I don't know if I count. I didn't talk about my girlfriend at the age of 3. I graduated from high school and worked at the age of 19. At school, I didn't dare to fall in love without pocket money. When I started making money, I said I would save money. Later, I bought a house for me and married my wife. When I was 28, I bought a house in the county. In fact, I was very happy. But when I was two years old, my parents forced marriage so badly that I was inexperienced and failed every time.
Depression is different from depression. It is an emotion that everyone has. Its appearance is not necessarily a bad thing. It is an advanced emotion that only people have.
Depression has a sad atmosphere and a sad feeling, which makes people temporarily unable to be happy and happy, and is in a negative and slow state. If we describe a person as a whole, it means that thinking becomes slow, emotions become depressed, will become depressed, energy becomes depressed, feelings become numb, and reactions become slow.
Temporary depression can help people not to be hurt. This is because when we are under pressure or in danger, we need to help ourselves from the outside world. At this time, depression will temporarily isolate us from the outside world and protect us from reality. That's what the so-called lesser of the two evils means.
However, persistent depression will hurt us more. At this time, depression means that we can't attack the outside world and turn our anger into our own. This will cause many of us negative emotions and thoughts, such as guilt, inferiority, despair, helplessness and so on.
Therefore, it is very important to adjust your state in time. Don't be afraid of depression. We need to vent our bad emotions through depression, but don't let it lead us all the time.
I wish you all health and happiness!
For patients with depression, everyone doesn't feel exactly the same. There are several different kinds of feelings: inner sorrow, always feeling sad in my heart, but tears can't flow out, like a blocked lacrimal duct. Sometimes I feel trapped by others, but I can't do anything about it. Also, I have beautiful dreams and plans, but they can't be realized. Over time, it causes insomnia, anxiety and anxiety. My mind is in a daze every day, and I lose my mind. The degree of depression borders on paranoia. Want to get rich, but dare not enter the stock market, want to be an official, but don't join the party, want to be beautiful, dare not answer, want to find a real man, but look at yourself, and feel afraid that others will despise you. I want to buy a house, but I am afraid of being a house slave. I want to find someone to become a family, and I am afraid I will fall into the trap. Wait, wait. With such psychological performance, if you don't adjust yourself psychologically. Very prone to depression. Therefore, it is necessary to do preventive work in advance. If you are afraid of worrying, don't do it. Ask someone who is bold to do it, lest you be forced to suffer after doing it.
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What is depression and how does it work?
"Depression is an emotional disorder, which stimulates black-and-white thinking and introspection, causes excessive dreaming, and then causes physical and mental exhaustion."
The above concept is quoted from Joe Griffin and Ivan Tyrell's book Human Gifts, and this definition of depression is a very cutting-edge view in my opinion.
The book "Human Gifts" also mentions: "Dreaming is a state in which directional reactions run continuously for a long time, consuming a lot of energy reserves. People with depression dream too much, which can consume the energy needed to wake up their attention normally, so that they no longer have the motivation to do other things or get meaningful feelings from their daily lives ... It can explain the whole psychological and biological cycle of depression. "
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Why do so many people get depression?
(1) External factors:
1? With the loose social structure and the mobility of the population, it is difficult for a person to get enough support when he is in trouble.
2? The rising divorce rate.
3? The prevalence of consumerism has stimulated and expanded people's greed and desire.
4? The development of science and technology makes people more and more impatient. When we encounter a problem, we are eager to solve it immediately.
5? Society advocates success and is extremely intolerant of losers.
6? All kinds of uncertainties in life.
(2) Internal factors
The way we understand the world, that is, our attribution style, determines whether we will become depressed when facing bad things. Psychologists have defined three important attribution styles:
1? How do we view our role in one thing? Do we tend to blame ourselves for every setback, instead of thinking that there are other reasons for something going wrong? ）
2? How do we view the severity of a matter? If we lose our jobs, do we think our lives are over? Or do we just regard this incident as a temporary setback and think that we may find other employment opportunities? ）
3? How do we view the persistence of a thing? Do we think that a setback will soon pass, or it will never be overcome? )
If we think that everything is our fault, that if something goes wrong, the sky will fall, and that setbacks will never be overcome, then we are prone to depression.
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What are the main misunderstandings about depression?
1? People with depression just think too much or can't get over it.
depression is not simply thinking too much or thinking too hard. When depression attacks, it is accompanied by a variety of psychological and physical symptoms, and these symptoms can not be rid of by the patient's personal will.
2? Only when you are greatly stimulated can you get depression?
There are many patients with depression who have suffered from major changes in their lives, and there are also some patients whose lives are quite good to outsiders, but they also suffer from depression.
As we mentioned above, the main cause of depression is bad attribution. Of course, this bad attribution has a long-term and slow impact on people,
3? Introverts are more likely to get depression, while extroverts are less likely to get depression.
Depression has nothing to do with introversion and extroversion, but mainly depends on a person's way of attributing things.
4? Is depression caused by physiological factors?
physiological symptoms are the result, not the cause. The physiological symptom is that the long-term negative thinking mode changes the structure of the brain and affects the secretion level of neurotransmitters in the brain.
5? Depression is a mental cancer.
in my opinion, depression is not a mental cancer, absolutely not!
I think this is an irresponsible and even harmful statement for people with depression. In my opinion, it is probably an idea put forward by the manufacturers of antidepressants, aiming at intimidating patients to buy their drugs.
