Rowing with paddles depends on our own efforts to sail forward, while sailing with waves depends on seawater, that is, relying on the help of others. So this sentence can be understood as, you don't rely on your own efforts, you live with the help of others all your life. Without the plan and direction of life, you will not work hard, idle and indulge yourself.

1, confusion is a transitional process from one stage to the next, which is a normal phenomenon and not a problem in itself. When you come into contact with new things or enter a new environment, you will feel confused if you don't know the situation, how to choose and how to act. Do something definite, and you won't be confused.

In the era of quick success and instant benefit, some people are eager to find the correct answer once and for all, and some people try to apply effective methods to others to solve their own problems. There are always "big names" who keep telling short stories and telling big stories, telling young people how to live, what to do and what not to do, what is success and how to succeed with the truth established under special conditions.

3. The preacher likes to use "should …, must …, know …, remember …, want …, want …, as long as … then …, because …, so you must …, if …, only …".

Everyone's experience, ideas, conditions and preferences are different. How can there be a standard model in life, and how can there be so many should and shouldn't? The so-called rational advice of authoritative experts, the classic quotations of successful people, the so-called right and wrong, good and bad, should or should not, are just the limited views and experiences of the preacher, not facts.