Chapter 1: Seeing the queue makes me sick. What's wrong with that?
Chapter 2: Open more windows.
Chapter III: Inferiority makes people old.
Line up by car, line up for dinner, and line up no matter what you do. In the face of a long queue, some people will feel very uncomfortable, and even have a headache and nausea in severe cases. Why is this? Let's take a look at Bian Xiao below!
I hate waiting in line. What's wrong with that?
It is inevitable to queue up now, but Xiao Ning is totally unwilling. Whenever he sees a long line, he feels very uncomfortable. If it is really inevitable, his head will swell and even feel sick. He doesn't know what's wrong, but there is always an endless queue. Xiao Ning now, as long as one day in line, he will be too much. I wonder how long this state will last.
Spiritual navigation
Behind a long line, people are prone to anxiety and irritability. At this time, people with poor psychological quality will show the characteristics of anxiety, such as high emotional instability, easy problems, poor coping ability and so on. At this time, if it is not properly controlled, coupled with incentives, a temporary "queuing anxiety disorder" will break out, causing disputes and even starting work.
People like Xiao Ning are prone to anxiety and irritability when waiting in line, a large part of which comes from worry and fear.
They adapt to the tense working style and like to keep their schedules full. Taking the bus, going to the bank, going to the hospital and other events are arranged as secondary tasks in their schedule. Secondary jobs often take up a lot of time, which they can't allow. So they worry that they don't have time to finish their "important" work, and the progress behind them can't be realized, which has become the source of their anxiety.
On the other hand, everyone has the psychology that everything is under control, and hopes that "everything is under control". They can "properly" arrange their own time, schedule and affairs and make their own decisions. When you encounter a situation where you can't control your queue, your "magic" is lost, and irritability, anxiety and sense of loss appear.
Indeed, the long queue itself is a test of patience and patience. If many people are under great pressure, anxious and worried about queuing, the process will inevitably make people anxious. In addition, if you meet people who cut in line, you may commit "queue anxiety".
Psychiatric prescription
Only by clarifying the causes of anxiety, reasonably arranging work and life, and prioritizing can we effectively alleviate the anxiety caused by this fear.
Breaking the creed and accepting the facts will make life easier. Xiao Ning should break the creed and accept the fact that we can't control everything. Besides, we have to accept the reality, such as long queues to go to the hospital and handle business in the bank. This is the present situation of our country. Complaints, grievances and anger cannot fundamentally reverse this situation. In fact, as a server, there are also many complaints and dissatisfaction. Complaining with each other is likely to lead to greater conflicts and losses between the two sides. Accepting this reality can calm your mind.
In order to alleviate "queuing anxiety", psychological adjustment should be made first in queuing for a long time. People often say that it is cool when it is quiet. In fact, there are many ways to relieve your anxiety when waiting in line. If you wait a long time, you might as well get ready in advance, listen to music, or recall some interesting things. If you have company, you can chat to distract yourself, and so on. Time will soon pass, and that kind of expectation and anxiety will naturally fade away.
Don't think of the time in line as an idle time, and don't think of it as a hateful time that takes up precious time, but think of it as available resources and rare leisure time. Use this time to relax. You can read newspapers and magazines provided by the service place, or you can bring a book to entertain yourself. Or do a meditation relaxation exercise, which can not only preserve health but also meditate.
Meditation exercises are: tighten your whole body, close your eyes slightly, then take a deep breath, be sure to be deep, and then exhale slowly. At the same time, your whole body gradually relaxes. Five times in a row, you will find that a quiet heart can fully enjoy this wonderful time.
Open more windows.
People are old and slow to respond. This computer is old and slow.
Facing the slow computer, I wrote my QQ signature "Old computer, I really want to crash." As soon as this signature went up, many QQ friends gave me comfort.
QQ friends are mostly old friends. I poured bitter water on my good friend's patience: "My computer runs very slowly. When the voltage is unstable, I often drop the line and wait a long time to open an article. " I feel a little better after reading this article. When I clicked on another article, although the computer was running slowly, I was actually disconnected. Do you think I am in a good mood now? "
My best friend gave me a hint.
In my case, "Patience" made a smiling expression and typed: "Look, you are as old as me, and you are as angry as young people. I'll tell you a solution: you can open more articles at a time. In this way, it will definitely take longer to open the window. During this time, don't sit in a chair all the time, do some exercise in front of the computer, and then sit down and read one by one after all the articles are opened. In this way, you can read the whole article continuously at one time, and combine reading with exercise. What a wonderful thing! "
I followed the "patient" method, and my troubles really disappeared. Because of the middle exercise time, I feel more energetic, and then I feel happier reading articles.
This reminds me that when I just retired, I suddenly couldn't adapt to the idle life. My wife suggested that I learn to surf the Internet. At that time, I felt that I was old, and it was useless to study online: my wife said that it is never too old to learn, and my talent is full. To learn more skills is to open more windows for yourself. With more windows, the air will be fresh and you will be full of energy. I listened to my wife's words, learned to surf the Internet, and made many old friends online. Now that I think about it, actually making more friends has opened another window for my soul.
Opening more windows will make our life better.
Inferiority makes people old.
There are many factors contributing to premature aging, among which inferiority complex is the catalyst.
Inferiority means that you despise yourself and look down on yourself. People who feel inferior don't necessarily have any defects and shortcomings, but they can't accept themselves and know themselves. They often put themselves in an inferior position, and then infer that others look down on themselves, thus falling into a painful situation that they can't extricate themselves, and their hearts are covered with sadness.
For people with inferiority complex, the cerebral cortex has been suppressed for a long time, the secretion of harmful hormones has increased, and the disease resistance has decreased, resulting in various diseases, such as headache, fatigue, anxiety, slow response, memory loss, loss of appetite, premature gray hair, haggard face, skin wrinkles, loose teeth, and low sexual function. These are all signs of aging. In other words, the negative psychology of inferiority directly leads to the decline of health level.
Speaking of queuing in Bian Xiao, I want to tell you about queuing to buy tickets. Many times there are no tickets when you get to your own line. In fact, if you can take the initiative in advance, you won't have these anxieties. (The article was originally published in "The Way of Keeping Healthy" and "Contemporary Health News", serial number: March 20 12, February 20 12, 16, by Zhang Jianhe, Zhang Hanwen and Xu Jin, and the copyright belongs to the author; The purpose of reprinting is to convey more information, which does not mean that 360 Common Sense Network agrees with its views and is responsible for its authenticity. Please contact us as soon as possible and we will delete the content as soon as possible.