How do 30-year-old middle-aged people get rid of confusion and live the life they want?
As an experiencer who has experienced and walked out of confusion, I want to share with you some experiences of the experiencer:
At the age of 30, I am still confused and have accomplished nothing: if I do these three things well, I will get ahead one day.
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Find your best job
Socrates, an ancient Greek philosopher, famously said that an unexamined life is not worth living.
This means you have to figure out what kind of life you want and never live in someone else's world.
For example:
In the year of graduation, I was rejected by my family because I couldn't find a job. My family advised me to say:
"Why don't you go to be a teacher? How good it is to be a teacher, with face, stable work and many holidays. "
But I didn't follow my parents' advice to choose a career, but chose the internet industry that I was most interested in.
In recent years, in Internet companies, income and ability are steadily improving, which can be said to be much more promising than teachers.
How to judge whether your present job is your major?
A good method is "positive feedback".
1. You are in this company. Is your superior's evaluation of you positive or negative?
2. Is your income in this position increasing or decreasing? Is there room for appreciation?
Apart from money, does this job have a sense of accomplishment? Feel happy?
You can ask yourself these three questions. If the answer is yes, then you are good at this job.
If it is basically negative, you'd better change to a job that suits you better.
At the age of 30, I am still confused and have accomplished nothing: if I do these three things well, I will get ahead one day.
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Be enterprising, don't think about buying a house and a car by salary.
It took me nearly two years to figure it out.
According to my experience and observation, many people around me bought the first car or house, and most of them didn't fight for it themselves.
But with the help of parents.
There is a saying: Five years after graduation, I finally used my hard-earned 50,000 yuan and the 600,000 yuan funded by my parents to go to the 4S shop and buy a new Audi.
Why is this?
Because most young people's life trajectory is like this:
Study hard, get into a good university, find a stable job after graduation, save some money to get married and have children, and buy a house and a car.
But the reality that young people are facing now is that it is difficult to buy a house or a car just by salary.
Because today's college students just graduated, they generally can't get a salary of 5,000 yuan. Even if they get a salary increase of 10% a year, it will take several years to earn more than 10,000 yuan a month. This is still an ideal situation, regardless of negative factors such as unstable career development.
At present, the housing prices in many small counties are generally above 10 thousand.
In addition, today's young people, especially those born after 1990 and 1900, are generally one-child families, and their parents are willing to support them.
Therefore, there are more and more neets now.
If young people want to get ahead and don't want to rely on their parents' help, the best way is to find ways to start their own businesses.
Have a career = have your own customers = have your own personal brand.
What are the good ways to succeed in your career?
We can work hard from these aspects:
1. Kay (Wang) branch
Start a company
Partnership venture
Engage in sideline business
Among them, the last one is suitable for office workers with extra energy. As long as the sideline business does not affect their main business, it not only increases their income, but also broadens their horizons and exercises their social viability.
At the age of 30, I am still confused and have accomplished nothing: if I do these three things well, I will get ahead one day.
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Read more books and play less games when you are free.
Nowadays, young people like playing the glory of the king and brushing Tik Tok when they have nothing to do, but they don't like reading.
A few days ago, a young man moved into my next door. Every day when he comes back from work, he will play the glory of the king with his friends for at least three hours.
I overheard him chatting with a friend one day, and his friend asked him how much his salary was. He didn't say much, just 2500.
If he reduced his game time by 1 hour every day, read books for a while, study how to improve his work efficiency, or find a job with a higher salary, he will certainly live a better life than he does now.
Later, because he couldn't afford the rent, his family called him home to work.
There is a hot question in Zhihu: Is Tik Tok destroying young people in China?
I think: the vast majority of Tik Tok are spiritual rubbish, because the crazy recommendation of the algorithm, the more you brush it, the more addictive it becomes, and in the end it will only become extremely superficial.
I uninstalled Tik Tok a long time ago, because Tik Tok's algorithm is so powerful that it knows what I like, and then it will recommend it to me regardless. In the blink of an eye, my time is gone.
And reading can make a person calm and wise.
Reading is a hard job for many people, but it's really impossible not to read.
Take myself for example, I didn't realize the importance of reading when I was in college, so I went to work after graduation and obviously felt that my knowledge was not enough.
Later, I learned from a bitter experience and decided to get into the habit of reading. Soon, my house was full of books.
The benefits of reading are also obvious, whether it is communicating with people or writing in the workplace, the level will be significantly improved.
Finally, I hope that after reading the article, you will no longer be confused and get ahead as soon as possible.