1. The first step in humor is to learn to laugh at yourself. Know how to be quiet about yourself, instead of going to great lengths to brag and flaunt yourself. Instead, you just use your wit to impress others and make people truly attracted. To make fun of yourself is to look at yourself from an ordinary, interesting, and imperfect perspective, giving others a chance to breathe, and allowing yourself to fall from the distant throne and laugh with all living beings.

2. Expand the scope of knowledge. Humor is a manifestation of wisdom, and it must be based on rich knowledge. Only when a person has the ability to assess the situation and has extensive knowledge can he be able to talk richly, make witty remarks, and make appropriate metaphors. Therefore, to cultivate a sense of humor, one must read extensively, enrich oneself, constantly collect humorous waves from a vast sea of ??books, and extract humorous gems from the essence of celebrity anecdotes.

3. Cultivate sentiment and treat reality optimistically. Humor is a manifestation of a spirit of tolerance. To be considerate of others, to learn humor yourself, to learn to be graceful and generous, to overcome preoccupations, and to be optimistic at the same time. Optimism and humor are close friends. If there is more fun and relaxation, more smiles and games, and more optimism and humor in life, then there will be no difficulties that cannot be overcome, and there will be no suffering people who frown and worry all day long. .

4. Cultivating profound insight, improving the ability to observe things, and cultivating the ability to be witty and agile is an important aspect of improving humor. Only by quickly capturing the essence of things and using appropriate metaphors and humorous language can people feel relaxed. Of course, while being humorous, we should also pay attention to the fact that important principles should not be careless. Different problems should be treated differently. We should be extremely flexible when dealing with problems, and be humorous without being cliché, so that humor can provide real value for human spiritual life. nourishment.

A person's degree of fun can be divided into three types from easy to deep:

"Funny"->"Humorous"->"Funny"

『 "Funny" - We describe a person as funny because he expresses witty and interesting words and actions, or looks funny and funny. To put it simply, he is funny. This kind of behavior is more popular and easier to use. The more you ignore the image, the more vivid it can be. But usually as you grow older, you will gradually become disdainful of the need to put on an image. This trait can be innate. The clever configuration of your facial features makes people laugh when they see you. I don’t know whether it’s joy or sorrow when someone describes you as looking funny. Funny does not require practice or mental thinking. If you add dramatic and exaggerated body movements and replace "image" with "pictogram", it will definitely bring short-term joy to the people around you.

『Humor』- Since it is "subtle and full of wit", it is definitely not as simple as pretending to be a monkey or a dinosaur. You must start from the heart, your thoughts must move faster than others, and use ingenious arrangements to create incentives so that your audience can gradually and spontaneously understand your leading thoughts and smile knowingly. Being able to tell jokes does not mean you understand humor. You must know that jokes are just fish caught, and they do not mean that you are a good fisherman. Humor is not innate, but can be developed. Your mental flexibility, diversified thinking, and accumulation of joke inventory will enable you to cultivate your sense of humor more effectively.

『Funny』 - Humor is elegant and thought-provoking. It is a kind of temperament that exudes from the bones, which is the highest state of humor. There is no need to use exaggerated body language or actual jokes to convey witty words and deeds that are full of wit and wit. They are the perfect crystallization of wisdom and experience. Everyone has two sides to everything. If the shortcoming of being funny is that it is not stable enough, humor can barely be labeled as frivolous, but "funny" has no negative side. Using the most witty words or techniques at the most appropriate time to achieve humorous but far-reaching effects requires years of experience and a happy and healthy mentality.

"Sense of humor" is a necessary life skill for modern people and an important key to survival in the 21st century. However, the strange thing is that there is no academic institution that teaches or provides such profound and profound knowledge. courses. A person without a sense of humor is like a disabled person whose limbs are petrified and his brain is hardened. The air around him is solid. Being with him really makes you want to throw yourself into a well and escape from this boring and boring life as soon as possible. life. On the contrary, a person with an upper-level sense of humor is definitely wise and experienced. He can bring you surprises and joy everywhere, resolve embarrassments in a funny and clever way, and get out of predicaments beautifully in a reversible way.

