Once upon a time, a clip of Teacher Gao Yalin and Jiao Junyan discussing life became a hot search.

31-year-old Jiao Junyan is also facing the distress of being urged to get married. She is not enthusiastic about marriage and childbirth, but the ideas of the younger generation collide with the traditional ideas of her parents.

This is also a common problem faced by many young people today. Teacher Gao Yalin said something sincere and sincere, which is quite surprising.

He said:

Parents are a wall between us and death. When your parents are here, you can't see death. When your parents are gone, you face death. This has nothing to do with age. If you are 30 years old now, you will not want to get married. Even if you are 60 years old, you will not think about it because there is a wall blocking it. Once your parents are gone, you begin to see clearly the end of your life.

The words made me feel sad.

In my opinion, these remarks are not to urge marriage, but to discuss the meaning of life with young people.

When we are 30 years old and our parents are still alive, even if we are not married yet, we will not think too much about getting married and having children, because we cannot truly perceive the preciousness of life.

But once our parents leave, we can see the end of our lives at a glance, and then we realize that our lives are actually very short.

And our parents, precisely because they have begun to face death, are afraid that they will not be able to keep up, so they worry about how their children will survive in this world if they are no longer alive in the future.

You may not follow your parents’ opinions, but you cannot ignore the natural law of death, let alone the aging of your parents.

I once read a similar sentence in "One Hundred Years of Solitude", which made me deeply touched by Gao Yalin's words:

Parents are the mat between us and death. . You and death seem to be looking at each other from a distance and have no feelings. Your parents are between you. Only after your parents pass away will you face these things directly. Otherwise, the death you see will be very abstract and you will not know. .

In the article "My Mother", Mr. Lao She recorded that he stayed away from his hometown and mother to escape the war. Whenever I receive a letter from home, I don’t dare to open it immediately.

He wrote:

People, even if they live to be eighty or ninety years old, can still be somewhat childish if they have a mother. Without a loving mother, a flower is like a flower in a vase. Although it still has color and fragrance, it has lost its roots. People who have mothers have peace of mind. I'm afraid, afraid, afraid that the letters from home will bring bad news, telling me that I have become a flower that has lost its roots.

The sentence "When parents are here, there is still a way forward in life, but when parents are gone, there is only a way back in life." It has touched the tears of many children.

It is not only the love and protection they give us, but more importantly, the psychological support parents give our children.

No matter how old we are, as long as we are in front of our parents, we are still the naughty children who take pleasure in them. Even if everyone asks you to face the responsibilities and pains of the adult world, they will always be your spiritual haven.

Yue Yunpeng, who is funny and shows off his treasures, always has a hidden pain in his heart.

That was before he became popular. One year, he went to Germany to perform.

Just the day before the performance, Yue Yunpeng received a call from his family. His father, who had been bedridden for several years, finally failed to make it home.

On the other end of the phone, several sisters were crying. At that moment, he felt like his sky was falling.

But he always remembered what his master always said, "The show is bigger than the sky." The audience was their parents, so he finally decided to stay.

Unable to go home to see his father for the last time, he kept kowtowing to his father's photo on his iPad. My father who is far away in heaven, I hope you can forgive your son for not being able to come back as soon as possible.

On the stage, he led the audience to sing the joyful "Song of the Five Rings", but there were tears in his eyes, and the tears were about to fall down in the next second.

After the performance, he rushed home as quickly as possible and could not kneel at his father's funeral.

He said that he wished he could borrow a few more hours from God to have a good meal with his father.

Later, he wrote about his longing for his father on his Weibo. Every word of Yue Yunpeng, who was not highly educated, moved the audience to tears.

If there was an elevator that went straight to heaven, I would risk everything to see you. Let me show you my results and see if I have some potential. If there was an elevator that went directly to heaven, I would risk everything to see you. Let you see my children, they look like me and you.

Unfortunately, there is no direct elevator to heaven, and those who wave to each other will never see each other again.

It is said in "The Biography of Lin Huiyin": A person has to experience too many life, separation and death in his life, and those sudden separations often catch people off guard.

We meet each other everywhere in life, but sometimes we turn around and it really lasts a lifetime. From now on, we will never see each other again.

I sometimes wonder, what will I do when my parents pass away one day?

But just thinking about it makes me feel heartbroken.

I am used to seeing my mother busy and happy in the kitchen when I get home, and I am used to my father being silent but always sitting with me silently.

I can’t imagine what it will be like to have all of this disappear one day.

Children’s lives are not just for their parents, but without their parents, this long life is like rootless duckweed.

My monitor in junior high school was an outstanding boy who just returned from studying in France last year.

But not long after returning to China, his father left him forever due to a power leakage accident.

Not long before his death, the two of them were dreaming about their future life together. What kind of house should I buy and what names should I give my grandchildren?

Unexpectedly, before all this came to pass, my father gave up and passed away.

He cried heartbrokenly in front of his father's grave, feeling that he had lost the opportunity forever before he could fulfill his filial piety.

For a long time afterwards, he could not get out of this haze.

After being drunk late at night, he wrote in his circle of friends: I have never shared his hard work in the past few decades, and he will never see me running around in the vast world again.

If he were younger, he would be angry because his father arranged for him to study abroad, and he would also be angry because he was forced to go on a blind date. Now, all that is left is desolation.

How much he wanted to listen to his father's nagging again. This time, no matter how many times he asked him to go on a blind date, he would definitely obey.

As long as he is given another chance to come back.

In this world, there are two words, which are actually very cruel, and that is regret.

It represents all the things you can do but have not done, the things you clearly have the ability to achieve but have not turned into reality, and the regrets for the past.

For many things, you have to blame yourself after losing them: Why couldn't you cherish them more at that time?

You don’t have to listen to your parents’ life advice, but you can be more patient and softer. You don’t have to accept your parents’ urging to get married, but you can bring them into your life and tell them that you can also live a good life.

Many years later, when I read again Shi Tiesheng's sentences in "Notes Under the Wall" after his mother's death, I still couldn't help crying:

I remember The scene of my mother disappearing into that high blue-gray wall... Between the silent wall and the silent me, wildflowers swell their buds, and the endless road spreads endlessly between the walls...

Please cherish it That wall around you, once it falls, you will face death.