I remember when I was a child, I asked my mother what is gain and what is loss. My mother once told me that "loss is the stepping stone of gain, and gain is the peak of loss." When I was a child, I never understood the profound meaning of this sentence. Now that I think about it, I don't know why I can understand this sentence so thoroughly.
loss, what is loss? The most basic meaning of the word "lost" in the dictionary is gone, finished. However, what do you mean, nothing, finished? In our life, people sometimes sigh the words "Time flies" somehow, and sometimes even use these words to describe our life.
Yes, the days are passing day by day in our sight. Whenever we weigh its ingredients with our fingers, it appears in our hearts, and we have already lost too much beauty. Now that I think about it, what remains in our hearts is only a few remnants and scattered memories, and sometimes there is a negative thought of sighing. I have personally felt such a feeling, and whenever I think of that experience, there is always a vague feeling of remembrance in my heart.
The memory of childhood is a precious memory for everyone. The happiness at that time and the carefree mentality at that time have already become the envy of us now. People have said that when we are children, we hope to grow up quickly, because when we grow up, we can be independent and do a career of our own. However, when we are adults, we hope that we can go back to our childhood, because now we have our own thoughts and careers, and we are capable people, and we can no longer be as free as when we were children. It can be said that what we have lost is the beauty of childhood, the happiness of childhood, and the carefree life. Now what we are facing is only the happy life exchanged with sweat and tears. Alas! Time is cruel, people are affectionate, and what is lost may not be regained. I just hope that what is lost is inevitable.
well, what do you mean? The most basic meaning of the word "de" in the dictionary is to get and have. Sometimes I really don't know what it is. Some people say that it is just a kind of persistence, and there is no real action. Persistence, what kind of persistence is this? Sometimes I always look for this special persistence, sometimes it is a surprise, sometimes it is a disappointment. In my life, I don't know how many things I get, and I don't know whether what I get is good or bad. However, whenever I get something, my heart is always so calm and sometimes it is a kind of joy.
I don't know what kind of mood I felt when I got my first salary. I remember that I was still 2 years old, working as a clerk in an electrical appliance company. I was originally majoring in accounting, so I was handy for such a summary job. However, when I got my first salary, my heart was always triumphant. Although money was not a good thing for people, the first money I earned was generally a kind of harvest.
Every time I think of what I said, I have another view of gain and loss. In our life, we will always get something and lose something, but between these gains and losses, what we get is not necessarily a good thing, and what we lose is not necessarily a bad thing. We are constantly accepting different people and different things. In our instinct to recognize people and things, we should take the principle of knowing the root of people or things, and don't be lost by the false face. Sometimes it's a pity to lose someone or an accident. The key is to see if such a loss is worth it. The key to gain and lose here is: survival of the fittest.
If you gain, you will lose. If you lose, you will gain. If you don't lose, you won't lose. If you don't like things, you won't be sad about yourself. If you gain and lose, you will be able to recognize the truth. Gain and loss
loss is a kind of pain and happiness, because it is also gained at the same time.
Without the sun, you can enjoy the stars all over the sky; Lost green, got a rich autumn; Lost youth, we have entered a mature life ... Life, we need to enjoy the joy of harvest, and we should also enjoy the pleasure of "losing".
Hill silverstein described such a story in The Lost Part: a ring lost a part
It turned to look for it. Because of the lack of this component, it rolls very slowly, which gives it a chance to enjoy the flowers along the way, to talk to the sun, to sing with butterflies, and to chat with bugs on the ground ... which it can't pay attention to and enjoy when it rolls quickly. But when it got the part, because it rolled too fast, it lost all its friends, couldn't enjoy the flowers calmly, and didn't have a chance to chat, so everything became fleeting ...
"Flowers bloom and fall sometimes", and everything had its gains and losses.
Life is equal to people. When you get beauty, you may lose wisdom proportional to it: when you get happiness, pain may be staring at you. Therefore, there are two guests living in the human heart, pain and happiness. You are too happy to wake up the sleeping pain. When you are in pain, happiness will come to you at any time.
Tagore said, "If you shed tears when you miss the sun, you also miss the stars." Tai Weng's seemingly ordinary, but in fact profound philosophical quotes helped us build a bridge-a bridge where disappointment turned into hope and pain turned into happiness. Let us understand that getting one kind of happiness, losing is another kind of happiness, and knowing what we have, we can taste what is true happiness.
the pursuit of a better life is the common aspiration of people. But in real life, everyone will lose something to gain. A small loss can make a big gain; If there is a partial loss, there can be a whole gain. Life is the same.
I lost the green of spring, but I got a rich autumn; Lost youth, it makes us enter a mature life. Losing is a kind of pain, but it is also a kind of happiness, because losing is also gaining.
lovelorn love is first of all a kind of luck, and then a kind of misfortune. Lovelorn, it is necessary for love, because you are so sad, it can be seen that there is still love in your heart; Since you have love in your heart, the other person must have no love, otherwise why do you break up? And love is on your side, you have not lost love, you have won an enviable point on the journey of life, and your life has become rich and your temperament has matured.
people often encounter small failures in their complacency. Compared with the former, the latter may be insignificant, but people often lament that small loss without thinking about what they have gained.