I was a little angry when I heard this statement. Because what people who are deeply troubled by depression need most is hope-a hope to get rid of pain and live a normal life. However, such a statement may greatly frustrate the confidence of patients with depression and cast a heavy shadow on their hearts.
The two authors of Human Gifts said: "Depression is not a disease, but a natural response to some emotional introspection behaviors that lead to excessive dreaming." The authors also said: "This new view on the causal relationship of depression also has clear therapeutic significance."
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What is the difference between Feeling Depressed and Depression?
Almost everyone is depressed at times. Failure in exams, being fired, arguing with others, or even just rainy days may lead to depression. Sometimes it may be depression for no reason at all. Sadness struck so casually. But gradually, the feeling of sadness will always fade away.
But the clinical depression is another matter. Depression is a medical emotional disorder, which cannot be changed by will. It will last for at least two weeks, and it will seriously affect the patient's work status, behavioral ability and emotional life.
There are many different symptoms of depression: depression, loss of interest in usual hobbies, change of appetite, inferiority or extreme guilt, lethargy or insomnia, inability to concentrate, anxiety or dullness, general fatigue, or repeated suicidal thoughts.
If you meet the five symptoms mentioned above: from a psychiatric point of view, you can be diagnosed as suffering from depression.
Not only these behavioral symptoms, but also depression can lead to some brain clinical manifestations.
First of all, some changes can be observed by naked eyes and X-ray detection. These include the detection of smaller frontal lobes and hippocampus (a part of the brain).
From a more microscopic point of view, depression is related to the following points:
Abnormal transmission and consumption of certain neurotransmitters, mainly serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine; The circadian rhythm is chaotic; Or obvious changes in sleep conditions; And hormonal disorders, such as high cortisol (a hormone) and abnormal thyroid hormones.
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What is bipolar disorder (bipolar disorder) and what are its causes?
Bipolar disorder is a common depression, also known as bipolar disorder, because the symptoms of patients swing back and forth between high and low poles-one period of extreme mania, and then another period of extreme depression.
When patients are depressed, they abuse REM sleep and dream too often. In contrast, when patients are in a manic stage, they usually dream less-they work hard and play hard day and night, and only have a very small amount of time for sleep and rest because they feel unnecessary.
Because they stayed up all night, they lacked the key REM sleep and could not reduce their emotional arousal (mania). In this way, the level of emotional arousal is higher and higher until it reaches a critical point, and they plummet into excessive rapid eye movement sleep to make up for the original lack. As a result, they enter a state of depression.
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What is the most effective treatment for bipolar disorder?
For most patients, the most effective treatment is that patients learn to adjust their emotional disorders by themselves, combined with medication. In the stage of depression, patients need to use psychotherapy skills to treat depression. In the manic phase, it is important that patients need to reduce stimulation, such as reducing the use of caffeine, and use relaxation techniques.
It is extremely critical that patients should get enough sleep. In the manic stage, no matter how exciting the patient's life seems, unless he gets enough sleep, his emotional arousal level will rise, which will aggravate the manic symptoms.
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Do you need to take medicine if you have depression?
"The practice recommended by most experts is to combine drug therapy with psychotherapy, but since the publication of treatment guidelines in the United States, more and more studies have shown that if depressed patients can get proper help, they don't need to take drugs at all."
The traditional view is that depression is a physiological reaction caused by no realistic inducement, that is, it is defined as a physiological disease, so the traditional approach is mainly drug treatment.
"Patients take antidepressants, which is a risky original treatment, but many patients do get curative effect after taking them. Why? This is because antidepressants can reduce the time of REM sleep, or help correct the disordered REM sleep and restore the normal sleep mode. "
"Compared with effective psychotherapy and counseling, patients who stop taking antidepressants have a higher chance of relapse, because drugs can't teach patients how to establish an effective internal template of seeking truth from facts to cope with real life."
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What is the most effective method to treat depression?
"The main point of treating depression is that we should use all available psychological methods to reduce the emotional arousal level of patients as soon as possible and stop their negative introspection behavior. In order to do this, we can use any method, as long as it can fully solve the unmet needs of patients, or we can make full use of patients' own resources.
Emotional arousal can hijack our brains and greatly limit our choices, not only our thinking, but also our actions. Once the level of emotional arousal is lowered, most people can integrate into normal life.
When we give psychological counseling to those depressed patients who are trapped in a difficult living environment, the key is that we should draw patients' attention to the outside to solve the problems. We need to break the problems into parts and find practical ways to solve them one by one. "
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How do you find yourself, your family or friends suffering from depression?
clinicians put forward the following signs for reference on how to distinguish depression:
self-evaluation or sense of self-worth declines
changes in sleep patterns, such as insomnia or intermittent sleep
changes in appetite or weight
reduced emotional control, easy to get angry or feel guilty, Or it is easy to fall into pessimism, anger and anxiety
the mood changes a lot in one day
the ability to experience pleasure decreases
the tolerance for pain decreases
the sexual impulse decreases or disappears
it is difficult to concentrate, the memory decreases
the motivation of life decreases-I feel that everything is meaningless or there is nothing worth doing
? How can a friend with depression be helped when his vitality level drops
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Although you are his friend, you are not the one to cure him. The best thing you can do for him is to make him feel that when he is with you, he can be allowed to be depressed without forcing a smile.
Here are some specific ways to support your friends:
Allow silence when you get along.
If he wants to talk about the pain he is going through, all you can do is listen quietly.
Ask some open-ended questions or repeat what he said (such as "Tell me!