The popularity and extent of humor in Chinese society are not as good as those in Western countries. It may be because we have so many tying principles that we “don’t dare to make big mistakes” and “can’t make mistakes”. Dare to commit the crime", but it is helplessly limited to the range that can be accepted by the public. However, the situation has improved slightly now, society is more open, and the country's supreme leader is inevitably treated as a humorous topic. People are gradually liberating themselves, understanding humor and enjoying humor.

As for how to cultivate a sense of humor to achieve better interpersonal relationships, I boldly provide my opinions for your reference. The easiest way is to learn from the many jokes. I have made a very simple collection and analysis here to share how to flexibly apply these jokes in daily life and transform them into your own unique humor. feel.

Roughly classified into seven categories:

1) Exaggerated type

Example: A father and son were rushing down the mountain. Halfway through, the father accidentally slipped and fell. Going down the valley, the son anxiously shouted towards the valley: "Dad, are you okay? Are you injured?" Dad said: "I don't know, I haven't landed yet!"

This type of method is most commonly used. And it is powerful, simple and easy to understand, and can be used immediately. Usually the more exaggerated the better the effect. It is best to leave some room for the audience's imagination, and they will naturally smile knowingly when they finally think of it. A friend of mine has a dog at home. Before people go there, they always ask if the dog will bite. He said, "No, I just haven't seen him since the last time a friend came alone." The exaggeration must be just right and the exaggeration is original, so that people will admire your humor skills as superior to others.

2) Disgusting type

Example: Two beggars went out to look for food in winter. Because of the cold weather, they could not find it. Suddenly they saw a pile of vomit on the roadside. They had no choice but to , and had to treat the vomit as food. After a while of pushing, Beggar A had no choice but to eat the vomit. However, after the food was in his stomach, he felt nauseated and vomited the food out again. In an instant, he saw Beggar B swallowing the filth as if he was flying. Beggar A asked doubtfully : Why didn’t you eat when I asked you to eat just now, and why are you eating now? Beggar B replied: "Because it's cold, I prefer hot food." 』

This kind of humor must end in nausea. The worse, the better. This is why when good friends get together to eat, they often talk about defecation, which makes elders curse and ladies avoid. topic, but good buddies are talking about it, and they are spitting out of control. The experimental report has been proved: "Talk about feces while eating, the more you eat, the more delicious it becomes." However, be careful not to use it frequently for nausea, otherwise people will I think you are also a person with a dirty mentality.

3) Sounds and meanings are similar

Example: The neighbor smiled and asked: "Mr. Li, where are you going?"

Mr. Li: "Oh, I We are going to "Yonghe"!"

The demonstrators surrounded us angrily after hearing the news!

"What? He's going to "have nuclear weapons"!? Flatten him! Flatten him!"

This type of humor is also a beloved way of humor, starting from "handsome" in the 1970s Brother, "Cricket" brother, to the "You are the best!", "You are the most slutty!" in the 1980s, to the recent "Ganlin" series, they all use Chinese unique homophone changes to achieve funny results. It is both easy to use and interesting, so this trick is accessible to almost everyone, suitable for all ages. It is also an indispensable and important element in humorous literature. Next time someone says you are "sexy", you can say: "Yes," you are shy and "sexy". When your friends ask you what your hobbies are, just say "studying the Milky Way" and "sexy marriage", but you must remember , the different sounds and meanings are time-sensitive, usually cannot be reused, and can only last for a period of time. If you tell someone now: "Wow, you are such a handsome guy," "Haha, cricket's cricket, hahaha," I'm afraid your friend will freeze there, dumbfounded, and freeze to death on the spot.

4) Unexpected type

Example: The boss called a staff member and said: "You have been working in our company for a year. At the beginning, you were only responsible for distributing letters. After one week, you He started handling sales matters, and was promoted to regional manager of the sales department one month later, and vice president in just four months. Now that I'm retiring, I want you to be the new president and general manager of the company. What do you think? ! 』

The clerk said: "Thank you..."

