Children from poor families take charge of their families early. This may seem unrelated to early education. In fact, upon closer inspection, the core of the two is the same, that is, how to train children and develop them into talents. . If we dig deeper, we will even find that there is a causal relationship between them.

Although judging from the legend of Nuwa creating humans, all humans are made of the same texture of clay. People created from mud of the same texture should have no differences when they come into this world. But this is not the case. Because everyone is an integral part of the family, and the family exists as an independent individual in a complex society, but there are differences, so people also have differences.

The author is talking about poor people, children born from poor families. Poverty is a form of life and a state of life, of course it refers to a certain stage. There are no eternal poor people in the world, because, like a continuously developing society, a family is a tree that wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop. As a developing individual, it will not remain stagnant in one state forever. Today, we have almost a quarter of the world's population, but our resources and land cannot keep up with the growth. Therefore, similar to the African continent, we also have the largest number of poor people in the world. No matter how big or small a family is, children will always be born. From childhood to adolescence, and then to youth to adulthood, this requires a process. Speaking of such a process, we have to face the problem of education. Children from poor families becoming parents early is not so much a state of life, but rather a way of education.

Newborn children include precocious children who only understand in five months, and ignorant children who only call out "mom" vaguely and "wow" when they are hungry in three years. The accumulation of experience is carried out in a certain environment. Some are born in peace and happiness, have no worries about food and clothing, play with puzzle car models, and watch large color TV sets; some are born in sorrow, lack of food and clothing, and crawl in the mud. Roll inside. A few years later, some children went to aristocratic kindergartens and enjoyed high-quality education and entertainment; some children went to the streets with their parents every day to buy groceries and deliver water, experiencing the hardships of life early. Life has created children from poor families, which invisibly enhances their ability to accept difficulties. Therefore, children from poor families may not necessarily feel the pain. They follow their parents and do what they can. Three to five years later, as they grew older, they began to take on some of the household chores, such as collecting firewood and buying soy sauce, and became a small "labor force." In addition to receiving education from books in school, they also have to receive care "rewarded" by poverty. Not only do they not enjoy the treatment of children from wealthy families, but they have to worry about their own food, clothing, housing, transportation and education. The living environment and family situation when they were young gave them the idea of ??changing their lives at a young age. It is not an unworthy honor for children from poor families to take charge of their families at an early age, nor is it a patent of this group. Children from poor families shoulder the responsibility of the family prematurely, which will inevitably shorten their childhood. Early leadership is reflected in their understanding of the environment, their adaptation to conditions, their ability to independently solve things, and their young shoulders to bravely shoulder the mission of changing their own destiny and even the destiny of their family.

Although it is not the truth that children from poor families become masters early, it is better than the truth. The meaning of truth does not firmly determine that children from poor families must think about improving their conditions, nor does it mean that they must use their immature shoulders to shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family, nor does it mean that they must break the old and introduce new ones to deduce "a poor family is defeated". Of course, it is not a farce of "being a monk and clockwork every day". Human instinct allows them to re-recognize this society, and the inspiration and temptation of a bright future makes them learn to reject, reject their own environment, limited material conditions, and the situation of food, clothing, housing, and transportation. They no longer accept the ignorance and imbecility brought by poverty to them. Instead of taking everything as ordered, they learned to fight and challenge fate. Of course, their rebellion will naturally have to pay a price, so it is they who pay the huge price. Although they are young, they first understand the principle of "fighting to seek death, not fighting and waiting for death". It is better to seek death than to wait for death, and maybe there is a chance of survival.

With the decisiveness to risk everything, their determination to face reality, and their courage to bet on their childhood, their behavior of fighting against life is precisely the original ideology of their early leadership. In other words, they accepted a severe test of survival and future in their childhood! This kind of quality education cannot be found in textbooks and is beyond the reach of classroom teaching. A massive quality-oriented education has blossomed in the minds and bodies of poor children, and each of them has taken a solid first step in life, laying a solid foundation for their future study, life, and work.

