If you like someone, you must have a perseverance spirit. You can't think that she doesn't like you, so you can't back down. That's the act of a coward.

Here I will tell you a story: I have been chasing a girl from Wuhan University for 6 years. I fell in love with her because of a smile in junior high school....

< p>In the past six years, I have confessed too much to her. She always said: "It's impossible for us", "I don't feel it", etc. In short, just say whatever it takes to hurt my heart. How can you destroy me? Just say whatever you want!

During this period, I really understood what it means to "not ask for anything in return" and "one's own single-mindedness". Of course, during these years, I only cared about her and cared about her carefully and continuously, without caring about her. I usually don't talk to her or send messages about anything important or important. That's because I persisted until now, and found that there is more and more hope. QQ never paid attention to me at all, but now it does. Although it was just "I know, thank you," "Thank you, I know," "I know, thank you," "Thank you, I know." Of course, a miracle happened today, because she responded to my words in her personalized signature, and it was six words each. Symbol plus ellipsis! This means a lot to me.

At least, she is willing to pay attention to me, which is my hope. Slowly, I believe she will relax herself, and I am sure she is trying to communicate with me first. Let’s see if she can Can we be friends...

Of course, the above situation is like diplomacy. Diplomacy with dialogue is always promising. If she does not accept you as her boyfriend, you can first let her accept you. As ordinary friends, if she doesn't even accept this, try to get her to accept even if you have a rare conversation with her... Of course, you should also say more meaningful words of concern and don't bother her when nothing happens. And say some meaningless words, let her feel that you really like or love her, and gradually your relationship will deepen. She will also slowly get used to your care, and with this process, she will become accustomed to your care. Upgrade, upgrade to slowly get used to your love for her. It's scary at this stage. If you suddenly don't have time to pay attention to her for a long time due to personal matters, she will become unaccustomed and unnatural. This indirectly allows her to reflect on her feelings and thoughts about you. (She will have to face this step unconsciously) Because of the long-term free care, she has indeed been touched! By doing this, I think you are not far away from your goal.

So, this is what I want to tell you about the "miracles" that "exclusiveness" and "not asking for anything in return" in love bring to love! ! ! !

In addition, here are some other tips for you:

1. The secret to making a woman fall in love with you

When you just meet a girl who makes your heart beat Or let a woman fall in love with you forever and let her fall in love with you naturally. Remember the following twenty commandments.

Remember to call and say hello every day.

You must laugh when she tells a joke.

Tell her I want to see you again soon.

When talking to her, be sure to look at her.

When you call her, just say: "I'm fine, I just want to hear your voice."

Remember to buy some small gifts for her when she is sick.

Write a short poem to her.

Invite her to dance in the living room at home.

Send her a bouquet of flowers for no reason.

Send her a card every day telling her, "I miss you."

Send her a small gift on your anniversary.

Kiss her suddenly in the middle of talking to her.

When taking her for a walk on the beach, look up at the stars (if you are not usually so elegant, please don’t be too pretentious to avoid having the opposite effect.)

Tell Her little secret about you.

Remind her that you think she is still the most beautiful woman the world has ever seen (of course, if objectively speaking, she is not very beautiful, please think of other words of praise.)

Don't stop giving her some surprises.

Watch some feminine literary films with her, and don’t criticize her for being too sentimental.

Light a candle when chatting with her at night.

Say "I love you" every day.

Don’t forget basic courtesy and say “thank you”.

2.

1. What kind of first impression should be left on MM (Time: Just started to contact MM)

1. I think the most important thing is Yes, it is to let MM see your ambition.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people do not work long hours and cannot be considered "successful". At this time, you have to make your girlfriend think that you are a motivated person.

You can talk nonsense about other things, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you already have long-term plans. In short, your future Not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible

Don’t be like a child. Girls are lazy and hope they can find someone to rely on. You have to show your confidence and responsibility. Heart comes.

It is better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

3. Don’t be too serious, but don’t be too casual either.

Be serious where you should be serious, and laugh when you should be ridiculous.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so don’t appear to care about anything, as that would be too dull.

4. Look more mature

Men who are calm and unhurried in situations are fatally attractive to girls.

2. How to have further contact with MM (time: the beginning of chasing)

1. The most important thing at this stage is not to be anxious, not to make things so clear, let People can tell at a glance that you are chasing them.