Boss: "Is there nothing else to say?" 』

Staff: "Thank you...Dad..."

This trick must first grasp the audience's psychology and achieve the effect with unexpected results. It is considered a higher level. humorous way. Because the speaker must have a certain amount of common sense, and the listener must have basic logic to succeed. The listener will laugh because he has fallen into your ideological trap, laughing for the unexpected results, the joy of surprise, and the joy of surprise. Laughing at your boring behavior. When I go to a restaurant, I always ask the waiter what’s better? "Our most famous one is the New York Prime Filet Mignon. The meat is delicious and juicy. Now the special price is only 680 per order. Do you want to give it a try?" ”, I said: “Okay, give me a piece of pork chop rice, don’t add onions. "It's a pity that this trick has been overused and some of my friends have seen through it. It seems that I have to think of some new things."

5) Nonsensical type

Example: Tom: "This is twenty dollars. Please bring me a piece of bread." 』

Shop owner: "The price of bread has increased, it's 30 yuan a piece." 』

Tom: "When did it go up?" 』

Store owner: 『This morning. 』

Tom: "Oh, please give me yesterday's bread." 』

This new style made Stephen Chow famous. It can be regarded as an alternative way of humor. Its characteristics of not following the rules and inexplicable logic make Zhang Er Jingang puzzled. You are talking about something, he is thinking about something, and it is funny because of its unusual thinking. Some are unintentional and some are intentional. It may be just a sudden flash of inspiration, or it may be a carefully planned presentation of noble wisdom at the moment. So you can also call it "unclearly typed".

6) Comparative type is not established

Example: Final exam of the biology department of a certain school. The old professor was carrying a birdcage covered with black cloth, with only the bird's legs exposed. The question of the test is: Based on the observed bird legs, write down the species of the bird.

A certain student prepared hard for several weeks, but ended up taking a test like this without taking any test. He didn’t know how to... When he got angry, he slapped the table and handed in a blank paper in advance without writing. Name! !

The old professor was very angry and asked the student to leave his name...

The student just pulled up his trousers, exposing his hairy legs, and said to the old professor: "Guess who I am? 』

This method covers the widest scope and contains the most conditions. In fact, it uses the "substitution method" in logic to assume a logical but untenable comparison. Sound deep? Let me give you an example: There is a situation that often occurs in variety shows. Let’s assume that the dialogue is as follows:

Guest girl: "My singing voice looks like Faye Wong, right?" 』

Kangkang: "If you were Faye Wong, you would probably like me." 』

Guest girl: 『Why? 』

Kangkang: "Because I am Nicholas Tse!" 』

Yes, "hypothesis" actually plays a very important role in humorology. If combined with flexible logic application, a unique humor style can be created.

7) Arctic Snow, Antarctic Ice and Cold Type

Example: One day, a mung bean jumped from a height of 20 stories

The result ....He turned into a red bean...

Because he was bleeding

"Cold!" is the first feeling you have after listening to it. This kind of thing belongs to genius. Idiot humor makes you worry about which side of the line the speaker is on. It’s best to wear more clothes when going out with this kind of people, because you have to beware of the cold wave coming at any time. Please ask these snowmen, can you pay attention to the low air pressure around you at any time to see if your friends are spitting out white smoke and their bodies are worse than after urinating? It was shaking violently for a moment. If so, please shut up and stop torturing us.

Of course, there are many types of jokes, such as "political satire" and "local customs", but since these are more difficult to implement in daily life, we will not go into them here. I hope you can get some inspiration here and then use your own wisdom and experience to integrate your personality and background to shape your personal humor style or develop innovative ways of humor.

Humor can make children happy, old people regain their childlike innocence, men fall in love with them, women fall in love till death, enemies lose their guard, friends become more loyal, King Yama loses his patience, and gods become mortal.

Wow! It's so amazing!

Practice more and see. You must dare to speak to be useful. Hope you can make progress.

The most important thing is to adapt to changing circumstances, and to have a bright mind.

