and wars. Life is never better than a general, but there is never a shortage of people who dare to try and make mistakes.

There is no pie in the sky, only a trap. Traps are not terrible, what is terrible is yourself, and you dare not face your heart.

Man's greatest enemy is not others, but himself. When you do a good job of yourself, you will definitely open up a different kind of scenery through constant attempts.