Makoto is sweet and lovely, and the family environment is good. She was born in a scholarly family and lived in a luxurious seaside villa designed by her grandfather. Her father is a well-known book editor, and the unknown novelist Zecun, whom she discovered, lives in her house. This is simply the standard of a "princess", ignorant of the world and uncontested. In her eyes, the world is full of truth, goodness and beauty, and there is no ugly side. Surrounded by love, people are as pure and kind as babies.
Lily was born into a chaotic upstart family. Her father is a prodigal son and her mother doesn't care about her family. Her younger brothers are all fighting for love, and a strange millet wants to sleep with her. She hugged her from behind from time to time and secretly thought, I want to sleep with you!
Lily and Makoto became good girlfriends and asked Makoto for everything she loved. When they first met, they asked Makoto's grandmother for a necklace. They couldn't refuse and finally lost their first love.
Lily's jealousy and longing for the truth erupted like a volcano. Jealousy, depression and madness in comparison. She vowed to turn all the truth into her own. Her jewelry, toys, first love and father. I even want to be myself and be the truth.
In order to achieve this goal, seduce Makoto's favorite brother and tell him that I'm here to beg you to help me get my virginity. Don't refuse!
In the face of Makoto's father, Lily is also trying to please, using the child's simple ignorance to cover up the most active temptation, and finally successfully seduced Makoto's father on a rainy night, and all this happened to be seen by Makoto through the door.
I didn't expect my father, who is so close to me on weekdays, to have such a dirty side. Makoto refused to look at his father from now on, and directly killed his father mentally. Her father was soon humiliated and committed suicide.
In order to get revenge on the relatives and friends who won their first love, the innocent and kind hero really spent 20 years cultivating his son born with his first love and relatives and friends Lily into a "favorite boyfriend".
The plot of this TV series makes people's brains wide open, and it is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge for ten years. Makoto took 20 years to get revenge. It can be said that it was because Makoto didn't know how to refuse when she was a girl that she killed her father Lily, wasted her youth and lost her lover.
Even the children in kindergarten know that their beloved toys should be protected when they are robbed. Selfishness is our nature. Whether mature or naive, we all know that selfishness does not mean being good to ourselves. Under the selfish nature, we can get along well with other people in the world.
2. "Hello, thank you, I'm sorry." It's a common high-frequency word we used since childhood, and I almost blurted it out. Parents, teachers and friends seldom teach us to say "no". Saying "no" means refusing, not accepting, not agreeing, and can even be regarded as a rude and modest behavior.
The story of Kong Rong releasing pears is a beautiful story. Everyone sees the word "concession" and thinks that concession is a virtue. Isn't it safe for everyone to put it down? Actually, this is an idealistic idea. Human nature is greedy. Concession is against basic human nature and unnatural. It is impossible for everyone to give in.
Kong Rong may have a bodhisattva heart. Out of sensibility, he naturally gave up Doesn't he really want to eat big pears? In those days, eating pears should be said to be a luxury for ordinary families. Such a small child wants to eat the big one, but prefers to eat the small one and give the big one to others. Some people say this is humility, but I think it is a dehumanizing practice.
In the third grade of primary school, my mother bought me a red and white dress. I like it very much. I only wear it two or three times, but I usually hate wearing it. One day, my neighbor's daughter wanted to take part in a singing contest and borrow my skirt. I refused on the spot. But my mother took it from me and handed it to him, saying that children are not sensible. I was so angry that I cried. My neighbor's daughter didn't return it to me, and my mother was embarrassed to ask for it.
When I first went to work, every morning, several of their colleagues would throw a stack of materials on my desk for me to finish. As a new trainee, I have to help them do their job well, but in order to impress everyone, I work overtime until midnight every day and go on a business trip to bring them some small gifts to please them. Help them cook at noon; Buy snacks for them ... I just want them to think that this new girl is really nice.