Think about it, most people will not fall in love with you at first glance, but they will also not hate you at first glance. They are all ordinary people’s children (unless you look like Chow Yun-fat, Andy Lau or Kevin Coster) (Na), goodwill needs to be realized as understanding continues to increase, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from a girl’s perspective: If you rush over to find someone so directly, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find out that I don't like you after being in contact for a while, wouldn't it be like playing tricks on you? So if you come out with a determined attitude from the beginning, you will basically be put back immediately.

2. Start with a low profile

First of all, you must position the relationship as a "friend". It is originally an "ordinary friend". You hope to become a "good friend" with good taste

p>

You can also ask the other person to become a "confidante" or something, but never say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then the girl will have less chance to "reject" you - how can she reject you if you don't pursue her? !

This can reduce the psychological pressure on girls and enable you to have a smooth relationship. Don't imagine that you will agree to marry you after only three days of knowing each other. You need to fully communicate and understand each other. Feelings do not arise out of thin air.

3. Don’t be too impatient in the process of dating.

Be relaxed and don’t pester others all day long. You will get tired of anyone who treats you like this. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing a girl is eight words - "hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the culmination of many years of hard work by my classmate).

Of course they won’t think well of you if you keep pestering them all day long. If you cool off for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your presence.

Also, don’t have the ambition of “I won’t marry you unless you”. It’s not good if the price is too low. Sometimes you can use some tricks.

4. Create opportunities appropriately

As mentioned earlier, don’t make things immediately turn into “you are chasing someone else”, and you need to get the opportunity to get close to girls. It all depends on your creativity.

You can collect intelligence and find ways to turn waiting around into an encounter; you can also pretend to be casual and find the most sufficient reasons to invite the other person to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place. If it really doesn’t work, you can ask your seniors for advice.

5. Don’t: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things and give them to others. However, they don’t know that this is the most taboo thing for chasing girls.

As the saying goes, "No reward for no work". If you give people things like this, you are putting pressure on them. People will feel that they owe you something, so they will find a way to pay you back. If they can't pay you back, they will Find a way not to associate with you so that you don't always owe you favors.

If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well ask a girl to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat, or finding an expensive place to play together. Girls will naturally be able to see that you spend money. It was a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people together rather than turned into things to take home.

3. What exactly is a “girlfriend”?

1. "Girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise

When you start dating a girl, you change from "ordinary friends" to "good friends", and then to To a "very, very good friend who talks about everything

", you "accidentally" pulled her hand on a sunny afternoon; "Moon on the Willow Head", you suddenly struck< /p>

Kissed her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Regardless of whether she admits it or not, she already thinks that you are her boyfriend.

I know that the wisest person didn’t even ask “Will you be my girlfriend” until we went to bed? In the end, the girl got anxious and said, “Why don’t you ask me to be your girlfriend? ”

So, don’t rush to pierce the window paper. The more hazy the situation is, the better it is for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As mentioned before, confession is actually just a formality. The correct sequence should be: Only after she has actually become your girlfriend can you confess your love to someone, and it will be a matter of course. Many people don't understand this issue and always think that someone agrees to be their girlfriend first and then does whatever they want. I can only say that he is very, very "innocent" and also very, very "stupid".

3. Is there ever a time when you “have no choice but to express your feelings”?

Yes, for example, a third party appears, or the relationship between you and the girl is not mature but the two of you may be separated for a period of time.

The confession at this time is an immature confession, and the risk is very high. It is similar to the serious situation when playing Go. The lagging side is forced to release the "winner's hand", and if it wins, it wins. If you lose, you can only say "Unlucky people are born".

4. Don’t say the word "love" easily

I often see "bold confessions" appearing on forums. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment, and even a kind of responsibility.

Men who say "love" casually are irresponsible.

4. Civilized love should not be forced.

1. Not every girl can be pursued.

A good girl will always be pursued by many people. No. Maybe everyone's wish comes true, but there will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the most advanced principles of chasing girls, you still can't catch up with anyone in TWINS.

Think about the problem from another angle. A rural nanny who has not graduated from elementary school, no matter how nice she is to you, earns 600 a month and buys you 700 gifts (overdraft), and is willing to "play a role" for you. "You won't fall in love with her either. If she cries and pesters you every day, you will definitely feel annoyed.

So love needs a material foundation, or at least a balance.

2. Chasing girls is a serious social activity.

Don’t annoy others and leave a way out for yourself. Why should a man worry about not having a wife? Some girls are indeed snobbish (a minority). If you are not convinced, you can work hard and use facts to prove that "she was blind at the time." Never mislead others or yourself.

Finally, don’t appear cynical in front of MM. Being cynical sometimes means “you are a failure.”