After watching several episodes of "Housework Men", the couple I envy the most is Zhang Xinyi and Yuan Hong.

Some people used to say that Zhang Xinyi had a good life. At that time, I didn’t feel anything. It wasn’t until I saw their marriage pattern that I realized that couples after getting married and having children can be so sweet.

As we all know, Zhang Xinyi had a marriage before, but it ended after more than a year. Zhang Xinyi once said that after the divorce, she felt very inferior and felt unworthy of Yuan Hong.

Later the two people came together and held a grand wedding.

Now the two have been married for three years and have their own children. When love is realized in daily necessities, it is the best way to tell whether a person is happy or not.

There is no doubt that Zhang Xinyi is the envy of countless women. Yuan Hong can cook, take care of children, and take care of his wife, and he often surprises Zhang Xinyi.

The latest issue of "Housework Man" was Zhang Xinyi's birthday. They held a pink party. Yuan Hong prepared a signed photo of Audrey Hepburn for Zhang Xinyi. Zhang Xinyi burst into tears on the spot. : "I actually got married quite well."

This sentence coming from a woman's mouth is enough to show the satisfaction and happiness this marriage has given her.

Zhang Xinyi’s status shows us what it looks like for a woman to marry the right person.

Whether a woman has married the right person can be summed up in three points.

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Will men share housework

In the homes of Zhang Xinyi and Yuan Hong, what we see is always the busy figure of Yuan Hong.

Yuan Hong got up at six o'clock in the morning and made breakfast. He cooked fried eggs/fried bacon/hot milk in one go. Then he asked his wife to get up and have breakfast. When the child woke up, he went to take care of the child and let his wife eat breakfast first. .

Not only that, Yuan Hong will also massage Zhang Xinyi with skillful techniques. In short, you rarely see Yuan Hong lying or sitting. He is always cleaning or washing like a top.

The other family in the show is completely different.

Wei Daxun and his father are always lying together, and his mother has no time to spare.

Such families are common. Even though we continue to advocate equality between men and women, when it comes to housework, many men default to women's obligations, and even women think so.

We envy Zhang Xinyi and praise Yuan Hong because they allow us to see a more equal marriage status.

Housework is not just for women, as fathers and husbands still have some responsibilities. If a man cares about you and loves you, he will definitely share this part with you.

In fact, what I hope to see is that one day men doing housework will no longer be talked about, but will be regarded as an ordinary thing.

In marriage, there is a man who can share the troubles of daily necessities for you. There is nothing more precious than such happiness.

Many women will fall into endless anxiety and depression after giving birth. Part of the reason is that their husbands do not do anything. Your body has not recovered during confinement, so you have to focus on housework and children, while men Looking for various reasons to escape.

When all the trivial matters of life fall on a woman, such a marriage will inevitably disappoint her.

In fact, the sense of security that women want is provided by men in every little thing in life.

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Do men give you a sense of ritual?

In the latest issue of "Men Doing Housework", Zhang Xinyi's birthday is also their wedding anniversary. They invited a lot of friends and had a pink party.

For this party, Zhang Xinyi and Yuan Hong both dressed up. Yuan Hong also cut Zhang Xinyi's hair. Although Zhang Xinyi was dissatisfied, Yuan Hong did not complain at all.

The two dressed up and attended the party, receiving blessings from everyone. That scene was really beautiful.

Not only that, Yuan Hong secretly took out a surprise for Zhang Xinyi, which was a signed photo of Audrey Hepburn, which Zhang Xinyi had always dreamed of.

Even Zhu Dan said how much time and effort it takes to get such a signed photo.

It is enough to see Yuan Hong’s intentions towards Zhang Xinyi. After many people get married, they lose the sense of ceremony and even forget their wedding anniversary.

Zhu Dan said that he and Zhou Yiwei never celebrated birthdays or wedding anniversaries. Although she explained a lot of reasons, I still saw the disappointment on her face.

For women, they always look forward to romance and surprises, and these expectations will not disappear just because they get married. Marriage is inherently dull, and a marriage without a sense of ritual becomes even more monotonous and boring.

There is this passage in "Breakfast at Tiffany's":

Most of life is so boring that it is not worth mentioning, and there is no time when it is not boring at all. Whether it is changing to another brand of cigarettes, moving to a new place, subscribing to another newspaper, falling in love and getting out, we have been fighting in a frivolous or profound way. That undying element of tedium in daily life.

The sense of ritual in marriage is particularly important. It can awaken your love for each other time and time again.

A man who loves you will not ignore your feelings and will make you feel loved and loved in a sense of ritual.

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Respect your wife’s choice

In one issue, Zhang Xinyi talked about her anxiety about not having a job after giving birth. She asked Yuan Hong if she would become Housewife, will you respect her? In addition, she also talked about the current society's high requirements for women, who have to take care of their career and family.

Yuan Hong asked: Why must we take both things into account?

His subtext is that you don’t have to take care of both. Whether you want to take care of your family or your career, I will support you.

This is what Yuan Hong said and what he did. At a family dinner, Zhang Xinyi said that the child should be weaned when he is 6-8 months old, and Yuan Hong agreed.

But her mother-in-law disagreed and asked Zhang Xinyi if she wanted to go out to work. Zhang Xinyi said that there is nothing wrong with going out to work. If she goes out to work, she and Yuan Hong will take turns taking care of the children.

My mother-in-law was not happy and repeatedly said that women still need to take care of the family more.

Seeing that the atmosphere was getting awkward, Yuan Hong immediately stood up to express his support for Zhang Xinyi, and told his mother that he also had the responsibility to take care of the children. If Zhang Xinyi took care of them, the family would be out of balance, and they would eventually have to divorce. .

With Yuan Hong's attitude, the mother-in-law did not dare to say anything more.

I think the most valuable thing about Yuan Hong is that he understands the importance of independence and equality in marriage. He understands that he has to share in taking care of the children and doing housework.

In marriage, a man who can respect his wife will definitely make her happy.

The marriage model of Zhang Xinyi and Yuan Hong allows us to see the best of contemporary marriage. The two people respect and understand each other, and the man is willing to take on his family responsibilities.

Whether a woman marries the right person depends on the above three points.

Of course, Zhang Xinyi’s marriage to the right person does not depend solely on luck. I think it is the result of business management.

Yuan Hong is considerate and understanding of Zhang Xinyi, and Zhang Xinyi also loves Yuan Hongye, such as making him supper late at night and giving him gifts.

The best marriage model is this, where both people continue to give and respect.

Writer Jandy Nelson once said:

“The most suitable partner is like walking into a house you have lived in before - you know the furniture and the walls. A painting, a book on a shelf, something in a drawer: if you were plunged into darkness in this house, you would still be able to move around freely.

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