What is success? This is an old topic. However, everyone's understanding of success is different.

I remember CCTV host Wang Zhi said that success is relative and everyone has their own success standards.

Some people think that having money, a house, a car, and a woman means success.

Some people think that success is when you do something you want to do and do it well.

Some people simply deny the existence of success. He believes that there is no success in this world, only endless pursuit.

Let’s analyze the word success from a human perspective.

First of all, success must be related to events. Without events, there will be no success.

So how did the incident begin? This has to consider who is the main body of success? In other words, who succeeded?

We now assume that the subject of success is you. The subject is you, and naturally the feeling of success is also based on you. Next we will think of the beginning, development and end of events related to you. How did the incident begin? This incident was done by you, and of course it was caused by you!

So why do you do this? Was it something you did accidentally, or was it something you had planned and wanted to do for a long time, or was it simply something you didn’t want to do? Does something you do unintentionally make you feel successful? I don't. Even if this thing is successful, at least it is not a good feeling that can last for a long time. To use a Chinese proverb to describe this kind of thing that is done unintentionally, it is the feeling of being unlucky. There are surprises but no long-term satisfaction, and I am embarrassed to show off on the table.

If you don’t want to do something and you have to do it for some reason, will you be happy after it is done? Will you feel satisfied? Do you feel you are successful? I can't, and I don't think you can either.

Okay, just think of it as something you want to do. Putting aside the process of doing it, doing something must have two consequences: doing it well and not doing it well. So if you don't do it well, it will naturally not be considered a success. But if you do something well, is it considered a success?

If it is a small thing that you think is insignificant, you only want to do it because you may need it, but it is not worth it at all. Praise, will you feel successful? Will you be so excited that you shout that I succeeded? I don't think you will. So this must be something you really want to do. You have a strong desire to make it happen. When it's done, you'll have a strong sense of satisfaction and excitement.

Okay, let’s take a look at what success is based on the above discussion. First, you are the subject of success, then there is what you really want to do, and then you accomplish it, and then the most important thing is that you gain a strong sense of satisfaction.

We can see that success is actually a feeling. Whose feeling is it? Be the subject of success how you feel. How do you feel? You are happy and excited, and you also have a unique sense of satisfaction. You are willing to tell others about what you have done, so that others can feel your joy.

So I want to give a new definition of success: Success refers to the sense of satisfaction and excitement that people get from doing something they really want to do.

So when we do things, no matter how big or small, as long as it is what you want to do and it is done through your efforts and you are happy, then you will succeed.

Don’t take success too far away, and don’t take success too easy. Success requires your efforts.

Those who think success does not exist are actually people who constantly define new goals. They also get happiness from what they do, and they have succeeded.

What does success mean? Successologist Dr. Carr believes that "Success means many good and positive things. Success means personal prosperity: having a good home, vacations, travel, novelty, financial security, and having your children enjoy the best conditions." . Success means being praised, having leadership, and winning the respect of others in your professional and social circles. Success means freedom from all kinds of worries, fears, frustrations, and failures. Success means self-respect. Pursue greater happiness and satisfaction in life and do more for those who depend on you for their livelihood. "Indeed, success means many, many things, and the above description can be unlimited according to each person's different understanding. extended.

But at its core, what is success?

Success actually has two meanings. First, society recognizes the value of individuals and gives individuals corresponding rewards, such as money, status, house, respect, etc. The second is to recognize your own value and be full of confidence, fulfillment and happiness. But people often ignore the latter meaning of success, thinking that only when society recognizes us and others respect us, we have lived a successful life, and only when we are surrounded by flowers and applause, we have reached a successful moment. ; And just thinking that you are successful is not only meaningless, but also suspected of arrogance.

In fact, a person can only truly succeed if he has a high opinion of himself and believes that he will succeed. The reason for this is also very simple, that is, it is impossible for a person to give others what he does not have himself. If a person feels that his life has no value, how can he create value for society and ultimately be recognized by society?

We have lived in an environment that teaches us to be "self-effacing" and "self-controlled" since childhood. There are many life mottos such as "The rafters that stand out will die first", "Be a man with your tail between your legs", etc., etc. We are constantly reminded to suppress ourselves and underestimate ourselves. Although these concepts may sometimes be an external excuse or a self-protection strategy, if these concepts are allowed to spread, they will form a torrent flowing in society, and people will look like sharp-edged people at the beginning. The rocks, in this torrent of concepts that obliterate individuality, have been turned into pebbles without edges over time. They have lost their confidence and even their expectations. They dare not have any bad visions and spend their lives inaction. .

