Introduction:

Men and women in the world will experience a lingering or passionate love story from falling in love to getting married. Some feelings are as strong as fire, and some are as plain as water. But in reality, The marriages that make it to the end are all dull couples. Those men and women who were once crazy about love parted ways and broke up for various reasons after getting married.

Some people say: Love or marriage, when you have it, you must cherish it. And when you really lose, you must also learn to let go in time.

However, there are some people who, after getting divorced, wandered outside for a period of time and experienced the hardships and hardships outside of marriage. They regretted it when they couldn’t find the direction of life and had nothing to rely on. They couldn’t help but sigh: The lover is still the original wife. good! I want to go back and ask to get back together.

Regarding whether to get back together after a divorce, let’s listen to the inner thoughts of three people who have been through it:

01 When my wife asked for reconciliation after cheating, my mother said: This woman can’t do it

"I don't ask you to love me again, I just ask you to look back for me one more time."

Whenever he thinks of his ex-wife's words, the 42-year-old Mr. Liu feels incomprehensible. At first, his ex-wife disliked her. When he had no money, power, house, or car, those mocking and sarcastic words still rang in his ears.

Three years ago, his ex-wife cheated on a rich and handsome man and left him and his children. Mr. Liu never dreamed that his wife, who was willing to break up with her family because of love, would fall in love with a handsome and rich man. , which became a lingering shame and nightmare in his heart.

Mr. Liu and his wife are college classmates. His wife is beautiful and lively, and she is a popular figure in school. But Mr. Liu fell in love with his wife at the first sight, but he is a poor boy. In order to be able to After chasing the girl he loved, he tried his best to work in his spare time to support his girlfriend. Precisely because he was born in a rural area and has a strong body, when the two of them were out one time, he met some gangsters who were teasing his girlfriend. As a result, he was beaten until his nose was bruised and his face was swollen. He protected his girlfriend thoroughly and finally captured her heart.

His wife’s family conditions are good, and his parents-in-law opposed their marriage at first, but his wife took a fancy to his sincerity and married him despite the pressure. For this reason, he has always been grateful for his wife’s deep affection. He swore that she would never be burdened or poor in her life, and she would work as a rental agent in her spare time.

The initial sweetness was eventually consumed by the daily daily necessities of firewood, rice, oil and salt. The wife began to complain, complaining about her poor life and being reluctant to buy even luxury cosmetics, let alone buying a house, a car and high consumption. When he saw his wife and a man coming out of the hotel, he realized that his wife of three years had betrayed the holy love in his heart.

Poverty really limited his imagination. He underestimated his wife's love words that she wanted to grow old together with him forever.

The more passionate the love, the more painful the divorce. His wife left without hesitation, which became a pain in Mr. Liu's heart. However, he did not expect that it was his wife's ruthless and hurtful words that inspired his fighting spirit. .

He sent his one-year-old daughter back to his hometown, left his original employer and engaged in real estate development with several classmates. In those years, real estate was booming, and they continued to expand their business. In just three years, In 2006, he went from being an amateur taxi driver to becoming a company president, and all the things his wife laughed at him back then became a reality.

But only three years later, the rich man who cheated on his ex-wife was caught for taking drugs. She begged desperately to go home and see her daughter. Looking at her ex-wife's pitiful eyes, she was no longer as beautiful as before. He only had I sighed in my heart, the years are so ironic.

The ex-wife’s intention is self-evident. She wants to return to him, but her classmates don’t agree. To be honest, he has been single in the past few years, not because he still has her in his heart, but because one marriage hurt him so deeply that he did not dare to have feelings.

In order to win him back, his ex-wife used her classmates' connections to intercede, and even used the emotional card that her daughter could not lose her mother. He looked at his daughter's reaction to her mother's unfamiliarity and her contradictory eyes, and his heart ached. She was so determined to leave at the beginning and never thought about how her daughter would live with him. Now she sees that his conditions are ten times better than those of the wealthy man back then. She cried bitterly and begged for forgiveness.

The old woman in the countryside did not agree with their remarriage. Although she was uneducated, she also knew that a woman who cheated on her during marriage was not a good woman in the first place. For the sake of enjoyment, she abandoned her husband and daughter, divorced for three years, and never came home to see her children. Such a woman is too cruel to do anything like this.

