Why is this?
William James, a psychologist at Harvard University, said that "the most urgent need in human nature is the desire for others' approval".
Longing for others' affirmation and praise is exactly what human beings need, but few people can really praise others. Even if someone replies "Hello, awesome ...", it's just a superficial compliment, but in my heart I'm sighing "What's so great about him, I just didn't do it."
Fortunately, I met such a Bole-Mianmian.
A reader who pays attention to the circle of stay-at-home mothers, a member of the book club and an influential navigator.
I always give people strength inadvertently, and I am getting richer and richer.
Do not hesitate to praise others, be sincere and natural.
It is not a compliment, not a simple compliment, but a heartfelt concern for others, so that others can feel their own value.
Mr. Carnegie said, "You must treat others as you want them to treat you."
Being affirmed and praised by others is exactly what we need and what others need. To be someone else's bole, you need to learn to affirm and praise others.
Mianmian's affirmation made me feel inferior and began to see myself clearly, which also gave me upward energy to go up;
Mianmian's affirmation made Ma Chen more and more confident, and she also signed up for Golden Sentence Training Camp, constantly empowering her.
Mianmian's affirmation has strengthened her dream of loving painting;
Mianmian's energy field has aroused many people's energy vibration, and they began to write calligraphy, striving for Maya, Pearl, Ruima, Dandan ....................................................................................................................................
And this is the power of praise!
Learn to praise others, make others realize their importance and win their own social coins.
In the Internet age, our social interaction is more online virtual social interaction, but this does not affect our sight and sincerity.
1, caring for others from the heart.
2. Let others feel their importance.
3. Let the other party show themselves more.
Social life, marriage and parenting are all the same.
When we learn to be a partner's bole, discover the advantages of our partner and affirm it, there will be unexpected magic.
When we learn to be children's bole, after discovering children's little moves and affirming them, it will inspire children to have a better side.
Believing in the good side of children often motivates them to become better.
When we want to change others, sometimes praise is more convincing than accusation. Finding the good side of the other person, even if it is a small side, and affirming it will continue to give others energy.
Just like the picture book "Did you add water today", when we keep adding water to other people's buckets, our buckets are also rich; When we go to scoop someone else's bucket, our bucket will be empty.
Learn to be someone else's bole, and give affirmation and praise in time, preferably sincerely and from the heart.