We have a huge misunderstanding about the relationship between adult children and parents: we always think that children and parents should be emotionally close. This view is rooted in our filial piety culture that has been circulating for many years, and it is thought that this is affection and love. Therefore, if children are emotionally alienated from their parents, they can easily be regarded as problems. This kind of problem is sometimes regarded as insufficient communication, sometimes as a generation gap caused by age and social culture, and sometimes even labeled as moral: not caring enough for parents and unfilial. We didn't expect that this alienation between children and parents is not a problem, but it reflects a reasonable emotional need of people: the need for independence.
Blocking the seemingly simplest behavior in the circle of friends reduces the possibility of quarreling with your parents, but it also isolates your parents' understanding of you. I fully understand the panic of wanting to wind up a circle of friends but worrying about being monitored by my parents. After all, I have my own life circle. In fact, whether to block the circle of friends can not measure the standard of parent-child relationship. The concept of children and parents is very different, and the circle of friends will reveal some value orientations more or less. Expose some negative energy, you have the ability to handle it, there is no need to worry about your parents. Everyone has a unique way to communicate with their parents? The circle of friends exists only to show a small part of life.
Most people always think that parents don't understand children. To make children do things is to force them. Once my mother came to add me on the first day of learning WeChat. About five minutes later, there were several more little red dot in the circle of friends. When I opened it, it turned out that my mother was browsing every circle of friends from bottom to top, just like the emperor was reading the memorial, giving advice one by one. I was so scared that I immediately blocked her and quit my mother's circle of friends like these people. Later, I found something interesting and sent it to my mother. She always replied with a smile.