Mr. Liu is a filial son. He is very aware of the contempt and hardship that his wife and children have endured in his hometown after his ex-wife left him. Now the pitiful way his ex-wife is confessing in front of him has made him firm in his thoughts; he cannot If he gets remarried that day and is in trouble, he can't guarantee whether his ex-wife will turn around and leave again.

02 Her original family was unfortunate, and domestic violence made her refuse to remarry

“Please, let’s remarry, I promise not to beat you.” This is a man who was divorced less than a year ago Ask her again.

34-year-old Ms. Wen and her ex-husband Mr. Liu were introduced to each other. Although the two families were of the same family, Mr. Liu, who grew up in a single-parent family, grew up with his mother's doting.

Ms. Wen was beaten by her husband two months after she got married. At first, she thought it was because her husband was in a bad mood and went crazy after drinking too much. Although her arms were bruised at the time, she could not wear them anymore. No one knew she was beaten. In her heart, she doesn't want others to know about her family affairs.

From then on, she treated her husband more gently. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, she was a considerate and good wife. However, she was afraid that her husband would be unhappy, so she always kept herself very low and low. She thought that as long as she was good to him and her mother-in-law, her husband would love her, her home would be as warm as spring, and a flower would bloom in the greenhouse even in winter.

Unexpectedly, less than a month later, at the dinner table, her husband thought her cooking was too bland and tasteless. She just said, "I don't think so!" The husband picked up the plate and threw it at her head, causing blood. When the tears came into her eyes, she suddenly realized that her husband was prone to domestic violence.

The mother-in-law hurriedly went to pull her son away, but the more she tried to persuade her, the more she became confused. The grumpy man picked up a chair and threw it at her.

Later, she realized that due to the misfortune of her original family, her mother-in-law was divorced because of domestic violence by her ex-father-in-law. When he was young, he would lose his temper and throw things when he was slightly dissatisfied. Her mother-in-law always complained that she did not have sex. Handling the relationship between husband and wife properly will cause children to feel insecure.

She was afraid that her family would not have peace, and that her parents and colleagues would know that she was being abused. She wanted a divorce, but her mother-in-law cried and begged her: "Don't get a divorce, okay?" My son is very pitiful. He used to be very sensible. I advise him to live a good life with you in the future.

It is much more difficult for a person to make the choice of divorce than to make the choice of marriage. ? ——Kokubu Yasutaka

She believed her mother-in-law’s words and divorced her at the first sign of marriage. Her mother did not agree. She believed that as long as she worked hard, she would definitely be able to change her husband’s violent tendencies. She forgave her but made her husband beat her harder. When he beat her late at night again, he still cursed: It makes me happy to see how pitiful you are when you are beaten. The more you hide and become silent, the more I want to beat you.

When she heard her husband's vicious words and twisted smile, she woke up from a dream. She was married to a lunatic, and her compromise would only make herself more hurt, so she decided to divorce.

Unexpectedly, a year later, her ex-husband came to her door and kept harassing her to get back together. Now when she saw him, her legs were shaking and her heart was in knots. How could she get back together with him.

03 Ma’s baby boy makes women feel aggrieved

“Those who get married should not talk about divorce lightly, and once divorced, don’t expect to look back. Remarrying after divorce is the most important thing in life. An unforgivable stupid mistake."

When Xiaoli saw this sentence, she was shocked. Just now her ex-husband came to her to ask for reconciliation, but she was still hesitant. Now she is more determined and cannot agree to reconcile. He remarried.

It is said that when young couples have conflicts, they try to reconcile but not divorce. When they divorced, her mother also advised her not to be impulsive, but she was really fed up with her ex-husband's inaction. Xiaoli had to listen to his mother's words in everything, which made Xiaoli intolerable.

Call her husband a coward. In fact, he is also a good person, but he is confused about things. Xiaoli once said that her mother-in-law’s food was not delicious, but her husband said it at the dinner table without thinking. When I came out, my mother-in-law turned dark, threw her chopsticks and said, "You think the food I cooked is not delicious, you can cook it later."

The most unbearable thing for Xiaoli is that her husband obeys her mother-in-law in everything. She always goes back to her parents’ home to visit relatives on the second day of the Lunar New Year. But her mother-in-law says: Your sister only comes back once a year. Your wife cooks at home and the family reunites.