Chen Sheng, a native of the Qin Dynasty, said: Do princes, generals, and Xiang Ning have the guts? From ancient times to the present, there are many poor children in history. There are many poor children who have achieved great success, entered the palace, and become marquises and prime ministers. Speaking of ancient times, the great educator Confucius, the great strategist Su Qin, the martial arts sage Guan Yu, the famous general Han Xin of the Han Dynasty, the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty Zhu Yuanzhang; Dao Jin, the commander-in-chief Zhu De, the founding marshal He Long, General Peng who stood up with his sword and horse, and the famous painter Qi Baishi, the great inventor Edison; today, Mengniu Group President Niu Gensheng, the famous comedian Zhao Benshan, the famous actor Guo Donglin, the famous football stars Ronald, Dinho and so on. There are so many, too many to mention! Children of the poor, this is a title with inherent regret. No one can change the environment in which they were born, no one has the right to choose their parents, and no one wants to live in poverty. However, congenital deficiencies can be improved. Children of poor people learned the skills to survive after undergoing a severe test. Not only did they take the first step, but they also used their courage and infinite willpower to survive. Wisdom is building their bigger dreams. Comrade Mao Zedong once said, "Children from poor families will become masters early." It did not become a wise saying because it was taught by a great man. It is true that facts speak louder than words. The poor children used their unique martial arts secrets to create miracles one after another and write capital letters one after another. Obviously all achievements must be attributed to the first lessons poverty taught them.

The confirmation of history, the personal experiences of the ancients, and the words and deeds of great men have pushed children from poor families to become parents early to an unprecedented commanding height. It can be said that the harsh living environment, material scarcity, and impoverished spiritual leadership have turned into advantages and become a hot golden yam in the indomitable struggle of poor children against poverty. Poverty is a wealth, no doubt about it!

Facts have proved that: for children’s education, whether they are children from poor families or children from wealthy families, we should cultivate their independent personality from an early age, train them to learn to endure hardship, and train them to understand the risks of future society and Learn to avoid. Enduring hardship and becoming a master early is no longer the exclusive domain of children from poor families, but also a learning version for children from wealthy families. Compared with a high education fund and a cost-free early quality education, it is clear how much freedom there is.

Making the title like this and adding why in the middle of the famous quote is definitely not the author’s attempt to impress people, but the hope that more parents and wealthy children will read this book with questions, and she will be interested in you. The growth of your children will be beneficial to the formation of your own quality!

Chapter 1 Understanding Life and Challenging Poverty

An Innate Living Environment

The first thing everyone does when they come into this world is Crying, which means he is unfamiliar and curious about the world. The character traits of all people who come into this world are just as stated in the "Three Character Classic": In the beginning, human beings are inherently good. They were born from the mother's body with the exploration of this world in mind. The good here does not mean kind and good, but good. No matter what the motivation is, they live for the good. Newborn babies have the right to a good life in the future. Of course, everyone wants a good life. But the living environment of the family is different. Some were born in rural areas, some were born in cities, some were born in teachers' families, and some were born in migrant workers' families-----Three hundred and sixty industries in the world People of all kinds have to reproduce and cultivate offspring, so with the birth of a child, family conditions inevitably mark their children as poor or rich.

After birth, children from poor families naturally do not receive the preferential treatment that children from wealthy families receive after birth. They can only sleep in swaddling clothes that are much cheaper than duck down quilts, with their little faces flushed and crying while eating breast milk. Mothers who are worried about malnutrition may be weaned at any time. Unlucky children who encounter mothers who have no milk can only eat cheap milk powder to satisfy their hunger, or even use millet porridge and brown sugar instead. Obviously this is detrimental to the child's development, but ignorant children will definitely not be able to remember this. This is actually an interesting story. Children from wealthy families are far beyond the reach of children from poor families, from prenatal education when the embryo takes shape, to delivery in a high-end maternity hospital, and to feeding with high-quality dairy products. The author is not going to add a few words to heighten the atmosphere, but to say that there is an inevitable connection between a child's birth and genetic genes, the living environment he will receive in the future, and the education he will receive.

