Appearance is the hue, while value is the mind.

Appearance represents a person’s hue.

In terms of value, it is the appearance of a person in his bones.

Because value is the essence of your soul. Spokesperson.

A kind word will keep you warm for three winters, but a bad word will keep you cold for six months.

The value of words here is not rhetoric to cater to others.

This can only be hypocritical self-deception.

These are all excuses to vent your anger.

Being outspoken and outspoken is not enough wisdom.

There are two ways to attack people.

One is to attack the body, and the other is to destroy the soul through language.

It is a tangible weapon that can hurt human flesh and blood.

The pain of the flesh will heal after some time.

The attack on the soul is a viral attack weapon.

It hurts people invisibly and attacks their vital points, their souls.

It is imprinted on the heart and will not heal for a long time.

The perpetrators are either relatives or enemies, and most of them are the former.

The negative emotions produced:

They range from low self-esteem, self-blame, irritability, and arrogance to widespread pessimism, indifference, and pain. Blame yourself.

In serious cases, it can range from self-abasement, resentment and attack, to self-repression. It’s so serious that you give up treatment and life.

Emotionally unstable, irritable, apathetic, and slow to react.

Influence on social functions:

Decreased ability to study and work, inactivity in study and work, failure to take the initiative, failure to achieve results despite hard work, frequent mistakes, screw-ups, and missed opportunities. , hesitant.

The so-called indifference to the world may seem calm on the outside, but it is already turbulent on the inside.

In terms of interpersonal communication, people tend to be nervous and prone to interpersonal conflicts, do not like to interact with others, avoid real conflicts and problems, and are indifferent, aggressive or ingratiating.

It would be unworthy of a gentleman not to avenge this kind of hatred. To avenge this kind of revenge would be too hurtful.

Those who hurt others will also hurt themselves, and those who hurt themselves will also hurt others.

The sword in your heart must first pass through yourself before it can be shot at the other person.

Then the perpetrator not only has to bear the guilt of his conscience,

but also feels guilty and self-blame for it.

So, do you want to take revenge or not to take revenge?

Report, must report.

Anyone who understands psychology knows this rule:

How a person has been treated in the past will

treat others in the same way.

Once attacked,

has been fully mastered and internalized and has its own self-upgrading function.

Here we analyze "revenge" from a psychological point of view. I’m just sharing the attack mode of “The Killer” in the hope that people who read this article can gain some understanding. If you don't dare to judge others, please don't judge them, let alone analyze your family members through psychological analysis. If it can give you some inspiration and help you better understand yourself and your family, I will be happy to praise you.

The psychological analysis of "Avengers" is as follows:

There are four points to share with you:

First, change your appearance and kill with a borrowed knife,

Hold high the banner of justice, kindness and integrity,

Stand on the highest point of morality,

Use various theories or famous figures,

As a powerful Anti-personnel weapons,

to attack each other (the closer the person is, the stronger the attack force, because attacking outsiders will cause death, at least not so safe),

All this stems from When I was a child, I was "taught" by the "head" of my family, and I learned a lot of boyish skills.

Second, there is a knife hidden in a smile, which may appear to be a joke or a slip of the tongue, but actually hides murderous intent.

Hide the true identity of the killer (the highest level of hiding is to forget that you are hiding),

As a civilian, use joke tricks to shoot hidden arrows.

Or use slips of the tongue to attack to defend against inner hostility

Use the state of "selflessness" to attack,

As long as you deceive yourself, you can Be non-hostile when attacking,

avoid frontal conflicts, defend against counterattacks, and protect yourself.

Even if the victim cried out in pain, the injury was purely accidental,

Because I really had no intention of hurting you,

It was you who wrongly blamed me, You have wronged me, you are too sensitive...

The victims have nowhere to complain,

The perpetrators have no place to feel guilty and blame themselves.

A case of intentional injury turned into a pure accident.

Even the person who hurt the person did not know it.

Psychologist Freud once said this: "There is no such thing as a joke, all jokes have serious elements."

Third, silence, indifference and isolation.

Of course, not all silence is an attack. Sometimes silence is to better protect the other party, because words will hurt people as soon as they are spoken, so silence is best.

Indifference and isolation are a silent attack.

It is a kind of inner disdain and contempt.

The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference, and it has nothing to do with you.

The second and third types above are derived from the tricks learned from the "vulnerable groups" in the family.

Fourth, use self-attack, self-destruction, and self-destruction to attack the other party, making the other party feel guilty and self-blame.

All human problems are related to relationships.

The Buddha has three kinds of enlightenment: self-consciousness, awareness of others, and awareness of perfect conduct.

Mr. Liang Suming proposed that there are three relationships that need to be dealt with in life:

The relationship between people and themselves,

The relationship between people,

The relationship between man and nature.

Let me ask you

If you don’t understand yourself, how can you understand others?

If you don’t understand your own heart,

How can you communicate with the other person?

Even if it is material exchange,

you still need to know how much you are worth.

If you don’t understand yourself,

Even if someone understands you, you will mistakenly think that they don’t understand you.

If you don’t understand yourself,

it is easy to be drowned in other people’s values ????and judgments.

If you don’t understand yourself,

How to love yourself in a better way?

If you don’t understand the other person,

How can you love the other person?

If you raise a pot of flowers, if you don’t understand it, it may wither.

If you raise a small animal and don’t understand it, if you feed it your favorite chocolate, it will get sick and die.

If it is your children, parents, lover, or friends,

you don’t understand them,

just treat them in the way you are accustomed to,

What will be the result?

In the end, you hurt others and yourself.

How can we understand ourselves?

If you are willing to invest time and money,

you can find a counselor to explore life with you.

Psychological counseling is not just about solving psychological problems.

It is more about promoting one’s spiritual growth.

You can also take principled psychology courses,

psychoanalysis, painting psychology analysis, dream interpretation courses, etc.

Share several methods of self-awareness in daily life:

Psychological perspective: cognition?emotion?behavior?habits

The behavior behind each habit It's all driven by emotions (there are ten thousand reasons for doing or not doing something, and almost always choose to do what makes you feel comfortable). Behind emotions are cognitive concepts rooted in the heart. ,

The seeds of cognition are from the time we are born,

they are constantly buried in various seeds in life,

especially in In an unconscious state,

it is the best hypnosis to be influenced by the ear, the eyes, the eyes, and the subtle influence.

We ourselves don’t know what system we are using,

But it has gradually become a habit.

To understand yourself, start by being aware of your daily habits:

1. Habits of verbal expression,

2. Habits of dealing with problems

3. Habits of rising emotions

4. Habits of thinking

5. Unintentional singing, slips of the tongue, mistakes

Behind every behavior is Your unknown self.

The value of words is a mirror of oneself,

reflecting the appearance of one’s own soul.

Others are also a mirror of yourself.

Seeing others is seeing yourself.

Only when you have it outside and in your heart can you see it.

It’s not there outside, but it’s there in your heart, and you can see it (in psychology, this is called projection, and it can also be said that a villain’s heart is used to judge a gentleman’s belly).

It is there outside, but not in your heart, so you will turn a blind eye and listen but not hear.

Blind=death+eye=?

Some people were illiterate in the past, but now some people are blind.

Illiteracy will affect life achievements,

And mental blindness will make your soul feel like it is in hell.

There is such a famous saying to encourage everyone,

Psychologist Jung once said:

If the first half of your life belongs to someone else, < /p>

Live in the opinions of others.

Then give the rest of your life back to yourself,

Follow your inner voice.

I look forward to sharing with you how to deal with emotions in the next article.