As a result, Xiaoli entertained her eldest sister’s family of three at her mother-in-law’s house, and she couldn’t even return to her natal family. When she complained to her husband, he said that she was ignorant and that her sister rarely came home. Your natal family is close. You can come back anytime.

In fact, what made Xiaoli angry was not that she would return to her parents' home one day, but that her husband only obeyed her mother-in-law. During the three years of living with her parents-in-law, Xiaoli felt that she had no freedom at all. He said several times that he was away from home. My husband always gave up renting a house because he was afraid that his mother-in-law would be unhappy.

There are many things like this. She wanted to travel, and her mother-in-law said: How can I have the comfort of home and spend money outside? My husband just gave up.

She wanted to change to a better mobile phone. As soon as she mentioned it, her mother-in-law said: Isn’t it just to answer a call? Is it necessary?

Seeing her husband nodding in agreement made Xiaoli feel bitter. What made her even more angry was that everything they said in the house changed once they got to her mother-in-law. Her husband's attitude made her see clearly her position in the family. Xiaoli couldn't bear to marry a man who had no sense of responsibility and sense of responsibility, and didn't even have a hint of manhood. Therefore, she had no choice but to divorce this mama's boy.

Conclusion:

Regarding whether to get back together after divorce, everyone’s experience is different and it depends on the situation. However, from the confessions of these three people who have experienced cheating, whether they are men or women, Those who cannot get back together, not to mention those who do domestic violence, and those who have no independent opinions and are controlled by their mothers. My simple analysis is as follows:

01 Cheating men and women will never be forgiven

Regardless of men or women, if they cheat within marriage, it means that they have betrayed their marriage and family in their hearts. Such people have the third Once comes a second time, not to mention that Mr. Liu’s ex-wife has not seen her daughter for three years after the divorce. Such a woman is really not worthy of being a wife and mother.

Women despise men who have no money and power. They cannot share the joys and sorrows when they are in trouble. When they are down, they cannot turn around and ask for forgiveness, let alone remarry. As the saying goes: A good horse will not turn back to eat grass. You must know the tears of women. It's the most worthless thing. Don't cry and mess up your heart. You won't be able to find a way to regret it.

02 Domestic violence is the most undesirable for a man

Domestic violence is the most unforgivable thing for a man, and beating his wife is the most incompetent sign. No matter what the reason is, it is reasonable to reason, but not to The man you shake your fist at, stay away as soon as possible.

Because there are only zero and countless domestic violence cases, if you choose to forgive the first time, he will think that you approve of it in your heart. If you still endure the domestic violence the second time, it will be hopeless. Women must be strong in life and stay away from domestic violence men. No matter how hard it is, they cannot live with such men.

03 A son who cannot be independent in personality is the stupidest

A son will always leave his mother’s arms when he grows up, but this husband listens to his mother in everything. Although he is married, he His mind is still immature, he seems to be financially independent, but his thoughts are not independent. He dare not refute his mother's words. He acts like a submissive, timid and timid donkey. What is the use of a man who has no independent opinions and cannot live independently? ?

Marriage is first and foremost a matter between two people. If you still seek the opinions of your parents on everything after marriage, like an unweaned child, you will never grow up. Such a man will not have a successful career. The achievements made.

Because he does not think independently on many things. A man who cannot be independent in personality lacks the ability to judge right from wrong. If a woman follows such a man, she will only be offended. This kind of man may appear to be filial, but in fact he is foolish and filial. Men who dare not fight for their wives' rights are the most despised.

Suggestions:

As a human being, you must have your own bottom line. For those executioners who destroy relationships, don’t be tempted by their sweet words and crying. You must know that you will learn from the pain. wisdom.

Heraclitus has a famous saying: "One cannot walk into the same river twice" to experience previous pain. People are fickle animals. We learn to protect ourselves from harm. In divorce Learn to grow, but also learn to stop losses in time.

For the above three types of people, I think divorce is really a relief. No matter what method the other party uses to ask for reconciliation, don't agree.

Remember: Smart people will never live in memories, because yesterday’s sun cannot dry your clothes today.

Today’s topic:

If you were unfortunate enough to divorce your partner, would you consider remarrying?