Children from poor families will show more surprises after they have memories, and will ask their mothers a lot why. “Mom, why don’t I have new clothes to wear, but my neighbor’s Xiaobao wears new clothes every day?” “Mom, why does my dad not have a car, and why does my neighbor Xiaoyu’s dad always drive her out to play in a car?” “Mom, "Why is our house so small and dark? Is the neighbor's house so big, upstairs or downstairs?" Mothers usually don't answer such questions. If they meet mothers who have low self-esteem, they will rub their children's butts. Printed with two five-finger mountains. When a child cries, he does not know why he gets two slaps from his mother. This will be deeply imprinted on his childhood mind, and confusion will sprout in his heart. For a young child who cannot think and has no rational thinking ability, He said that this was a potential harm, and he naturally would not have thought that the RMB was worshiping it.

As the child grows up day by day, as he begins to have a vague understanding of things, he also begins to be puzzled by many phenomena, and the number of reasons why he asks his parents gradually increases. It is natural for children to like to ask questions. Their thinking ability is very simple. Of course they have to ask their mother when they encounter something they don’t understand. The author has a neighbor in his rural hometown. His family is quite poor and he has a four-year-old boy. The child's mother is a farmer with little education and never answers the child's questions. The child's father is a sanitation worker, and his monthly income is three "old man's tickets." The child can only eat basic snacks, not to mention eating foreign fast food and drinking fruit drinks. The dim and sensible child is the most curious at this time. He subconsciously thinks that his father is the richest. He often purses his lips and says to everyone, "My family has a hundred yuan. My father said he will bring it tomorrow." I went to the city to buy candied haws. I can buy a lot of candied haws." This shows how innocent the child is. In his eyes, one hundred yuan is the most money in the world, and candied haws are naturally the most delicious food in the world. This awareness will not affect the child's perception of new things in the future. He only has such an understanding in a short period of time. When he becomes sensible, he will naturally not say that candied haws is delicious, nor will he put a hundred The most money in the world before the block. Naturally, he will regard what he said at that time as the most ignorant thing, and he will also feel resentful about not eating enough candied haws in the past. And when he becomes sensible, he may enjoy a gluttonous candied haws feast through his own labor income. But children from wealthy families are different. In their impression, the RMB is far inferior to the US dollar and the Euro. Even if it has a face value of 100, it is not the largest money in the world. Candied haws on a stick is not a delicacy. They only know that all the vegetables and grains are bought by their mothers from the supermarket. They have no idea that the grains and vegetables are grown by the farmer uncle with a hoe. They also asked their parents a lot why, "Why do TV stations only audition for Super Girls and not Super Boys?", "Since children in mountainous areas have nothing to eat, why don't they eat hamburgers?" "It's so cold while riding a bicycle in winter, why?" Some students ride bicycles, why don't they take cars? "The problem is the same ignorance, but the taste is different.

In their minds, they don’t know how superior their environment is. Naturally, their thinking patterns are not the same as those of poor children. Poor children think about how to make a little money to satisfy their desire for delicious food, while wealthy children think about how to make a little money to satisfy their desire for delicious food. Other people's children think about how to spend money, and the starting point of their thinking has undergone fundamental changes under the influence of the environment.

