This article is about how to ensure that others' comments on you are positive, so as to promote your career development. If you have never thought about this problem, then these rules will help you re-recognize the information you send and teach you how to improve it to get attention. You can't stop people's comments, but you can consciously guide and change them. These rules will make you more fashionable, confident, stylish, elegant and likable.
Remember that poem by Kipling? "If people around you attack you unreasonably, you can still remain calm and calm …" So, how can you let others know that you still remain calm? It's simple. Just smile. No matter what happens, keep smiling. When you meet your colleagues in the morning, greet them with a smile; Smile when shaking hands; Smile when you encounter setbacks. In short, keep smiling no matter what happens.
How the hell am I supposed to laugh? Smile cordially and sincerely-let the smile bloom in your eyes-sincere, frank, sincere, cheerful and happy. The easiest way to have such a smile is from the heart. You can't fake such a smile, because others will see through it at a glance. Sincerity is the only way to express sincerity. You must feel happy and cheerful from the heart, otherwise your smile will appear hypocritical and deliberate. If you can't do this, you might as well put away your fake smile and fly away. Assuming that your smile is sincere and friendly enough, then you can consider how to improve your smile and make it more charming through repeated drills, but the premise is still from the heart. We assume that this premise has been established.
Smile in the mirror, and you may feel that your smile is not quite right. This is normal. I can only see my face in the mirror, and the photos are not good. These are two-dimensional representations, and a lot of information can't be conveyed in the expression. You need to fully observe your smile from a three-dimensional perspective, and there is only one way left-taking a video. If you are embarrassed to find a partner or friend to take pictures for you, then you can only take selfies.
Finally, when practicing smiling, don't grin, just show a few teeth moderately to make yourself look sincere and happy. Keep practicing until you are satisfied.
We often shake hands with others, but we usually shake hands unconsciously. Have you counted how many people you shake hands with every week? Have you thought about the importance of shaking hands? This short grip can actually convey a lot of information, so you should use it to convey your confidence, reliability and trustworthiness. When you shake hands with others, you should let them feel your strength, confidence, enthusiasm and composure-the real you.
If you still have questions about your handshake, ask a friend to tell you. How to improve the way of handshake? It must be solid and powerful. You can feel the strength with your other hand and practice fully. But don't push too hard, it makes people feel that your fingers are about to be crushed. You can create your own unique way of shaking hands and impress others.
Shaking hands is a traditional and formal etiquette.
People who shake hands generally take the initiative to reach out, and the rhythm of strength is just right. They will also give their names while reaching out, showing warm, friendly and easy-going self-confidence and emitting a firm temperament. They will look you in the eye and repeat your name. People like to listen to others say their names, which also helps to strengthen their memory.
Before you introduce your name, remember to say "hello" first, and then say your full name in the traditional way.
Never say "Hello, I'm David from the marketing department". Although it looks pleasant and friendly, it will not leave an impression, nor will it help you benefit or build an advantage. It will lower you to the level of a rookie. You'd better say, "Hello, I'm David Simpson, the marketing manager." In this way, you will stand out immediately and look superior to everyone present. With a confident handshake, everything is under control.
This is our goal. As soon as you step into the office in the morning, you should make your steps light. Your colleagues may still be hung over last night, sleepy, or exhausted by the traffic on the road. But you still have to be full of energy and be ready to start your day's work, which is just a piece of cake for you.
Walk faster, not slower-this will show your enthusiasm, drive, sobriety and vitality, and show that you are ready to meet all challenges. But don't be too reckless in thinking, but know how to exercise self-restraint-don't be impetuous, lazy, unyielding and not discouraged. Keep yourself relaxed, lively, energetic and enthusiastic.
The "style" here refers to taste, discipline, education, implication, elegance, elegance, exquisiteness and uniqueness. The style you want to create needs to have these qualities in order to attract people's attention. Dyeing your hair red or wearing second-hand goods bought from charity shops every day is also an eye-catching style, but law practitioners will not do so.
If you want to create your own style, the following suggestions can be used for your reference.
You should check your appearance every morning to make sure you are in the best condition. Details are important. Any detail that you despise may be discovered by others, and it may be related to whether you can be promoted. Go to work every day as seriously as attending an interview. Check the following items carefully before going out:
Shiny leather shoes and proper care;
Clothes are flat, clean as new, in good condition, without buttons, threads, wear and cracks;
Take a bath frequently and use some perfume when necessary;
Wash your hair every day, do your hair regularly, and don't change it frequently;
Men should shave. If they must grow beards, be sure to check for scattered stubble, fluff and debris.
Ladies can simply make up, but they must be dignified and decent, with stable style and perfect details;
Clean teeth, fresh breath and clean tongue coating (no yellow coating);
Clean nails and trim them flat;
Keep your hands clean, and don't leave dirt because of repairing old cars, DIY or pruning flowers and plants-remember to wear a pair of thin gloves when doing these dirty jobs;
If you like smoking or drinking coffee, make sure your teeth (smokers should also pay attention to their hands) are free of stains, and chew a few pieces of mint or chewing gum to remove the smell from your mouth;
Trim nose hair (or ear hair);
If you wear glasses at ordinary times, make sure the style of glasses is appropriate, and replace them once a year to ensure that your eyesight is clear and your glasses are in good condition-there are no cracks in the lenses and the frames are not skewed.
You don't have to be vain, and you don't have to look at yourself often. Just keep good personal habits, relax and enjoy life.
It is an indisputable fact that people with outstanding appearance are more likely to succeed than ordinary people, and statistics can also prove this. Those who are outstanding in appearance can make progress in their careers without so much effort. But what makes a person attractive and attractive? If you pay attention to those attractive people, you will find it difficult to know what their secrets are. If we don't consider the obvious physiological defects that can be repaired manually, such as broken teeth or collapsed nose, we will find it difficult to define attraction accurately.