People often say "you get what you expect." If you expect mediocrity, you will get mediocrity. If you expect greatness, you may become great. Li Suli, a model on the bus front, expected to be an announcer when she was in middle school, but in actual work she became a bus conductor. According to conventional understanding, her hopes were dashed and she could give up completely. The original expectation, with the feeling of failure, was to be an ordinary conductor, but she was not like this. Even in the position of a conductor, she still required herself according to the standards of an announcer, reporting her station name in a clear and concise manner, and working conscientiously for the conductor. Customer service creates extraordinary achievements in ordinary positions. I remember there was such a TV interview during an activity to learn from Li Suli. A group of actors, singers, and announcers boarded the train crew where Li Suli was serving to observe. Someone asked her if she still wanted to be an announcer. Li Suli proudly said that she was originally an announcer. , the announcer in the car. Her sense of pride certainly did not come after she became a pacesetter or a model worker. This kind of pride must be her consistent mentality. It is precisely because of the undying expectations and pride in her heart that she has been able to keep her pace for several years. We consistently adhere to strict high standards of service and receive heartfelt gratitude and praise from many passengers. It is her undying expectations and pride and the resulting determined actions that establish a new image of the conductor.

People are like a car, and expectations are like the gears of a car, while negative thoughts such as doubt, inferiority, resentment, and sense of failure are like rust spots and dirt in a car engine. When the dirt is removed and the high gear is engaged, the car in life can quickly rush to success, while a person who has low expectations for himself and a low self-esteem is like a smoky old car with only a low gear. As described in a Tang poem, "Thousands of sails pass by the side of the sinking boat, and thousands of spring trees grow in front of the diseased trees." Modern society is a society filled with talents and full of competition. Only those who are confident and dare to act have a chance to succeed. In a survey of successful entrepreneurs in the United States by John Cotter of Harvard University, he studied hundreds of successful cases. He found that a common characteristic of successful people is that they have a high self-evaluation and believe that they Their behavior represents the right direction, and they all have strong self-confidence and enterprising spirit.

Of course, there is another side to life, that is, everyone will encounter unsatisfactory things, and everyone will inevitably have emotions such as trouble, sadness, guilt, and disappointment. When faced with failure, some people will constantly remind themselves that they are losers and wait for the next failure in trembling fear. Failure often comes to these people again as promised, so failure is sometimes self-inflicted. Before the real failure comes, , they have already doubted their ability in their hearts, gave up their efforts, and waited for failure to come.

Successful people also fail sometimes, but they will maintain their self-confidence in the face of failure. They will regard failure as a special case, and they will say to themselves: "It's not like I did it, I will do better"; they will find the positive side from failure, such as "Keep the green hills alive, don't be afraid of not being able to do it." "firewood"; they will make up for their mistakes through positive actions and transfer their negative emotions. Through these actions, they not only regain a high self-esteem, but also prepare themselves for real-life success. For them, failure is the mother of success.

"It is important for people to be self-aware". Its underlying meaning is often to ask people to look at their own shortcomings and not be complacent. The reason is that this kind of "self-knowledge" that focuses on shortcomings has no positive meaning. It only allows people to understand what to avoid, but it cannot tell themselves what to develop. We must know that "a gentleman examines himself three times a day." Although modern people may not meet the introspection standards of ancient gentlemen, they must continue to conduct self-evaluation in life. The direction and content of self-evaluation have a lot to do with people. Just looking at one's own shortcomings is like hearing people say "You can't do this, you can't do that, you are not allowed to do this, you are not allowed to do that..." thousands of times. But never knowing where to go or what to do is a very despairing situation. However, if the direction of self-evaluation is positive and self-affirming, the individual will not only have positive emotional experiences, but will also be more likely to develop good behaviors and produce good results.

Just like the famous saying of British writer Thackeray, "Life is a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile at you; if you cry at it, it will cry at you." The arrival of success Just like a couplet: If you say you can do it, you can do it, and if you don’t, you can do it; if you say no, you can’t do it, and if you do, you can’t do it. This couplet should have a finishing touch, which is our topic today: "Self-evaluation" - do you think you can If you can, you can do it. If you think you can’t, then you really can’t. Don't say anything, I believe in you, defeating yourself is your greatest success!

Success is actually a feeling, which can be said to be a positive feeling. It is a state of confidence and a feeling of satisfaction after everyone reaches their ideal! In short, each of us has a different definition of success! There is only one way to achieve success, and that is to first learn to give what ordinary people cannot give!

Success is achieving the goals you set.

Einstein has a formula: A=x+y+z, where A represents success, x represents hard work, y represents the correct method, and z represents less nonsense. It can be seen that success requires hard work.

Seven habits leading to success:

Habit 1: Face problems proactively

Habit 2: Make decisions before taking action

Habit 4: Win-win thinking

Habit 5: Only by listening can you communicate

Habit 6: Collaboration< /p>

Habit 7: Keep pace with the times and strive to innovate