Recently, after listening to Fan Deng's thoughts on reading, I listened to a book "Mom knows what to do", which mentioned the key to the consistency of children's family education, and I felt very much in agreement, because it cited an example. In family education, mothers are strict with children, and fathers are relaxed with children, so that children can clearly know where the boundaries and bottom lines of parents are, and they will abide by the rules in front of their mothers, because she knows that they will not be punished by their mothers. But she knew that her father was generous to her, and naturally she didn't need to restrain herself. After a long time, it has a great influence on the formation of her child's character. At an early age, she is a two-faced person. I'm worried when I hear this, because that's what our family is like. I'm not at home at ordinary times, and the child's father can't take care of her. He eats, sleeps, brushes his teeth and does his homework to finish the course. Dad has no shock, but he will keep repeating it in the child's ear, but the child is unmoved. One of his most common words in front of children is: Your mother is here.

Because of this problem, I also talked to her father several times. The first conversation occurred when the child sometimes lost his temper and hit her father, and her father told her not to listen to anything and accomplish nothing. However, her father is such a character and is not good at communication. Sometimes I find it difficult to communicate with him. He has no idea how to communicate with children. But fortunately, the child loves him very much and protects his father very much, so sometimes I classify the phenomenon that the child is not afraid of his father as one of the stages in the child's growth process. After all, love is the most important. Her father really loves her and she loves her father very much.

But it was not until I knew the importance of consistency in family education that I felt that this was a long-term conscious problem for us as parents. We should always remember to be consistent in the process of getting along with children, and I want to lower the requirements for children. At the same time, let the father insist on some principled issues and don't indulge the children without a bottom line.

As for the importance of the consistency of family education to the formation of a person's character, I feel that some people and things I met at work recently can show me a negative textbook. Some people are really two-faced, completely different from their predecessors. These people are really terrible and are not worth making friends with. I don't want my children to become such people in the future, so I still want to improve my practice and pattern as a mother and create a good growth environment for my children.