Take Hollywood stars as an example. Liza minnelli, Woody Allen, julia roberts, sean penn and others are not handsome and beautiful women in the traditional sense, but we still feel that they are charming and graceful, and this attraction comes to us. They are energetic, personable and different. You should also have these qualities, which is easier than being born with beauty.
If you want to be more attractive, you must read this article carefully. If you dress appropriately, have a good appearance, have a perfect smile, always be calm and confident, be warm and friendly to everyone, express clearly and be considerate, then people will find you very attractive. A good appearance is deeply rooted in a person's smile and eyes. It must be charming to be able to light up the whole room with a smile. A pair of sparkling eyes is enough to make us feel that face is radiant.
Charm also lies in attitude and behavior. If you look listless, you are emitting gloom and depression to the outside world, which is unattractive and will only make you look bad. Stand up straight when walking and shaking hands, and be sure to respect yourself. People think you are positive, honest, happy and confident. This is the charm. Your appearance should be impeccable, your clothes should have excellent taste, your style should be gentle but not vulgar, and your manners should be outstanding. This is also charm.
Please remember not to display the following:
It should be:
Whenever and wherever you work, you should keep calm and never let go of your dignity. If there is a masquerade party in the office, you can make fun of everyone, but just leave those masquerade parties to them. You should stay away from these boring pastimes in the office. Will this bring you bad reviews and make people feel that you are cold, arrogant and self-righteous? Don't care about this, because you know you don't have to dress up as Elvis Presley or a fairy, you can also win the appreciation, admiration and respect of others.
You should keep calm at all times. You can participate in and support such activities as generously as possible, but leave the clown's red nose for others to wear-at least during work hours. You should always be elegant and profound. Let's face it, you go to work in the company and the company will pay you. You can't play the clown. As long as you are working for the company-and do your job well-the specific way is up to you. You can choose to devote yourself to various social activities in the office, or just be a bystander. But it is this small distance from colleagues that can make you become their superior more quickly.
But that doesn't mean you can't talk and laugh with your colleagues, just don't get too close to them, otherwise it will be difficult for you to be promoted. If you want to be their superior, you should learn to keep your distance. To do this, you must keep calm. If you don't know the meaning of "calm", you can look it up in the dictionary and thesaurus, and you will see several antonyms of it: warmth, excitement and obsolescence.
Warm-think about the feeling of sweaty palms-really not calm enough;
Excited-thinking of the little boy on Christmas Eve-cute but not calm;
Out of date-think of a thick sweater-warm but not calm enough.
Therefore, we must do the following:
Calm professionals are always at ease. In times of crisis, he will not run and shout, but calmly and skillfully take safety measures to properly handle the situation. No matter when and where, he can remain rational and calm. Because of this, when everyone is in trouble, he will become everyone's dependence. The company does not need an employee who panics when something happens. What the company needs is calmness, composure and composure.
What is proper speech? Do you want to speak clearly like a BBC anchor? Of course not. You can keep your accent, which is not a problem. Let's re-examine the purpose of speaking-to communicate with people and convey information, not to say it for the sake of saying it. Therefore, speaking appropriately means conveying information clearly and effectively. It doesn't matter how you express yourself, what matters is that you can convey the information clearly. This is the only purpose of the conversation.
When speaking, try to avoid the following situations:
If you want to speak properly, you need to do the following: clear voice; Speech is clear; An affable attitude; Concise expression.
These are all things you must know. If you can do the above four points, you won't make mistakes. People will not only remember what you said, but also impress them with your clear and bright voice. The function of proper words cannot be ignored. If you are listless and inarticulate when introducing your name, people will think that you lack self-confidence, have stage fright and are unsociable, and then you will soon forget you. If you come with confidence and say your name clearly and confidently, people will think that you know your direction, self-orientation and goals, and remember you for it. Speak as concisely as possible, just express what you want to say directly, and don't drag your feet.
Writing has no more than two purposes: writing for yourself or writing for others. If you write for yourself, you can write anything you like. You can scribble, even if it looks like the handwriting of a five-year-old child, it doesn't matter, as long as you don't show it to others. But if you are writing for others, there is a lot to pay attention to. People will judge you according to the following two points:
Ha, you might say, you don't need the word "write", you type with a keyboard. So, what font do you use? Why use this font? What is the font size? Why use this font size? In addition, you always need to sign documents, which is also writing. Your signature, like anything you write, will be evaluated by others. Someone once told me that my signature looks like a rich man. Although it is not in line with reality, it is great, which shows that I am really getting closer and closer to the image I want to create.
Finally, remember one thing: when signing, write bigger, because the signatures of big people are very big. If you often write with pen and paper, please pay attention to the following points:
Clear handwriting-make sure everyone can understand it, otherwise it will be meaningless and rude to write it;
Neat and clean-pay attention to the alignment up and down;
Form a style-handwriting ups and downs in time;
Skilled and steady-the handwriting is smooth and coherent;
Consistency-Font styles should always be consistent.
Pay attention to spacing and inclination when writing. You may not realize it yourself-whether it's signature or other writing-that if the font leans to the right, it means that the person is depressed. Optimists tend to lean upward. Make sure your spelling and grammar are correct-if you can't, make it up quickly. If you often type on the keyboard, please choose Times New Roman or Arial fontNo. 12 (Song Style or Microsoft Yahei, Chinese No.5 or No.4), and use italics, boldface and underscores as little as possible. Remember not to mix multiple fonts or font sizes, which will make others think you are immature and unstable, although you may find it interesting.