Apply common jokes to your daily life.

You don’t have to read jokes, you can also read some comedies, or humorous books, or hang out with humorous friends; look for themes from them, and you may be able to apply the themes. In life, use those themes to make yourself look like a joke or the protagonist in a comedy

Although humor is good, there are three taboos!

1. Don’t take others as a joke, and don’t always take others as humor

2. Humor in moderation is best; don’t keep being funny. Click till then.

If you use enough humor, people will regard you as a humor master.

If you keep being funny, people will just think you are a clown. I don’t think you are a master of humor!

Having a sense of humor may not be important in China, but it is a high praise for people in Western society, because it not only expresses the easy-going and amiableness of the person being praised, but also can be serious and calm. The atmosphere brings vitality and shows a high degree of wisdom, confidence and ability to adapt to the environment.

A sense of humor is like the spark produced by striking a stone, a moment of inspiration, so you must have a high degree of reaction and wit to come up with humorous sentences. That language may resolve an embarrassing scene, or it may Talking and laughing can serve as a warning, and may serve as non-explicit self-defense and counterattack.

For example, in the parliament, an old member beat someone with a cane. Someone suggested that people entering the venue should hang their canes at the door. At this time, if the speaker accepts and votes, no matter what the result is, the result will always be It was unpleasant, but fortunately he came to a quick wit and said with a smile: "If in order to prevent improper actions, the crutch needs to be hung at the door of the meeting place, the mouth should also be placed in the safekeeping place." The whole audience laughed, and the proposer also smiled. case, the embarrassing scene was resolved.

But I must emphasize that humor is not satire. It may be mildly sarcastic but not hurtful; it may target others or oneself. And in this, it also shows the magnanimity and confidence of the humorist and the person being humored.

I once saw a bald man change his face when others laughed at his baldness; conversely, I also saw a bald newspaper editor, when others laughed and called him extremely smart. Shi actually smiled and replied: "You underestimate me, I have already been extremely smart!" Do you think, if he hadn't been quite confident, how could he have been able to accommodate others and just keep silent?

< p> Therefore, the more open and affluent a society is, the more humorous people are; the more closed the environment is, the harder it is for humor to exist. The reason why it doesn't exist is not that people don't have the wisdom, but that they don't have the mind; it's not that people have too strong self-esteem, but because of their inferiority complex. The most important condition for a humorist is a complete and sound personality.

On March 30, 1981, when President Reagan was assassinated, White House Press Secretary James Brady was seriously injured. The bullet was shot from his forehead, and he fell to the ground with blood on his face. News of his death was reported by many news organizations because no one believed that someone with such severe brain damage could survive. However, in November 1987, James had not only gradually overcome the mobility impairment caused by damage to half of his brain, he was traveling with his wife on horseback, and he was as humorous as ever. During the interview, what impressed me most was when he said: "A sense of humor keeps me going. Misfortune can hit me, but it can't hit the depth of a sense of humor!"

You said, this What is a sense of humor? It is an optimistic attitude in facing different environments!

Well, a sense of humor is so important, let’s talk about how to cultivate your own sense of humor.

A school was conducting an exam, and the teacher said to the students while invigilating the exam: "In today's exam, we ask the students to 'guarantee household production' and not to follow the path of 'people are equally wealthy'." This person The teacher's words aroused a knowing smile from the students. They knew that what the teacher said was that they were not allowed to provide convenience to each other and they had to answer their own papers. But the wonderful thing about the teacher's words is that he did not directly state the discipline of the examination room. Instead, he used two professional words from rural reform: "household responsibility" instead of "answer your own papers", and "*** and prosperity" instead of "mutual prosperity". help". Because the clever metaphors of "household guaranteed output" and "people are equally wealthy" were incompatible with the tense and serious atmosphere in the examination room, forming a strong contrast, a sense of humor arose. This kind of humorous method that does not directly express something, or does not directly say the name of something or someone, but uses other related words and names to replace it, we call it "pretending to be crowned", which is similar to metonymy in rhetoric ( or called name change) are basically the same.

