Educating people in three aspects:
The first aspect: educating people in an all-round way: moral, intellectual, physical, aesthetic, and labor
Moral education: the journey of finding roots, we Where do you come from? Let your children go to Dahuaishu in Shanxi and the hometown of the Yellow Emperor in Xinzheng to find their roots.
Intellectual education: a family of sages: the hometown of Confucius in Qufu, to visit Mr. Confucius and feel his greatness at that time.
Sports: Strengthening plan, where does perseverance come from? It is tempered by the body. (Desert zipper is a required course in life to let children get in touch with nature)
Note: Children cannot be protected. Eternal future, please do not spoil his previous life (tempering in the desert and GE wall is required)
Aesthetic education: The ancient style family, let the children enjoy the four ancient towns in China
Labor education: Yan'an Nanniwan (farm life, doing farm work, knowing that life is not easy)
The second complete: full education:
0-3 years old: sense of security< /p>
3-6 years old: Values
7-12 years old: Habit formation
2-18 years old: Environmental influence
Chapter Sanquan: Parenting for all:
1. Maintain consistency in education (family)
2. Consistency in home-school education (home and school), such as: The system has examples and punishments
Learning is the lowest threshold. In this era, everyone can have enough food and clothing, but they must go through the material to reach the spirit
The death of Confucius Thousands of years, but forever alive in our lives.
Often parents use their own actual actions to offset the effect of their good words and preaching
Words and deeds are not consistent, and the established system requires parents to set an example, and the home and school must be *** Education.
Bottom line: I love you, no
It means I can pamper you, but it has nothing to do with you.
Often: I love unconditionally in my heart, but I can’t control my mouth. I love my heart but I hurt my mouth.
Give the decision-making power to your children (we used to help our children make decisions)
It doesn’t matter, there will be advantages and disadvantages
If you walk in front of your children and care too much, Destroy your child's martial arts skills
Give in, your child will be strong if you are weak, and your child will be weak if you are strong
Great power is held, small power is dispersed.
The tighter the power is, the more it is spread
The more selfish, the more inferior, the more selfless, the more confident,
Giving roses to others, the fragrance lingers in your hands , Doing charity is not just for the rich
Parents’ self-emotions are the first priority. Buddhas and demons always live in the human heart. If you overthrow the Buddha, the demons will come. If you give too many expectations, you will be too disappointed.
Problems bring emotions, and emotions cannot solve the problem, it will only worsen it.
When emotions arise, the alpha in the child's brain is transferred to the B-wave, which is an electric wave and tense.
Alpha is in the best learning state.
When given Child B's emotions are so strong that it takes 10 to 20 minutes to get back to what he is doing at the moment.
The gain outweighs the loss. Emotions will only irritate oneself first and then hurt others
Emotions will only In response he walks towards you in his direction.
Children learn to express their emotions, but children often do not vent their emotions, which often leads to illness.
When you grow up, you must first change your cognition, then make awareness, and finally make changes.
You have to subtract from your life, clean up all clothes without shoes, and make life simple< /p>
Adolescent children see the world through the eyes of adults, hoping that adults will see them and at the same time authorize them with power, freedom, and trust
Refined externally, cut off renunciation, and cultivated morality, concentration, and wisdom internally
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Precept: Get rid of unwanted desires.
Live a healthy life, let education return to life, and let the family return to regularity
Move to maintain health and calm the mind.
Every child has advantages and disadvantages. Only with shortcomings can children make room for progress.
Parents should not be too greedy. Get rid of their children’s shortcomings one by one and become perfect parents. Human beings are actually doomed.
Women are the feng shui of a family and control the fate of three generations of the family
Everyone’s positive and negative energy will not be withdrawn by themselves, but you will vent it to the next person , the next one is either to vent, or to put pressure on oneself psychologically.
Being a parent does not require too much materialistic pursuits. You just need to love your children wholeheartedly and be a good example without too much intervention.
Seeds and soil, what determines the results, is the seed first. Only when the seed grows well can it be followed by what kind of seed it is. It has its own natural growth rules. We should be ourselves.
After writing about the child's shortcomings and my own shortcomings, I found that three points are the same as the child's shortcomings. Through this test, the child's shortcomings are your shortcomings. You cannot have trouble with your children every day. In fact, you are having trouble with yourself.
We need to reconcile with our parents, reconcile with ourselves, love ourselves, and love our children. We don’t want our children to become the person we want them to be. We need to let them grow into the people we want them to be. .