One day, just after work, my colleague put his project on my desk. "Please, I have a very important appointment tonight." Then he walked away. I was busy until the early hours of the morning.
Two days later, the supervisor flew into a rage and said that my data was wrong. I argued that my test results were behind. The supervisor said angrily that you signed the inspection report and you took full responsibility. Write a check and deduct this month's bonus.
Afterwards, my colleagues not only didn't sympathize with me, but laughed at me in person, really treating themselves like onions.
Not everyone can be a "good girl".
3. When saying "no", how can we make others not dislike themselves and offend others less?
One of the elegant ways to refuse others is written in Cai Kangyong's Way of Speaking: When you say "no", try to blame yourself and put the blame on yourself.
Yu Zi is very reluctant to refuse others. Asking her to say "no" directly is like asking a cat to bark.
This habit of insulting good people certainly killed her. What is even more uneconomical is that even if she reluctantly agrees to other people's demands, she will often attract their resentment or complaints because she is not doing well enough.
After several such incidents, Yu Zi decided to learn to say "no". It's just that when she got up the courage to say "no" to other people's demands, it sounded a little rude and heartless, which made her feel bad.
A true wise man dares to face up to his true inner needs and set a good example for others.
When someone asks Yu Zi to help repair the computer, he won't simply say, "Sorry, I don't have time." .
He said in a soft and powerful tone, see how I can delay! The boss asked me to hand out the report this morning, and I haven't finished typing it yet! I am dead! Let me get through this first! I am really slow!
When someone invites him to eat with his classmates, he won't say, I don't want to eat with strangers! Excuse me.
He will say, I will be disappointed if I can't put down eating with strangers, and I will definitely let your classmates down. I hope more people will sing together in the future.
In this way, you can't blame yourself for breaking the game. Although it seems that you have wronged yourself, you only need to say a word for five seconds, which is very cost-effective, avoiding rushing to repair the computer and embarrassing dinner.
4. Reject others gracefully. The second trick: when you speak, you are like a martial arts master who knows Tai Chi. There are no complicated moves, but you are soft and firm, and you can always easily defeat the seemingly fierce hordes of the other side.
Lin Chi-ling was once scolded by Edison Chen inexplicably in English, which shocked him for a while.
In the face of the media's coercion, Lin Chi-ling said: "I don't know him at all, and I don't know what happened." He said that he didn't contact each other at all, and he didn't know each other. He felt helpless in the face of inexplicable injuries. He said he wanted to know what happened and bluntly said, "No head, no tail."
Later, I wrote in Weibo: No argument is compassion, no argument is wisdom, ignorance is purity, no reading is freedom, forgiveness is liberation, and contentment is letting go.
My colleague asked me if I could help him finish the work. I can't help sighing. If I can't go home on time to pay the electricity bill today, I'll have to buy a flashlight at night.
My best friend said, Wow, your skirt is really beautiful! Can I borrow it for a few days?
I can't bear to wear it myself, let alone borrow it, but I will say with a sad face that my mother has arranged an extremely important blind date and I will wear it tomorrow to attract male gods.
My neighbor's five-year-old son came to visit my sister's four-year-old daughter. Before he left, he asked, Aunt, can you give me her little pig Peggy? My neighbor looked at me expectantly.
I would say that Niu Niu must sleep with Paige at night, or she will cry all the time.
Learning to refuse others is not to let you spit out a cold "no" to protect your rights and interests. Learn to refuse gracefully, and others will not think you are heartless.
When Lily asks Makoto for her grandmother's necklace, she can calmly say that if my grandmother doesn't see me wearing it, she will definitely scold me to death and punish me for not eating for three days and nights.
When Lily wants Makoto to give up his sweetheart and forgive her for a while, Makoto can cry and say, I can't live any longer. I can only jump into the sea for no real reason.
When Lily heard his request, she was gently rejected again and again, just like hitting cotton with a stone, which is neither painful nor itchy. How can she completely grasp the happiness of the truth?