No matter how different the environment is, superior or deficient, early guidance and education are very important. The environment is innate, and education is acquired. When a poor child faces a deprived environment and asks his parents why, if he relies entirely on buying candied haws or the "grace" of "Wuzhishan", such a child will obviously not be in a good mood, because his parents will ask him why. If the ball is kicked back as it is, he may not dare to ask again in the future, because he is afraid that if he asks again, he will encounter the same result, so he can only dwell on it. Without the guidance of his parents, his dull thinking can only be done behind closed doors. , and even distort the child's imaginative thinking, which will prevent the child from correctly treating the environment around him. Generally speaking, rational parents from poor families will take the trouble to patiently explain to their children the reasons for such a family environment, explain how to get out of trouble, explain the difficulties of parents' hard work, and teach their children to learn cultural knowledge to change themselves and their families. Although children are often puzzled by their fate, they can also feel the hardship and hard work of their parents in their ignorant psychology. From an early age, they know that even such a difficult family environment comes from the hard work of their parents. Their young minds I learned early in school that only hard work can change the status quo, that only by learning cultural knowledge well can change the poor environment of the family, and that only by going to college and getting ahead can change one's own future. When they were still the governor of Mongwu, they learned a profound lesson. Although this lesson came from the mouth of their parents, the direct imparter was their poor family environment. Therefore, when they were very young, they learned that people need to adapt to the environment and change the environment themselves, rather than the environment adapting to people and the environment changing people.

The family environment of children from poor families stimulates them to realize their own shortcomings subconsciously. They do not have expensive clothes, delicious snacks, parents who know everything, or bookstore shelves. There are no parenting books on the Internet, there are no bright and clean rooms, and there is no large-denomination red and green pocket money. Naturally, they have more "why" in their hearts than children from wealthy families. Before their "why" can be treated and explained correctly by their parents, Later, they began to desire, start to think, and began to hope for things. They also had an urgent pursuit and perception of a better life in the future. Under the teachings of their parents, they knew that if they wanted to have the above things, they had to rely on themselves. From this time on From the beginning, their independent character was formed after receiving stimulation from their parents' education and family environment.

This period is the best period for education for the children of Governor Hazy, because their ability to understand is relatively simple and they have biases in understanding things. They have very clear and clear definitions of good and bad in their impressions at this time. Perceptually, they have no ability to distinguish, and they have no ability to distinguish right from wrong. They only have a partial knowledge of things. Their attitude towards things, good or bad, is often determined by their partial knowledge. Such partial knowledge is of course the initial education of parents. The result, with words, actions, and the simple personality charm of the parents. Therefore, it should be the best time to provide appropriate early education to children at this time.

A person's growth and success are bound to be affected by the environment. If children from poor families can get the correct enlightenment, education, correct understanding of the environment and the correct understanding of the environment when they are misty governors, With a correct understanding of the future, future success is natural, because they already have the minimum conditions for success: that is, not to be afraid of difficulties and to advance despite difficulties! Of course, children from wealthy families are not without merit, but their understanding of life is much simpler than that of children from poor families. Relatively speaking, children from poor families have more advantages in self-success.

Although we cannot change our innate shortcomings, we should still keep up with acquired improvements in a timely manner. It is not enough to simply rely on environmental education. It is also necessary to pay more practical attention to children's early education based on the stimulation, influence and needs of the environment.

The impact of the environment on children is very real. In order to prevent this realistic impact from causing unnecessary harm to the physical and mental growth of children, parents should transform unfavorable factors into favorable factors and grasp Accommodate children's psychological needs and turn educational obstacles caused by the environment into an educational tool.

3 Thinking patterns stimulated by poverty

Children from poor families have suffered hardships in life since childhood, and they will compare their families with wealthy families.

Big house VS small house, braised pork rice VS potato chips and millet, burgers VS sweet potatoes, fruit drinks VS saccharine water, cars VS bicycles deeply stimulate them, although they are not yet complete thinking, but in their ignorant hearts they are seriously dissatisfied with such treatment. They may ask for the same treatment as their parents do for children from wealthy families, but the result will definitely be that their request will not be answered. So they wonder why? Why can others live well, eat well, and use good things, but why can’t I? Their first thinking comes from thinking about the poor environment, and it is not exclusive. They think in their hearts that other people's families must be good. There is no family worse or poorer than their own. Subconsciously, they will think that through their parents' Answers to clear up the doubts in your mind.

