When you find that in this relationship, you feel exhausted, anxious and depressed, with no trace of happiness and no hope of change, you should stop your losses and break up in time. .

Everyone who has been there tells us that love needs to be tempered. If two people want to love each other to the end, one party must learn to adapt and accommodate. Therefore, when we cannot lose a relationship or are eager to please our partner, we will habitually put our own needs aside, put other people's preferences and needs first, and sacrifice ourselves to accommodate others.

However, running-in is never about blindly accommodating. Innocuous things can be accommodated and tolerated, but accommodation also needs to have a bottom line and principles. The person who is favored will always feel confident. When you blindly accommodate, the balance of love will be out of balance, and you will also lose yourself in this love.

You coax him, persuade him, and beg him, but they feel that they are getting more and more reasonable, and they don’t think there is anything wrong with their behavior, so they can’t talk about self-reflection and leave you alone. I am emotionally exhausted and feel that I have become very powerless and humble, and that no matter what I do, I cannot satisfy the other party.

At this time, you have to consider whether you should stop the loss and break up.

Because, love is not a one-way dedication that deceives oneself and others. The dedication in love should be rewarded. This is not a calculation, but an expectation for the lover.

I am willing to pay for you because I love you. When you accept my contribution, you accept the signal of love. I naturally expect you to respond and tell me with your actions: Yes, I love you just like you.

A lover who doesn’t respond to you is like a black hole that will swallow up all the light and heat you send out. If you give in one direction with full of expectations, what you will get in return will be gradually extinguished passion.

Good love should make people shine brightly instead of withering in waiting. This is not the happiness of 1+1>2, but the misfortune of 1+1=0.

So, how can we psychologically encourage ourselves to stop losses in time? When you want to make a choice, you can first ask yourself these two questions:

1. If I do this, can I get more lasting and stronger happiness?

2. If you do this, can you become a better person?

If the answer to both of these is no, then your choice is not a good one. You need to be decisive and stop losses in time. This is a wise move.

You have to think like this: "It doesn't matter if I sacrificed my youth, it's better than giving my whole life; it doesn't matter if I talk about marriage, it's better than already being married; it doesn't matter if I get married and have children, it's better than already being married. It’s better to give your life.”

You have to understand that it is never too late to start a new life. We only have one youth. At critical moments, we must not be soft-hearted and must stop losses in time. Only with the awareness to stop losses in time can you throw away the love that is harmful to you and have the love that is good for you.

Professor Yi Zhongtian said that if life is in the wrong direction, stopping is progress. In fact, love and marriage are like this. No matter how hot the love was in the past, it will eventually become cold one day.