As Dickens said, "This is the best time and the worst time." We are living in such an era, which is the best and the worst. There are many opportunities in this era. As long as we can catch them, the times will take us away. Of course, there are also many helplessness in this era. We try to catch it, but we may also miss it. Everyone is thinking, trying, acting, succeeding or failing. But not every attempt will be successful, and not every wrestling can get up, so we began to be confused, began to do subtraction for our own lives, and tried to get rid of our complicated relationship with the world.
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Once, I was confused and anxious. I cried countless times in the middle of the night, got a salary of 800 yuan, lived in a house shared by eight people, a small rental house that leaked when it rained, and quarreled with the rental agent ... Although you may not have experienced all this, the sad past is different. In the worst year, I went back to my hometown on National Day and suddenly felt particularly comfortable at home. The comfort zone I tried to escape from, and now I want to come back. I began to try to comfort myself and settle down. No problem. I tried to break away from my relationship with the world and do subtraction for my life.
Although my hometown is small, it has always been in line with modernization, and the streets that are not wide or long are full of cars; People always compare whose daughter marries better; Whose house is bigger; Whose car is more expensive ... I suddenly found that I couldn't fit into this atmosphere, maybe not because it changed, but because I changed, and I couldn't go back to that hometown. I have walked far enough to find my way home. I gradually understand this cruel but real reality: I can't go back. So, I put on my backpack and returned to Beijing again.
After returning to Beijing, I began to try to get out of my comfort zone, take part in activities, and look for a breakthrough opportunity that suits me. On the recommendation of a friend, I joined an English speaking organization called Toastmasters at the weekend. There, I began to practice my English public speaking, met different people and listened to many stories. Although I have never experienced other people's lives, I seem to have participated in other people's lives through stories shared by others. As luck would have it, I was facing a job change at that time. I survived the whole day in the English interview because I regained my English here. Luckily, I got the job.
As Jobs said, "You can't see the future from this point; Only when we look back can we find the relationship between them. So you must believe that in your future life, those dots will be connected in some way. "So, when we were young, we added something to our lives. When we are old, when we look back, we will find that these things have brought you rich returns.
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My junior high school classmate Xiao Bing and I are in the same city, Beijing. However, because of the long distance and traffic jams in Beijing, it is rare to meet once a year. This spring, we met, and she told me that she quit her job as an editor in a stable and panic-stricken publishing house, and now she has turned to headhunting, aromatherapy and psychology. I was particularly shocked at that time, how could she do so many things at the same time.
She told me that she especially liked the Hollywood actress Liu Yuling, and Liu Yuling said something that had a deep influence on her. "I work hard to make money so that I can live well even if I don't work, so that when I don't like that job, I can leave without wronged myself, because my sister is rich and I don't care." She said that although she didn't like her previous job, she was not qualified to give up, so she used her spare time to do more things she liked to add color to her life. What she can do at her age is to keep adding value to herself. Now that she is rich, she begins to focus on what she likes to do.
She has been studying psychology and aromatherapy, at the same time, she is also studying chemistry knowledge in order to combine it with her own aromatherapy. She is now doing various aromatherapy projects with her friends and preparing aromatherapy products for her friends. Now she exudes the elegance of a French woman. That kind of beauty is from the inside out, full of vitality, connotation, agility and aura, which is much more shocking than plastic surgery and beauty camera.
She has been contributing to her life and adding value to her life. This kind of wealth is not just money, but the temperament and cultivation that emanate from the whole body.
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At present, the hottest "slash youth" is only added for life. Slash youth (English name Slash) comes from the book Double Occupations written by The New York Times columnist Marek Alber, which refers to a group of people who no longer meet the lifestyle of "single occupation" but choose a diversified life with multiple occupations and identities.
We have seen many "slash youths", such as Li Xiaolai (GRE teacher/best-selling author/Internet player/richest bitcoin/socio-economic god), Classical (entrepreneur/career planner/lecturer/best-selling author), founders of the new elite, and many such Daniel. They are all doing addition. They try to make achievements in different fields at the same time, so that they have more than one label. They use their powerful influence to call and inspire more people.
Many people think it's not good to do addition and don't want to have too much contact with the world. Beyond the world, indifferent to fame and fortune. But we have overlooked one thing: we do addition in order to qualify for subtraction. Therefore, the correct way to open life should be: add first, and then you are qualified to do subtraction.
The qualification for subtraction needs to be accumulated step by step. Don't do subtraction when you are old enough to do addition.
Alicia