For example, a multimillionaire is likely to be unhappy because he lost his account of two million yuan. A manager may be heartbroken by the general manager's supercilious look. They care about the small disappointments in front of them, but they don't want to think that they are already very proud people. Because of this, many proud people are not as happy as ordinary people. Even millions of rich people committed suicide, and the manager resigned. In the end, these proud people finally became real losers because of their own reluctance.
there are no absolute things in life. At some point, what you lose is also gained, and what you get is far more than what you lose. Milton, the great English poet, wrote his most outstanding poems after he was blind. Beethoven, a great German musician, wrote his most outstanding music after his hearing loss. Paganini, a world-class violinist, is a strange man who plays genius to the extreme with the strings of suffering. They are called the three eccentrics in the history of world literature, but one is blind, the other is deaf and the other is dumb! The reason why they have achieved that is precisely because they have a normal heart and don't care about gains and losses. The scientist Beveridge said: "People's best work is often done under adversity. Mental stress, even physical pain, may become a spiritual stimulant. " In fact, "disability" is not terrible, what is terrible is that you can't face up to reality. Don't lament the unfair fate. Fate has always been just. If it is lost in this respect, it will be compensated in that respect. When you feel sorry for the loss, there may be another unexpected gain.
There is a story about a young man who, when he was still wearing open-backed pants, couldn't remember the day when he found a bright spot on the wall in front of his door, shining brightly in the sun. From then on, I missed it so much that I lingered and looked up. Finally, one day, the young man who grew taller gradually decided to climb up and have a careful look. It was a dangerous wall for a hundred years and was unattainable. Close, close. Finally, the trembling hand grabbed it. It turned out to be a broken toothbrush. He is so disappointed and depressed. Things always change like this. Before that, the young man had a good mood. Once I got the toothbrush, I lost my old good mood. This is as the Buddhist scripture says: "Loss is gain, and gain is loss."
There is really a thin line between gain and loss in our hearts. What we think is that we are proud. If you think that you are lost, you are frustrated. Therefore, Yan Hui lives in a mean alley, and he can also be proud of it by eating and drinking. The king of Qin unified the six countries and annexed the world, but he could also be frustrated in the meantime. About what you have will be lost, and what you lose will be gained; If you get more, you will increase, but you will not feel happy. If you lose a little, you will be afraid. If you lose a lot, you will lose again and feel no pain. If you gain a little, you will be very happy. In this way, pride is not the cause of frustration, and frustration is not the cause of pride?
On a deeper level, we can't control our greatest success or failure in life. The greatest gain in life should be "life". Isn't it the greatest gain that we get life from our parents? Because if we don't have this, we will have nothing in the future's, which is the root of it. The biggest loss in life should be "death". When this moment comes, we will throw away everything we have gained, including our own life. Isn't this the biggest loss? The biggest gain and loss, we still can't grasp, and what is there to care about?
It is recorded in Confucius' family language that one day the King of Chu lost his bow when he was traveling, and the people below wanted to look for it. The King of Chu said, "No need, my people found my bow, but the Chu people got it anyway, so why bother to look for it?" When Confucius heard this, he said with emotion, "It's a pity that the heart of the king of Chu is still not big enough!" "Why don't you say that someone dropped the bow, and naturally someone picked it up? Why bother to care if it is from the State of Chu?"
"If a man leaves a bow, he gets it" should be the most open-minded view of gain and loss. As far as we are concerned, there are gains and losses; As far as all mankind is concerned, is it not the same? It's like clouds coming and clouds going, rain coming and rain going. There are always sunny and rainy places in this world. Just like life and death, death and life, everything in this world always carries on the past and lives on. So gain and loss, in the end is nothing at all, and nothing at all!
people who suffer from loss and gain are always very upset all their lives. They are hesitant about the choice. They originally had something they didn't need and were redundant, but they tried their best to make these things increase instead of decrease. Worrying about these things all day long is harmful to physical and mental health. Instead of worrying about losing it, I don't know how to let it go, but it's better to be relaxed and happy, isn't it?
As long as we face up to the gains and losses of life, the moon is still bright even if it is missing. Life is still beautiful even if there are regrets.
If you know the gains and losses correctly, you may lose them if you get them. No matter what you get, you might as well remind yourself from time to time. In this way, you will cherish it when you get it, and you will not be at a loss when you lose it.
don't be sad about "losing", because things in the world are inherently impermanent. All we can do and should do is cherish it when we get it.
if you can't give up what others have, you can't get what others don't have. People who can live lose more and gain more. As long as you think about it, you will have a feeling of relief.