The first step to humor is to learn to laugh at yourself. Know how to be quiet about yourself, instead of going to great lengths to brag and flaunt yourself. Instead, you just use your wit to impress others and make people truly attracted. To make fun of yourself is to look at yourself from an ordinary, interesting, and imperfect perspective, giving others a chance to breathe, and allowing yourself to fall from the distant throne and laugh with all living beings.

Think about it, what kind of person has the incomparable magic power to attract people, yes, it is humor. We may like to listen to a certain teacher's class, or we may find a certain teacher's class boring. The difference between this, excluding the quality of their teaching, may be to isolate an element, which is called humor. Humor makes people smile, and that is such a joyful thing. There are people who have such magic power and can make people smile as soon as they open their mouths. This is such a wonderful thing.

Making people laugh is such a powerful force that no one has ever measured. However, no one can deny that in a difficult life, everyone likes to be close to people who make people laugh. It is they who help us take off the burdens on our shoulders and the worries in our hearts, in exchange for a moment of relaxation.

If you want to create a kind of personal charm, no matter you are male or female, old or young, beautiful or ugly, clever or dull, the only secret recipe that will not make mistakes , there is only one, and that is humor. On the surface, humor seems to be just about telling jokes, so you might as well recite a few jokes and tell them in a place with many people. It doesn't seem to be very clever, right? Humor can be a kind of charm, it is not as easy as just telling jokes.

In fact, humor is an attitude towards life. Its prerequisites are: a person must be able to fully accept himself and others; be able to understand the heaviness and seriousness of life, and then look at it with ease. The most important thing is , with good intentions, and besides the smart cold eyes, there is also warmth and enthusiasm.

It is an unwise behavior if you only often use hurtful ways to embarrass the other party and make everyone laugh without leaving any words. Thinking that you are smart like that is actually just making it difficult for the other person to step down and lowering your own image. Therefore, people who truly understand humor laugh at themselves rather than others.

Premier Zhu Rongji uses sarcastic language to laugh at himself when giving speeches or talking to people, and the resulting sense of humor often causes lively and shocking laughter.

At the press conference after the closing of the Ninth National People's Congress in 1998, Premier Zhu said at the beginning amidst the flashes of cameras like lightning: "I don't look good, but I hope you can take pictures of me." It has to look good, because my image represents the government."

Humor is a witty language that creates a pleasant psychological experience.

How to be humorous?

1. Lin fall: When the lining part lists things and gradually strengthens the listener's impression, there is a sudden "fall". The listener's expectation suddenly slips into the unexpected, and laughter arises from this.

You have to pay attention - there is a group of people who are looking around for you, saying that they will catch you and will never let you off lightly. One of them is called wealth, one is called smooth, one is called health, and the leader is called happiness.

2. Disambiguation: Separate a sentence with coherent meaning, say half of it first, pause for a moment, implying that the semantic meaning develops in a certain direction, causing the audience to misunderstand, and then say the second half of the sentence, causing confusion. A smile of realization.

3. Distorted interpretation: a distorted and absurd explanation. It does not seek legitimate reasons, but seeks reasons that are not causes. It seeks for plausible reasons, or even reasons that are wrong to the point of the donkey, so that it can enjoy the humor with the other party.

4. Wordy: Deliberately short and long, expressing a simple and clear fact. Have you met Wang Ping? Went to the men's room --- next door.

5. Deliberate use of some major and solemn words or professional terminology to talk about some trivial matters.

6. Contrast: Construct humor by comparing discordant things.

7. Inversion: Reverse the normal relationship of things or the normal order of words to create a comical effect.

8. Pun: Use the polysemy and homonym of language to express two different meanings at the same time, so that the other party will smile knowingly when understanding.

9. Different explanations: give another explanation to the word. To deviate from the conventional meaning and deliberately misinterpret the literal meaning or misinterpret the literal meaning.

What is the issue of humor?

1. Pay attention to the timing, occasion and object.

2. Pay attention to style.

It should generally be elegant and not vulgar