At this time, parents from poor families used patient and meticulous persuasion to tell their children that things in this world are not innate. If a person wants to have these, he must fight and rely on them. You and your parents cannot be relied upon. After all, your parents will die one day.

After experiencing this series of unequal treatment and the teachings of their parents, children have simple thoughts in their hearts. They understand vaguely that if they want to live in a big house, they must Labor, if you want to no longer suffer from poverty, you have to get ahead. How can you get ahead? The inner chain of children's hearts triggers a variety of thinking, which plays a vital role in training the child's thinking ability and correcting the child's attitude toward independent life. Therefore, whenever he encounters something in the future, he will first think about why?

Of course, parents’ education of their children cannot stop at language. It is more about training their children’s hands-on ability from an early age, starting from doing housework, to participating in family labor on a small scale, until indirectly contributing to the family. Generate financial income to improve family environment. When parents see their children becoming more independent, they must give positive recognition to their children's labor and achievements, so that they understand the meaning of labor and the concept of labor creating value and improving the family environment. Participating in family labor not only exercises children's will and endurance, but also enables them to master certain labor skills. It also cultivates their sentiments. The most direct effect is to teach children to think. And gradually formed a fixed thinking pattern.

After early education of children, children not only have the ability to think independently, but also understand that they must rely on themselves for everything, which is more effective in cultivating children's independent living habits from an early age.

Four. If you are poor, you will want to change, and if you change, you will succeed

A young man lost all his money in business. He was very depressed and felt that he was at the end of his rope and that there was simply no way he could survive. He heard that studying philosophy could make him an official, but after becoming an official he still worried about having no money. One day, he found Socrates, told Socrates his experience and expressed his desire to learn philosophy. Without saying a word, Socrates took him to a river and suddenly pushed him into the river with force. The young man thought Socrates was joking with him at first and didn't care. As a result, Socrates also jumped into the water and desperately pushed him to the bottom of the water. At this time, the young man really panicked. His survival instinct made him use all his strength to lift Socrates away and climb to the shore.

The young man asked Socrates in confusion why he did this. Socrates replied: "I just want to tell you that whatever you do, you must have the determination to survive in desperate situations. Only in this way can real gains be obtained.

Later, the young man started from scratch with a little capital given to him by Socrates. A few years later, he became the richest businessman in the area.

This story tells us that poverty is not a lifelong condition. As long as you have the courage to fight against poverty, you will have a better life. As parents, when we educate our children, we must also instill this idea in our children: poverty is not terrible, but we must be good at thinking and have the courage and determination to challenge difficulties. There are no permanent difficulties and no permanent poverty. Many children from poor families use this spirit to overcome the short-term difficulties and achieve success.

Brother Jackie Chan grew up in a poor family and dropped out of school early. Life forced him to follow the crew and do some chores in the crew. By chance, he won the favor of the director and played a stand-in role. As a result, His acting talent was noticed by the director, so he began to get involved in film acting. Today, Jackie Chan is already an internationally renowned superstar. Football superstar Ronald Dinho is also a child from a poor family. He once lived on the streets in his worst days. However, in order to change his poor destiny, he decided to play football to earn money to improve his poor life. At first, he worked as a caddy for the national team, but by chance, he turned over and eventually became a superstar.

There is an old saying in China: "If you are poor, you will want to change"! The author here would like to give this sentence to those children from poor families. Don’t be afraid of poverty, don’t be influenced by difficult living environment, and don’t live just one day at a time, because everyone will be rewarded as long as they pay. Parents and children from the same wealthy families can still succeed in such a difficult environment. What's more, your starting point is much higher than that of children from poor families. Why worry about yourself and your children not succeeding?

It must be affirmed that whether you are poor or rich, early education is very important. Early education not only comes from books, but the most important thing is from physical and mental exercise. As long as you have a good early education, the quality of hard work, and the ability to think independently, you will definitely have a brilliant anchor on the road of life!